Is having kids worth it? Is it worth the incontinence, the pain, the sleep deprivation?
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Friends, I’m quite new to pregnancy but I came here to read and learn from you, moms with a bit more experience and I’ve heard so many heartbreaking stories of loss — loss of bodily functions, loss of pleasure, loss of identity In a way, tears, incontinence, trauma, anxiety.
Is having kids really worth it? What are you getting out of it? Would you recommend your most beloved person in the world (for example your daughter) to have all the experiences you’ve been through if they end up with a baby? I’m pregnant and I wonder what I’m getting myself into. People say in public that parenthood is amazing, but everything I read here says the opposite. #philosophy |
Anonymous
| Did you accidentally get pregnant? |
Anonymous
| The first 18 months were not fun but after that I actually enjoyed parenting. I like doing things with my kids who are now 5 and 7. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Incontinence? Nah! |
Anonymous
| Parenting is like pizza: even when it's bad, it's still pretty good. |
Anonymous
| The things you are worried about pass pretty quickly. Good things - cute babies, watching them learn new things, seeing them develop their own personality, having a family to do things with. Bad things - kids getting sick in the middle of the night, kids spreading their germs to you, having to juggle work and kids, never having enough free time for yourself. |
Anonymous
| Yes. It’s 100% worth it. I love my daughter to the ends of the earth, despite the sleep deprivation, loss of freedom, and financial burden. |
Anonymous
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Of course it's worth it. If my kids don't have kids at some point, I'm going to be clinically depressed. I love children. They are the entire point of our existence, biologically speaking. |
Anonymous
| Don’t let anyone else’s experience of pregnancy define your own. |
Anonymous
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No, ruins your body.
Kids are expensive. The world is going to crap now. Childhood has been ruined by technology and now by Covid. |
Anonymous
| Yes, no question. I have 4, all delivered vaginally and I do not have any incontinence. The pain was intense but temporary. The sleep deprivation is real but I was willing to go through it 4 times, so that probably the most telling. The love and adoration I have for my kids is the best feeling in the world. |
Anonymous
| It can't be that bad, can it, when even poor people who can't afford yet another baby keep having baby after baby? There's a reason. It's all about love. |
Anonymous
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Having kids is awesome.
They're so cute as babies. You find time to sleep. Breastfeeding is hard but there's always a plan B. Watching them go through milestones melts your heart. You will learn to love in a way you never thought possible. Then they start talking and they can be tough but OMG SO FUNNY. The stuff my 4 year old says is hilarious. She's so smart. Then you are suddenly 80 and dying and you have children to visit you and help make decisions about your life plans with you. |
Anonymous
| No. Those little fkers will ruin your life and dry empty your bank accounts. |
Anonymous
A lesson you can't get in any other way -- to be connected to the human experience on a deeper level than you are capable, obvious from your post. |