Affair-proof your marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Close, but it’s actually:

1) admiration
2) sex
3) be attractive
4) recreational companionship
5) domestic support

Nope you got the order wrong: sex is #1.
Google "his needs her needs list"

You’re right. I did them in the order I remembered them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you respect your husband, despite thinking of him as a functional child?

Also, there is no way to affair-proof your marriage if you are married to someone who is wired to cheat -- because it makes him feel powerful, because he can, because he enjoys the secrecy or whatever.

OP here. This is true. You can't account for damaged people who have a mental pathology.

+1 and that most cheaters: male AND female ones.

[Anonymous]

My marriage is affair-proof because of the character of my husband. If he cheats, it will have been because of his weak character.

This is why someone cheats. No strength of character, weak morals.

A good person does not cheat or break their trust with a significant other. They just don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Bolded would come as a surprise to my husband, who hasn't paid a dime toward our housing in 8 years

[Anonymous]

nah

You should try:

Being disinterested in his success. Demand he support yours.

Be too exhausted / tired / disinterested to initiate sex. Use these excuses when he initites.

If you are interested, make sure it's always in the very specific manner that pleases you. Never reciprocate. After all, he's the one who wants sex. Never, ever initiate a bj.

Slough off all the housework. Tell him you'll be more interested in sex and less tired if he gets the kids ready in the morning, fed, the kitchen cleaned, the laundry done and put away, the groceries shopped for, the kids picked up, the dinner made, the kitchen cleaned again. Still be tired and disinterested tho.

Oh yeah, push a broom around and wipe a countertop once a day, and say "we do equal work".




There's a reason "Traditional Roles" work...they were selected for, just like culture and genetics.

OP is spot on. This is good advice. 95% of men will be excellent husbands when treated this way. If you picked a 5%er, I'm sorry. I don't have advice on how to avoid them, but I'd bet it's not hard.

(Never cheated, staying for the kids)

TL;DR: Keep their bellies full and their balls empty.

[Anonymous]

What a load of poop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:nah

You should try:

Being disinterested in his success. Demand he support yours.

Be too exhausted / tired / disinterested to initiate sex. Use these excuses when he initites.

If you are interested, make sure it's always in the very specific manner that pleases you. Never reciprocate. After all, he's the one who wants sex. Never, ever initiate a bj.

Slough off all the housework. Tell him you'll be more interested in sex and less tired if he gets the kids ready in the morning, fed, the kitchen cleaned, the laundry done and put away, the groceries shopped for, the kids picked up, the dinner made, the kitchen cleaned again. Still be tired and disinterested tho.

Oh yeah, push a broom around and wipe a countertop once a day, and say "we do equal work".




There's a reason "Traditional Roles" work...they were selected for, just like culture and genetics.

OP is spot on. This is good advice. 95% of men will be excellent husbands when treated this way. If you picked a 5%er, I'm sorry. I don't have advice on how to avoid them, but I'd bet it's not hard.

(Never cheated, staying for the kids)

TL;DR: Keep their bellies full and their balls empty.

And then he cheats an divorces her ....into the work force at 50 because she never worked a day in her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you respect your husband, despite thinking of him as a functional child?

Also, there is no way to affair-proof your marriage if you are married to someone who is wired to cheat -- because it makes him feel powerful, because he can, because he enjoys the secrecy or whatever.

OP here. This is true. You can't account for damaged people who have a mental pathology.

+1 and that most cheaters: male AND female ones.

These are the most sexist threads.

It’s as if women don’t cheat. The SAHM next to us has had 3 affairs. AM Queen because she doesn’t like her Beta husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is spot on. This is good advice. 95% of men will be excellent husbands when treated this way.

quoted for truth ^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women cheat in rates that rival men in 2021.

Why don’t you give him a list, Ms. 1950s?

1) affection
2) honesty and openness
3) conversation
4) family commitment
5) financia support

So women don’t need sex ?

God you are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women cheat in rates that rival men in 2021.

Why don’t you give him a list, Ms. 1950s?

1) affection
2) honesty and openness
3) conversation
4) family commitment
5) financia support

So women don’t need sex ?

God you are pathetic.

They want an alpha, but get a beta instead. They can train those betas but then get bored later in the marriage that they don’t get rough or passionate during sex. Just fat and watch football

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you respect your husband, despite thinking of him as a functional child?

Also, there is no way to affair-proof your marriage if you are married to someone who is wired to cheat -- because it makes him feel powerful, because he can, because he enjoys the secrecy or whatever.

OP here. This is true. You can't account for damaged people who have a mental pathology.

+1 and that most cheaters: male AND female ones.

These are the most sexist threads.

It’s as if women don’t cheat. The SAHM next to us has had 3 affairs. AM Queen because she doesn’t like her Beta husband.

And they have zero ambition or career aspirations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this on the cheaters thread and thought others may find it interesting. It is very simple. Marriage is an enormous financial burden and investment for men. For a man to put everything at stake to have an affair, it just tells me how unhappy he must be in his marriage. The following advice has helped myself and at least two women I know save their marriages:

- Love and respect your husband- Men are not like women. Respect and admiration is like OXYGEN to them. They want to be admired and looked up to by their women. It is in their DNA. Praise him. Tell him how accomplished and successful he is. Men are like children who want to impress you and seek your approval.

- Frequent sex- If you don't sleep with him he will find 5 other younger and hotter girls on Tinder who gladly will.

-Stop criticizing him-What may seem like a simple suggestion to you reads like criticism to him. Over time it builds up and he thinks you do not like or respect him. It makes him feel emasculated.

-Let him has his way sometimes. He always lets you have yours.

- Be feminine- Do your hair. shave your legs. Sometimes he wants to see the girl he fell in love with

I would be willing to bet that there is no man who would willingly step out on a happy and healthy marriage.

Cheating is a crime of opportunity.

Nobody wants to f@ck your husband. You are safe.

[Anonymous]

Now do women

[Anonymous]

You really think your “respect” is going to outweigh your husbands desire for another woman if given the opportunity? I’d bet he would take the bate. You can not control another person. This doesn’t matter if you are the gift from God to him. If he wants to cheat, he will. Delusional women are the ones who are surprised when their husbands step out.