Affair-proof your marriage

[Anonymous]

I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Then you'd lose your shirt in that bet.

My marriage is affair-proof because of the character of my husband. If he cheats, it will have been because of his weak character.

[Anonymous]

So you respect your husband, despite thinking of him as a functional child?

Also, there is no way to affair-proof your marriage if you are married to someone who is wired to cheat -- because it makes him feel powerful, because he can, because he enjoys the secrecy or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Nah bro we still get side strange

[Anonymous]

Close, but it’s actually:

1) admiration
2) sex
3) be attractive
4) recreational companionship
5) domestic support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Oh, lord, this reads like an article from a 1950’s magazine. Seriously I lost brain cells reading this.

[Anonymous]

When he’s 50 get back to me.

Married 24-years. Sex always no less than 3-4 times per week.

Not a nag. Smart, funny, incredibly fit, hot and being home $200k year. Great mother.

Best friends.

My therapist just had this conversation with me when I said “wtf, I did everything right”.

Her answer: affairs are never about the one betrayed. It’s what is wrong inside of the cheater.

Like OP, nobody wants to believe that, because it would mean we have no control.

Sorry, you don’t. Look at some of the incredibly beautiful and talented and warm women you read about cheated on all the time.

It does women a GREAT disservice to be blamed.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea is my 30 year marriage is / has been "affair proof" -- but that long sort of barfy list is mostly how we treat each other. Equally. I wouldn't have married him if that wasn't how we began.

I think this is a troll post. I mean, really, eewww....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you respect your husband, despite thinking of him as a functional child?

Also, there is no way to affair-proof your marriage if you are married to someone who is wired to cheat -- because it makes him feel powerful, because he can, because he enjoys the secrecy or whatever.

OP here. This is true. You can't account for damaged people who have a mental pathology.

[Anonymous]

Women cheat in rates that rival men in 2021.

Why don’t you give him a list, Ms. 1950s?

[Anonymous]

You are the kind of woman a husband would cheat on because he would never suspect.

[Anonymous]

She^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Close, but it’s actually:

1) admiration
2) sex
3) be attractive
4) recreational companionship
5) domestic support

Nope you got the order wrong: sex is #1.
Google "his needs her needs list"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are the kind of woman a husband would cheat on because he would never suspect.

Yeeeeesssssssss!!!! She’s just like my neighbor and everyone knows the husband is cheating! Everyone except her. The ones that think they have control and least expect it are the easiest prey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women cheat in rates that rival men in 2021.

Why don’t you give him a list, Ms. 1950s?

1) affection
2) honesty and openness
3) conversation
4) family commitment
5) financia support