My wife just went into labor

[Anonymous]

I'm posting this from the hospital because I'm so angry. My wife was due mid-October, but because I'm a fed and the cut-off for the paid parental leave is October 1, I am now screwed out of 12 weeks of paid leave. This is some grade-A bulls**t. It is a slap in the face that my office mates who will be taking FMLA in the next few weeks for their birth are going to get paid but my FMLA won't get paid. What a horribly written law.

Yes, I get the argument that "everything has a cut-off" but this was not the appropriate way to do it. It should've been effective the day the law passed back in December. But hey, Trump needed his Space Force so we had to push through parental leave legislation that hadn't really been completely thought out (*waves at the FAA and TSA and VA*) and Congress didn't have a pandemic back then causing unprecedented levels of maternal and paternal depression and anxiety...sucks for us!

[Anonymous]

First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, it's not going to be implemented Oct 1. Just wait and see.

I also was supposed to benefit from a different rule change. Thanks to COVID that didn't happen and we had to change all of our plans too. Fun times.

[Anonymous]

I don't know OP. Don't you have something more important going on at the moment? Kinda odd BS to bit*hing about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

Excuse me?

My husband was absolutely critical in those early days, to my mental sanity. He took care of keeping the house running, keeping me fed, etc. He also wanted to spent time with his kid.

You sound really weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know OP. Don't you have something more important going on at the moment? Kinda odd BS to bit*hing about.

He wants to be with his kid ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

You're a shitty husband and father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

You're a shitty husband and father.

+1000. A relic from the 1950s.

[Anonymous]

It sucks, but it ties into the new fiscal year on 1 October. One of my employees got caught in the same boat, although not this close to th deadline. You can still use several weeks of leave from your own pot, including sick leave, of which I’m sure you have plenty

[Anonymous]

Well, at least your kid was born before (most) school cut-off dates.

5 yrs from now you'll be so glad Junior will be old enough to go to Kinderg instead of you having to pay another long year of tuition for daycare/preschool.

Your rant over FMLA is a drop in the bucket in the grand scheme of things.

[Anonymous]

You're not "screwed out of" paid leave, you're just not benefitting from it.

Just like every single fed who's had a kid or whose partner has had a kid for all of history.

Sucks to be on the edge like this but get over it and enjoy your new family. Use your sick and annual leave like everyone else did.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I am so sorry. It totally sucks. This is just one of the many disgraceful things about this country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

What??? Giving her space? I'm assuming this poster is too busy bringing home the trex bones for dinner or something to actually help with the brand new baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

Most new mothers want their husbands to help and bond with their baby. You're so awful that yours didn't want you around, but don't generalize your sorry case to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this. You don't want to be around. do your part to help by giving her space and time.

How will she have space and time with no help? Have you ever had a wife and newborn?