Affair-proof your marriage

[Anonymous]

This wins for the dumbest thing I've read all day, so congrats OP!

PS: I knew a woman who preached this stuff and was very condescending to women who disagreed with her, well guess whose husband was having an affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wins for the dumbest thing I've read all day, so congrats OP!

PS: I knew a woman who preached this stuff and was very condescending to women who disagreed with her, well guess whose husband was having an affair?

It’s usually the case. These preachy women are over-bearing and their strong belief that everything they do means they’re husband will never cheat is their downfall. The women whose husbands cheat usually think it would never happen to them. Life is long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wins for the dumbest thing I've read all day, so congrats OP!

PS: I knew a woman who preached this stuff and was very condescending to women who disagreed with her, well guess whose husband was having an affair?

It’s usually the case. These preachy women are over-bearing and their strong belief that everything they do means they’re husband will never cheat is their downfall. The women whose husbands cheat usually think it would never happen to them. Life is long.

*their

They can follow the “rule book”. It’s a false sense if security and detrimental because they think they are immune. That thinking is what let’s their husbands get away for it longer and for the gaslighting to occur.

[Anonymous]

This a troll post? Younger women always win. Hey OP ever think about vag-rejuvenation? Keeps the husband home.

[Anonymous]

Never criticize him? Oh, hun. A man cheats because he wants to. Plain and simple. It's not because of who you are, it's because of who HE is. And if they did it once, they'll surely do it again no matter what your list consists of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Where did you find the time between the laundry, ironing, taking care of the children, baking a pie and scrubbing the floors to share this gem?

[Anonymous]

We have our fun at the Office so he can get home on time to eat the delicious home cooked meal you spent the day shopping for and preparing.

Must suck for you to have such an empty life and zero self-respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Thank you Mrs. Cleaver! How are Wally and the Beaver doing?

[Anonymous]

Sorry grumpy feminists — OP makes valid and real points. Stop buying/reading books that over complicate things that can be simple. The only one he is missing is — shhhhhhh! Don’t talk so much about your work, your friends, your parents, etc. Silence is golden and worth more than you realize!!

[Anonymous]

This list actually strikes me as pretty anti feminist. Maybe some men want to be with their equal, not some doe eyed domestic servant. Some men cheat because they don’t respect their wives, and not the other way around. Some cheat because of unresolved issues that led to incompatible marriages in the first place. Some cheat because they can, and because they hold the financial power in the relationship. And others cheat because their marriages have fallen apart.

As Tolstoy wrote, “happy families are all alike; but every unhappy family is unhappy it’s own way.”

[Anonymous]

Man here, while I don't speak for all men, in general there are definitely things you can do to reduce the chance of getting cheated on. It's basically common-sense. Be a good loving spouse and keep him sexually interested and satisfied. Men are still going to be tempted and some will cheat even if you do all the right things. But its also true that the more he has to lose, the less likely he will cheat. He has nothing to lose if he is sexless.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t know Dr. Laura was posting on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, while I don't speak for all men, in general there are definitely things you can do to reduce the chance of getting cheated on. It's basically common-sense. Be a good loving spouse and keep him sexually interested and satisfied. Men are still going to be tempted and some will cheat even if you do all the right things. But its also true that the more he has to lose, the less likely he will cheat. He has nothing to lose if he is sexless.

This simply isn't true take responsibility for being a bum man that cheats. Geesh! People want to blame women for everything!

[Anonymous]

Girl, whatever helps you sleep at night.

But also, I have no interest in keeping around a man who isn’t interested in me or doesn’t respect me. Isn’t the hope that a couple can mutually enjoy their relationship? The way these to do lists are written come off as sad and joyless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girl, whatever helps you sleep at night.

But also, I have no interest in keeping around a man who isn’t interested in me or doesn’t respect me. Isn’t the hope that a couple can mutually enjoy their relationship? The way these to do lists are written come off as sad and joyless.

Plus 1 Million. Why the hell would I want to keep a man like that around?