Is having kids worth it? Is it worth the incontinence, the pain, the sleep deprivation?

[Anonymous]

Its a totally irrational decision and really it would be bettter if fewer people did it.
The “it’s all about the love!” posters make no sense to me. You are bringing a human being into the world so you have someone to love? It is self-serving and irrational.
But people do it every day, often by choice.

[Anonymous]

The issues that come up sound horrible to someone who doesn't have kids. Somehow, once it happens, the punches keep coming and you learn how to roll with them. You don't really remember what it was like before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its a totally irrational decision and really it would be bettter if fewer people did it.
The “it’s all about the love!” posters make no sense to me. You are bringing a human being into the world so you have someone to love? It is self-serving and irrational.
But people do it every day, often by choice.

Do you even have a child? You sound bitter.

[Anonymous]

Relatively Brief physical discomfort is nothing. It’s not being able to be completely free For many years that might not make it worthwhile.
Also having to deal with child’s father even if/when you don’t like him.

[Anonymous]

I am rolling with it now I have them, but unless you really enjoy kids or have a vision of a very large family, it has to be something you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is hard, but you won't regret a second of it. You will cherish each moment. I promise. You just have to trust us on this one.

Sarcasm? I hope?

I am not a baby/infant person. As others have said, it’s a long game.
There will be painful and tedious moments. My anxiety is much worse now that I have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard, but you won't regret a second of it. You will cherish each moment. I promise. You just have to trust us on this one.

Sarcasm? I hope?

I am not a baby/infant person. As others have said, it’s a long game.
There will be painful and tedious moments. My anxiety is much worse now that I have kids.

Oh I love my children but I totally regret it sometimes. And I certainly do not cherish each moment. I miss pooping alone, date nights, sleeping in, my pre-birth body and vagina and abs, etc. I miss the time when I only had to worry about myself and my husband. I miss all the time I used to have for myself, my friends, my interests, and my hobbies. What nonsense.

[Anonymous]

yes it's hard, but 1000% worth it in my opinion and yes 100% I would want this for my daughter or son. I hope they get to enjoy parenthood as I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Those little fkers will ruin your life and dry empty your bank accounts.

Truth.

[Anonymous]

A million times worth it.

They have made me a better person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard, but you won't regret a second of it. You will cherish each moment. I promise. You just have to trust us on this one.

Sarcasm? I hope?

I am not a baby/infant person. As others have said, it’s a long game.
There will be painful and tedious moments. My anxiety is much worse now that I have kids.

Oh I love my children but I totally regret it sometimes. And I certainly do not cherish each moment. I miss pooping alone, date nights, sleeping in, my pre-birth body and vagina and abs, etc. I miss the time when I only had to worry about myself and my husband. I miss all the time I used to have for myself, my friends, my interests, and my hobbies. What nonsense.

I miss all those things too, but if I had to do it again, I would trade all those things for having my DD.

I’ve always wanted kids, but I didn’t realize how MUCH I would LOVE my DD until I bonded with her during infancy.

[Anonymous]

To late for that discussion now.

[Anonymous]

The toughest job you'll ever love.

The days are long, but the years are short.

Trite, but true. For me, being a parent has been a surprising and rich path -- sometimes painful -- to grow in empathy and understanding of myself and others. (Sign me -- mom of three, ages 20-26)

[Anonymous]

Such a fatalistic viewpoint. "the incontinence, the pain, the sleep deprivation?" I've had no incontinence. The pain was only for a few days while in labor and giving birth. Even after birth, the pain was manageable with Tylenol. Sleep deprivation is only until you train the baby to Sttn. For some parents that's 2 years and for some that's 12 weeks.

Having babies has been the happiest time of my life. It will hurt when it's all over. And yes, I lived a full life until I gave birth in my 30s. People only focus on the bad because it's hard to describe to someone how amazing it is to snuggle and get baby kisses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You truly truly truly dont know what love is til you're a parent

I have 3 kids and completely disagree. I even consider such statements offensive. OP, Only you will know if having kids is "worth it" to you. Some people were put on Earth to love and contribute in other ways that are as valid and deep and meaningful as parenting. The physical -- assuming you survive childbirth -- is nothing compared to the mental, physical, and emotional toll of mothering. Mothering means losing autonomy and sensual freedom and the chance to maximize professional and personal fulfillment in your physical prime. If you are not a giving person you will find it draining but, as many PPs have pointed out, the love you have for your children is tremendous. I believe that most people feel this love more than compensates for the losses.