My mom is furious that I took my DD to get her hair cut

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Anonymous wrote:My almost 5 DD has long curly hair and has had a few trims but this is the first time she requested to get it cut shorter. She said it was aggravating her and really wanted it cut. We took her today and got it cut just passed her shoulders. It looks adorable and she loves it but my mom is furious. She said that my DD is too young to make a decision like that, and I should have known bette than to let a 4yr old choose to cut her hair. She now won’t even speak to me. Was I really wrong to let my DD choose to get a hair cut? I mean it’s not like she got it all cut off. Yes her hair was super long and gorgeous before but she was getting annoyed with it.

Furious? Your mom is acting crazy. It’s none of her business what her granddaughter does with her hair.

Op yes she’s furious because she thinks my DD was too young to decide she wanted to get her hair cut and and I should have just styled it differently if it was bothering her.

I don’t understand... are you allowed to cut boys hair? Are they allowed to have short hair? Your mom is really weird and absolutely out of place

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When I first read the title, I thought your mom was upset because instead of cutting it yourself you exposed yourself and your daughter during a pandemic... I can’t believe she is upset because you cut your own daughter’s hair! I was mildly upset when my SIL cut my DD’s hair (and bangs) super short, but that was my 3 year old daughter and I kept my anger to myself.
My girls have short hair (almost boy’s haircut). Where I am from this is NORMAL. Here in the US I rarely see girls with short hair... why???? It bothers them, it takes time to untangle, wash, dry, etc. when my DDs are going to be able to take care of it themselves, then they can choose their own style. As long as it is up to me, their hair is short!

I am not raising vain little girls

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Anonymous wrote:When I first read the title, I thought your mom was upset because instead of cutting it yourself you exposed yourself and your daughter during a pandemic... I can’t believe she is upset because you cut your own daughter’s hair! I was mildly upset when my SIL cut my DD’s hair (and bangs) super short, but that was my 3 year old daughter and I kept my anger to myself.
My girls have short hair (almost boy’s haircut). Where I am from this is NORMAL. Here in the US I rarely see girls with short hair... why???? It bothers them, it takes time to untangle, wash, dry, etc. when my DDs are going to be able to take care of it themselves, then they can choose their own style. As long as it is up to me, their hair is short!

I am not raising vain little girls

My daughter had a pixie until she was old enough to express a preference AND to brush her own hair. When she was seven, she said she wanted to grow her hair long, so now it's down to her shoulders. She also brushes it twice a day and can put it in a ponytail if she wants. But before that, it was styled in a way that looked cute but was also easy to maintain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My almost 5 DD has long curly hair and has had a few trims but this is the first time she requested to get it cut shorter. She said it was aggravating her and really wanted it cut. We took her today and got it cut just passed her shoulders. It looks adorable and she loves it but my mom is furious. She said that my DD is too young to make a decision like that, and I should have known bette than to let a 4yr old choose to cut her hair. She now won’t even speak to me. Was I really wrong to let my DD choose to get a hair cut? I mean it’s not like she got it all cut off. Yes her hair was super long and gorgeous before but she was getting annoyed with it.

That's absurd. You were not wrong; there's nothing wrong with little girls having shorter hair (shoulder-length isn't even that short), nor with going along with your daughter's perfectly reasonable preference for a haircut. I would just ignore your mom until she comes around. Don't apologize, don't try to justify or excuse yourself. It's insane to give someone the silent treatment because they gave their kid a haircut you don't like.

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What? I thought you were going to say she was furious because of Covid risks, but because she wanted your 4 year old to have long hair? WTF??? Does she not know that hair grows back?

My uncle was like this - my cousin was not allowed to cut her hair, like ever except to trim off super split ends. It was past her butt up until the after her parents dropped her off at college, then she chopped it into a cute bob and hasn't looked back!

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Do you live with her?

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So this is not Covid related?

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Anonymous wrote:So this is not Covid related?

No, has nothing to do with covid. She was extremely controlling of me as a child, borderline abusive, however she typically not as critical of her my kids. She cares a lot about what other people think, in an obsessive way.

[Anonymous]

All of these "her body her choice" commenters probably won't sing the same tune if she wants a tattoo or nose piercing in middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these "her body her choice" commenters probably won't sing the same tune if she wants a tattoo or nose piercing in middle school.

You are equating a haircut to a tattoo and nose piercing?

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I don't understand why you couldn't put it in ponytails or braids. I hope you at least took lots of pictures before cutting it off. It really doesn't grow back quite the same, sadly. As a mom of a teen, I wouldn't recommend creating a precedent that the kid decides on major things about their appearance quite yet. As they get older you can start to ease up, but I definitely still hold the line on on clothing for certain occasions and anything permanent.

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She's not speaking to you?

Perfect!

Enjoy it while it lasts.

[Anonymous]

Of course a 5 year old can request a hair cut. It was bothering her. Don’t try to contact your mom, let her be mad.

[Anonymous]

She’s being ridiculous. It’s not like you let her get “Elsa 4eva” tattooed on her bicep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these "her body her choice" commenters probably won't sing the same tune if she wants a tattoo or nose piercing in middle school.

maybe because hair grows back?