My mom is furious that I took my DD to get her hair cut
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Anonymous
| My almost 5 DD has long curly hair and has had a few trims but this is the first time she requested to get it cut shorter. She said it was aggravating her and really wanted it cut. We took her today and got it cut just passed her shoulders. It looks adorable and she loves it but my mom is furious. She said that my DD is too young to make a decision like that, and I should have known bette than to let a 4yr old choose to cut her hair. She now won’t even speak to me. Was I really wrong to let my DD choose to get a hair cut? I mean it’s not like she got it all cut off. Yes her hair was super long and gorgeous before but she was getting annoyed with it. |
Anonymous
| Tell your mom to suck it, her opinion is invalid and never to offer one again. |
Anonymous
| No, it’s her body and her choice. I let my DD decide when to get her ears pierced too, I explained what they do and told her it was up to her. She was 5 but then we took them out for gymnastics a couple months later and she refused to put them back in. She’s 8 now and still doesn’t have them redone. Oh well..... |
Anonymous
| Your mom is being ridiculous. |
Anonymous
Furious? Your mom is acting crazy. It’s none of her business what her granddaughter does with her hair. |
Anonymous
Op yes she’s furious because she thinks my DD was too young to decide she wanted to get her hair cut and and I should have just styled it differently if it was bothering her. |
Anonymous
Your daughter's wishes for her own body/hair override your mom's opinion all day, every day. Let her be furious, what's she gonna do, come and glue the hair back? Forbid future cuts? |
Anonymous
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Does your mom not realize that hair grows back?
You did fine, OP. You have to give kids agency, especially over their bodies, and hair is a good place to start. Are you seeing your mom in person? Any chance that what she's actually concerned about is the covid risk of an indoor haircut? |
Anonymous
No, she doesn’t think kids should choose things like the clothes they wear, what activities they do, and clearly if they get hair cuts. |
Anonymous
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You mother gets absolutely no input on your daughter's hair and she's crossing a big boundary by giving you grief about it. Your daughter's hair will be much healthier and manageable with the longer ends cut off.
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Anonymous
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Oh, I thought this was going to be about covid. No, your mom is completely wrong.
Also, as somebody whose mom refused to let me get a haircut until I was a teen, good for you and your daughter. Our parents' generation is weirdly sentimental about kids not getting their hair cut. |
Anonymous
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Stop trying to get her to speak to you. Stop contacting.
She raised her child. You raise yours. When she simmers down and contacts again, let her know that her reaction crossed boundaries. |
Anonymous
| I have always let my DD make her own choices about her hair. She decided at 5 she wanted a bob to match her American Girl Doll, Kit. I would never have thought to cut her hair that short b/c I grew up with long, long hair as a young girl, but it was adorable. When she wanted bangs a year later, she got them. She regretted them, but c’est la vie. It is her body, her choice, and it will grow back! |
Anonymous
No matter how you look at it, your mother is dead wrong here. Either: It's your DD's choice (her hair, etc), in which case this is none of your mother's business; or Your DD is too young to have agency over her hair, in which case this is YOUR choice (as legal guardian) and this is none of your mother's business. |
Anonymous
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Your mom seems crazy. Like a PP, I also thought this would be about a disagreement over COVID risk.
Your daughter’s hair will grow back. It’s her choice as to how she wants to cut it. It’s not like she’s done anything permanent to her body. Is your mom normally this controlling? |