DH said that he’s not married on FB chat

[Anonymous]

Saw it by accident. He lets our daughter use his phone for Youtube. She clicked the wrong thing and it took her off of Youtube. While I was closing windows I saw the convo. She asked how he was, if he still visits where she lives (where he grew up) and if he’s married. He answered all questions and answered the are you married question with a simple “no”. She then asked if he was “down for the talking “ and he never responded that I see. This was 4 days ago.


Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Can you write more clearly? The "she" is a person he was conversing with on his phone, not your daughter, I presume?
And how is your spouse your "dear husband" if he's trying to cheat? H will suffice.

You need to take a photo of this Q&A as evidence, OP.
Then confront him.

[Anonymous]

This probably not the first time. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’d keep an eye on it. I’d get a good luck at his phone and email before I asked DH what it was about.

[Anonymous]

Wow. What a POS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d keep an eye on it. I’d get a good luck at his phone and email before I asked DH what it was about.

Um, what do you think it's about?!

[Anonymous]

I would have responded that his wife says she can have him.

[Anonymous]

Why do y’all just sit in shit for days and weeks wondering what to think of this and worrying whether this means that?

Why do y’all sit around for days and weeks stressing in bewilderment when every night you sleeping right next to the person who can answer your questions?

Communication people.
Don’t wonder - ask.
And if the answer sounds shady get some clarification.
What’s so hard about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do y’all just sit in shit for days and weeks wondering what to think of this and worrying whether this means that?

Why do y’all sit around for days and weeks stressing in bewilderment when every night you sleeping right next to the person who can answer your questions?

Communication people.
Don’t wonder - ask.
And if the answer sounds shady get some clarification.
What’s so hard about it?

You think someone who would lie about this would give a straight answer?
Lol.
Some people are so naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d keep an eye on it. I’d get a good luck at his phone and email before I asked DH what it was about.

Um, what do you think it's about?!

PP here. I think he is interested in flirting and potentially an affair. I just meant that I’d want to gather all the evidence before confronting him. That would tip him off to scrub all his accounts.

[Anonymous]

This always comes across as insecurity but I would tag him as the best husband ever in something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d keep an eye on it. I’d get a good luck at his phone and email before I asked DH what it was about.

Um, what do you think it's about?!

PP here. I think he is interested in flirting and potentially an affair. I just meant that I’d want to gather all the evidence before confronting him. That would tip him off to scrub all his accounts.

This is a good tip from a divorce perspective. Gathering evidence so it's ready to go is a very wise idea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do y’all just sit in shit for days and weeks wondering what to think of this and worrying whether this means that?

Why do y’all sit around for days and weeks stressing in bewilderment when every night you sleeping right next to the person who can answer your questions?

Communication people.
Don’t wonder - ask.
And if the answer sounds shady get some clarification.
What’s so hard about it?

You think someone who would lie about this would give a straight answer?
Lol.
Some people are so naive.

OP hasn’t found the courage to confront him so he hasn’t lied to her about shit.
Yeah he lied to some anonymous nobody in cyberspace but that truck doesn’t matter - he’s supposed to lie to her lol.
Did he lie to his wife? NO!! Cause she ain’t asked him she sitting around stressing for four days asking everybody for their thoughts on the situation EXCEPT the one person who can explain what’s going on.

That’s naïveté

[Anonymous]

What kind of man chats on FB anyway?

[Anonymous]

How is your sex life OP?