Disagreement About Childcare
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Anonymous
| My husband and I have been disagreeing on what to do for childcare. A nanny is not an option due to his job. I would ideally keep my job and put our child into daycare ( pre-Covid), but he wants me to quit. We do have money saved but long term need my salary. He thinks I should quit for the next year until we have a second child, and then go back to work. I don’t want that large of a gap on my resume when we need my job. How do you come to an agreement? |
Anonymous
| Tell him to quit his job for a year. |
Anonymous
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Do. Not. Quit.
What about a nanny share? |
Anonymous
OP here. We can not have a nanny in our home and most of the nanny shares we looked into want to switch off homes since most or all parents are working from home. |
Anonymous
| You cannot quit your job and assume you'll be able to find something comparable in a year. |
Anonymous
OP here. He just got a promotion and it’s not possible in his line of work. |
Anonymous
| Why can't you have a nanny? |
Anonymous
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What job does he have that he cannot have a Nanny in his home?
He should not force you to quite if you do not need to, Either find a share in someone elses home, or do daycare. |
Anonymous
| I'm lost. What's the difference between hiring a nanny or sending the kid to daycare? The child will be exposed regardless. The only thing I can think is your husband has a compromised immune system and can't have a nanny in the home but that isn't what you said. |
Anonymous
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Why is he ok with putting kids in daycare when you have 2 kids, but not with 1 kid.
None of this makes sense. |
Anonymous
| What type of job does he have where you can't have a nanny? |
Anonymous
It's not possible for you either. Sounds like he needs to put on his problem solving hat. |
Anonymous
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I agree -- this doesn't make sense. Why can't you have a nanny in your home because of his job? Why would he be okay with putting two kids in daycare but not one? What's going to change in a year, if you have ANOTHER kid, such that he'll suddenly be okay with you working?
If you need your job, you don't quit. Hell, if you WANT your job, you don't quit, but especially where the alternative is burning through savings. I suppose there are some fields where you can take a year and then jump right back in, but in many cases, you risk not being able to find a job, or having to take a step down in position or pay. |
Anonymous
The kind where you can’t cheat on your taxes. |
Anonymous
OP here. My husband works for the federal government and is on the phone all day talking about very top every information. He does not feel comfortable having someone in the home who could possibly overhead certain things. He’s not a spy or anything, but he manages a handful of programs for the government. |