Men - tell me if my career and income are negatives when it comes to dating

[Anonymous]

I am a professional (think Finance/Law/CPA) and my salary varies but never less the mid-six figures. I am 45 and divorced with two teen sons (1 in college and 1 in high school). I have a beach house and a nice primary home, my DCs went/go to private school. I don’t bring up my career or my beach house or the private school but I sense some hesitancy from some guys when they figure it out. I know the answer is to find someone who doesn’t care but I wonder if I am being ruled out in the early stages before they get to know me because of it. Thanks

[Anonymous]

Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

Definitely not. Camping is not my cup of tea. I am also very open to a man with DCs (so long as they are at least 8 years old). No toddlers or babies for meZ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster who needed to know if she could find a handsome man w/out kids who had a M.S. degree & loved singing campfire 🔥 songs + making s’mores?

+ i think she is!!

[Anonymous]

I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

That doesn’t seem fair.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you earn too little. WTF do you expect to hear?

[Anonymous]

It’s probably your looks. If you are hot, guys won’t care.

[Anonymous]

I get that but I am asked out so I pass some initial looks test. I am not 25 years old but in good shape and well presented.

[Anonymous]

How do this conversations play out?

Caan you given an example?

I'm guessing it's not the money, but the delivery that's off putting.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I am a woman and know you are asking men, but I am so confused. Don't all the things you listed make you a catch? Isn't that what men, especially in the careerist DC area, want?

[Anonymous]

It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Hmm, and there's no other conversations during the date?

Are you usually dating men about your age/income bracket?

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe this is actually an issue. I’m about your age with a second home, a decent career and a very high net worth and have never had any issues with men being turned off, intimidated or whatever about it. I don’t make a big deal out if it. I don’t wear it on my sleeve but I don’t hide it. I think it’s weird if anyone is actually ghosting you for that reason. There’s got to be a better reason.

On the flip side my XH is a huge gold digger and it was a big plus for him when the woman he was dating was wealthy. So if anything I think you’d be attracting more men, not repelling them. So it has to be something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Hmm, and there's no other conversations during the date?

Are you usually dating men about your age/income bracket?

There is other conversations ...like about his week, what kinds of things he likes to do on the weekend, favorite books/movies, etc. I try to keep things light and try to get to know someone. And I really don’t know their income bracket but generally I date guys 2-7 years older and most have professional type jobs.