Is it rude to speak a second language with children

[Anonymous]

when you are in the presence of English speakers? I speak my native language with my children when we are alone, but I find it awkward and impolite to speak it in the presence of my DH, friends, playground, etc. because we all also speak English. However, this has become a problem in raising bilingual children because they always respond in English to me. Would you find it rude if someone spoke a different language around you though everyone present speaks English?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is completely rude to talk in another language in front of others who don't speak it, whether or not you're talking to your kids.

[Anonymous]

Who cares?! Teach your child your language, and how to express politeness in both languages. It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is completely rude to talk in another language in front of others who don't speak it, whether or not you're talking to your kids.

I disagree. The conversation isn’t about them, or public. OP, hope you aren’t a troll. Trying to start a heated discussion on race. They are out in full force right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is completely rude to talk in another language in front of others who don't speak it, whether or not you're talking to your kids.

I disagree. The conversation isn’t about them, or public. OP, hope you aren’t a troll. Trying to start a heated discussion on race. They are out in full force right now.

I’m not a troll! I wasn’t even thinking about race, I’m trying to figure out how better to teach my children the second language.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is rude.

And it’s not about race; I speak German and have German speaking au pairs. We only speak English in front of English speakers.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think there is an exception with small kids. But you should whoever is present why you are doing it.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

No it's not rude. So long as you aren't talking about them or to them and giggling because they don't understand you. Communication happens all around us and we should not expect to be privvy to it all.

[Anonymous]

I am the pp above that simply said "yes"

BUT

then I noticed you said in front of your Dh...
So your DH can not understand your native language and you will speak to your child in front of him, knowing he can't understand?
That is truly horrible.

[Anonymous]

Context is everything OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the pp above that simply said "yes"

BUT

then I noticed you said in front of your Dh...
So your DH can not understand your native language and you will speak to your child in front of him, knowing he can't understand?
That is truly horrible.

It is the One Parent, One Language recommended to me. One parent (or both) speak their language to their children exclusively so that they are always responsible to speak that language with that parent. The parents together speak their common language. So in effect you ask your child to brush their teeth in your native language and turn to your spouse to ask about their day in your common language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the pp above that simply said "yes"

BUT

then I noticed you said in front of your Dh...
So your DH can not understand your native language and you will speak to your child in front of him, knowing he can't understand?
That is truly horrible.

It is the One Parent, One Language recommended to me. One parent (or both) speak their language to their children exclusively so that they are always responsible to speak that language with that parent. The parents together speak their common language. So in effect you ask your child to brush their teeth in your native language and turn to your spouse to ask about their day in your common language.

Who ever "recommended" that to you is a terrible person.
You are creating a negative situation with the other parent.

[Anonymous]

Why does DH not speak your language?! He needs to step up.