Men - tell me if my career and income are negatives when it comes to dating

[Anonymous]

Enthusiasm, Enthusiasm, Enthusiasm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you need hobbies so that you can be more interesting as a person. They also might be looking for someone with a bit more culture. Read books you are interested in; attend lectures; go down rabbit holes where you learn more about Frida Kahlo. Be curious about the world. I also have a poor opinion of anyone who admits to having a beach house. This post made me realize I have stereotypes about the level of intelligence of those people. They are either old money in which case it isn't there fault a great someone bought a house. But if they bought a house, I give a side eye.

Oh. I have hobbies. I enjoy travel very much (and often the beaten path). I also enjoy hiking, swimming, boogie boarding, gardening and baking. I am currently learning Italian and like to read biographies but my current book is Untamed. Before Covid I also enjoyed theater and have taken Improv classes. I didn’t mean to make it sound like my career and beach house was it.

[Anonymous]

Are you not-overweight and sex positive? Those are the main criteria. We don’t care about your job or income.

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Anonymous wrote:Enthusiasm, Enthusiasm, Enthusiasm.

I’ll keep that in mind. I generally think of myself and friends tell me that I am a positive person fun to be around but I will keep enthusiasm as something to focus on.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you not-overweight and sex positive? Those are the main criteria. We don’t care about your job or income.

I am not overweight and I am sex positive though I do believe in developing a connection with someone before sex. I am not sleeping with someone on the 1st or 2nd date....to me, that is just a hookup.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you need hobbies so that you can be more interesting as a person. They also might be looking for someone with a bit more culture. Read books you are interested in; attend lectures; go down rabbit holes where you learn more about Frida Kahlo. Be curious about the world. I also have a poor opinion of anyone who admits to having a beach house. This post made me realize I have stereotypes about the level of intelligence of those people. They are either old money in which case it isn't there fault a great someone bought a house. But if they bought a house, I give a side eye.

Oh. I have hobbies. I enjoy travel very much (and often the beaten path). I also enjoy hiking, swimming, boogie boarding, gardening and baking. I am currently learning Italian and like to read biographies but my current book is Untamed. Before Covid I also enjoyed theater and have taken Improv classes. I didn’t mean to make it sound like my career and beach house was it.

OP, you just haven't met the right person yet. There was a recently divorced 50ish guy on a thread a couple of months ago who was looking for someone like you and would probably think you're great!

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you say “we” have a place there? Isn’t it your beach house? The “we” would be off putting to me. I’d feel you didn’t have time to date - you are taken by this “we” group. Kids? Ex?

I thought the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you say “we” have a place there? Isn’t it your beach house? The “we” would be off putting to me. I’d feel you didn’t have time to date - you are taken by this “we” group. Kids? Ex?

I thought the same thing.

I agree. Plus you could have just left it at, “yeah I love it there!”

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Troll. Every lawyer billing $1000/hr knows the difference between you’re and your

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Troll. Every lawyer billing $1000/hr knows the difference between you’re and your

Where did OP mention her career?

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Troll. Every lawyer billing $1000/hr knows the difference between you’re and your

Where did OP mention her career?

(think Finance/Law/CPA)

Regardless, someone who is a professional making around $500k figured out you’re v your by third grade. Troll!

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Troll. Every lawyer billing $1000/hr knows the difference between you’re and your

Where did OP mention her career?

(think Finance/Law/CPA)

Regardless, someone who is a professional making around $500k figured out you’re v your by third grade. Troll!

NP here. FWIW, I make my living writing and there are times when I'm going fast, not thinking, that I will make weird errors like this. I generally realize as soon as I press send, but I don't think you're v your is a definite sign of troll.

[Anonymous]

I have a good friend who is in her 40s and has never been married. She's always very together, she is pretty, in shape, very smart. So much going for her. But she just is off putting much of the time and she doesn't see it. She sees herself as presenting professional, competent, kind. But it's like it's somehow practiced. I don't think it is, but she . . . she's just never relaxed, at ease, easy.

All of that makes her really good at her job, but no so good at being someone you just want to hang out with.

She starts dating someone, she's excited, then it never goes anywhere after a few dates. I can only think it's the easy thing. And I don't mean easy as in sex.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't see anything that you're doing wrong. Of course you shouldn't hide the fact that you have a beach house when it comes up naturally. It might just be that things would have petered out after 3 dates anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Troll. Every lawyer billing $1000/hr knows the difference between you’re and your

Where did OP mention her career?

(think Finance/Law/CPA)

Regardless, someone who is a professional making around $500k figured out you’re v your by third grade. Troll!

Hm, not a great display of the English language on your end.