Can we please stop with the “you don’t want to parent your kids” bs

[Anonymous]

I work out of the house full time. So does my husband. My kids are 11 and 14 - they handle distance learning by themselves. Every day. Even though they are “doing well”, I, like most, realize the material they are covering and their methods of assessment are pretty sub par with DL. I want my kids back in school ASAP.
I’m parenting them exactly as I would have during “normal” times, if they were in person in school. So please please stop with the nonsense that people only want kids in school because they can’t/don’t want to parent them, or are sick of them, or want someone else to parent them. It’s just a stupid baseless so called argument.

[Anonymous]

It’s a cheap shot. I want to parent in a world with schools

[Anonymous]

The folly of it was pretty well blown up when VA conceded teachers needed their kids to be in school all the days the teachers needed to be teaching. Because, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Agree. It's a cheap shot. They also like to say "school is not daycare' Ok, what's your point? School is for learning and emotional development... and??

[Anonymous]

I’d love for these teachers to tell us how the world can work with all parents working at home full-time, so they can supervise their kids and teachers “don’t have to babysit” them.

I guess that also means we can close school buildings. It would save us so much money!

[Anonymous]

Also because they attend school, I use that time to have a job. If we don't want to offer school, then I guess I can stay home to homeschool them and you, teacher, can go find another line of work. But that's not how we're currently set up to function as a society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also because they attend school, I use that time to have a job. If we don't want to offer school, then I guess I can stay home to homeschool them and you, teacher, can go find another line of work. But that's not how we're currently set up to function as a society.

Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Yeah even if your kids are 11 and 14 you need to parent them.

If they were sneaking out of school when we were in person you would blame the school because in loco parentis. Same thing when they are in your care - if your kids sneak out while you are working you need to manage your kids.

When you come home from work, you make sure they have food, you talk to them about their day, what was hard, what wasn't, make sure they have some kind of entertainment - video games, books, etc.

You parent your kids - yes better if they are in school but is it better if your weak child gets coughed on by a bully and gets to worry they are covid pos? For older kids that is my worry - kids running up to each other coughing in faces; stealing masks, etc. I don't think that will happen with younger ones as they are monitored more.

[Anonymous]

So true. Its total BS. Then you also hear teachers complain that parents are taking kids to run errands. Are they expecting the world to stop operating because of DL.

[Anonymous]

I wish we never started down that path. I went to a Reddit teacher sub a month ago to better understand the stress that teachers and how difficult DL is from their point of view. I wanted to understand and sympathize. What I found was that most teachers posting there hate their students, hate their students' families, and think that DL is a perfectly find education substitute for in person learning that is disliked only by selfish people, mostly women, who want "free" childcare or the opportunity to go to the gym.

I can't unread what I've read, unfortunately, I and it has impacted my views on public education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah even if your kids are 11 and 14 you need to parent them.

If they were sneaking out of school when we were in person you would blame the school because in loco parentis. Same thing when they are in your care - if your kids sneak out while you are working you need to manage your kids.

When you come home from work, you make sure they have food, you talk to them about their day, what was hard, what wasn't, make sure they have some kind of entertainment - video games, books, etc.

You parent your kids - yes better if they are in school but is it better if your weak child gets coughed on by a bully and gets to worry they are covid pos? For older kids that is my worry - kids running up to each other coughing in faces; stealing masks, etc. I don't think that will happen with younger ones as they are monitored more.

What nonsense is this? If my kids snuck out of school, I would blame the school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So true. Its total BS. Then you also hear teachers complain that parents are taking kids to run errands. Are they expecting the world to stop operating because of DL.

Yes when your kid is in school they don't go on errands with you. You do your errands after school or don't take your kids. People need to tell their DH to do some frickin' childcare.

And what errands are people doing in a pandemic anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah even if your kids are 11 and 14 you need to parent them.

If they were sneaking out of school when we were in person you would blame the school because in loco parentis. Same thing when they are in your care - if your kids sneak out while you are working you need to manage your kids.

When you come home from work, you make sure they have food, you talk to them about their day, what was hard, what wasn't, make sure they have some kind of entertainment - video games, books, etc.

You parent your kids - yes better if they are in school but is it better if your weak child gets coughed on by a bully and gets to worry they are covid pos? For older kids that is my worry - kids running up to each other coughing in faces; stealing masks, etc. I don't think that will happen with younger ones as they are monitored more.

Omg what are you even talking about?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work out of the house full time. So does my husband. My kids are 11 and 14 - they handle distance learning by themselves. Every day. Even though they are “doing well”, I, like most, realize the material they are covering and their methods of assessment are pretty sub par with DL. I want my kids back in school ASAP.
I’m parenting them exactly as I would have during “normal” times, if they were in person in school. So please please stop with the nonsense that people only want kids in school because they can’t/don’t want to parent them, or are sick of them, or want someone else to parent them. It’s just a stupid baseless so called argument.

Yes...well this is a pandemic. Mostly sub par parenting in "normal" times was not too much of an issue because teachers were teaching and making sure the kids do the work at school. Now, teachers are teaching but parents have to make sure that the kids are doing their school work from home.

So while teachers are still teaching...parents have to ensure that their children are doing the work. That's the "parenting" that people are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Perspective from a stay at home mom: I feel for the teachers, but even with constant supervision, my kid screws around a lot during asynchronous time. I can stand there and tell him to do his work and he will just sit and find reasons to stall. His teachers praised his work a lot during the regular school year and there is just no way his behavior is just how he is as a student.

When people tell me I just need to parent him more, I have to laugh. There is no way I could parent him any more than I am doing now. I know it must be a nightmare for working parents.