Is having kids worth it? Is it worth the incontinence, the pain, the sleep deprivation?

[Anonymous]

When people say you can't know how it changes you until the child is in your arms, it sounds hokey, because you really believe you can imagine what it is all about. You can't. It really does change you in profoundly, unexpected, deeply philosophical, good ways. It is hard to put in words, but in some ways everything about life and the world suddenly becomes more important and permanent. You enter a new life and look at the world with new eyes -- the eyes of a parent.

The pain, the sleep, etc, is temporary. Different bodies react toit in different ways. Some have issues, some don't.

[Anonymous]

I’m not doing it to be pregnant or to have an infant. I would happily skip both. It’s a long term play.

[Anonymous]

I have 4 children unmedicated vaginal births, one was even 10lbs, and thankfully, haven't had any issues with any of those things. My L&D were all smooth, and relatively quick and uneventful. Of course, it's worth it, and I hope my children have children of their own one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. It’s 100% worth it. I love my daughter to the ends of the earth, despite the sleep deprivation, loss of freedom, and financial burden.

+1000.

But, you will never pro- and con- your way to having kids: it will never work out on paper. You either want them or you don't ... and many (not all) who don't want kids but have them, end up happy anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people say you can't know how it changes you until the child is in your arms, it sounds hokey, because you really believe you can imagine what it is all about. You can't. It really does change you in profoundly, unexpected, deeply philosophical, good ways. It is hard to put in words, but in some ways everything about life and the world suddenly becomes more important and permanent. You enter a new life and look at the world with new eyes -- the eyes of a parent.

The pain, the sleep, etc, is temporary. Different bodies react toit in different ways. Some have issues, some don't.

OP, please don’t expect this to happen for you. Plenty of great moms don’t feel that instant connection. In some cases, it can take weeks or months. But it does eventually happen for the vast, vast majority of mothers.

[Anonymous]

1000% worth it. Happiest years of my life.

[Anonymous]

My kids are everything

[Anonymous]

It is hard, but you won't regret a second of it. You will cherish each moment. I promise. You just have to trust us on this one.

[Anonymous]

I am not inkontinent. If you are, see a doctor! If people didn't think it was worth it, nobody would ever have a second child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friends, I’m quite new to pregnancy but I came here to read and learn from you, moms with a bit more experience and I’ve heard so many heartbreaking stories of loss — loss of bodily functions, loss of pleasure, loss of identity In a way, tears, incontinence, trauma, anxiety.

Is having kids really worth it?

What are you getting out of it?

Would you recommend your most beloved person in the world (for example your daughter) to have all the experiences you’ve been through if they end up with a baby?

I’m pregnant and I wonder what I’m getting myself into. People say in public that parenthood is amazing, but everything I read here says the opposite.

#philosophy

Birthing a child is different than raising a child.

If you’re pregnant, do you want to stay pregnant? If no, do something about it. If yes, next question:

Do you want to raise a child?
If no, put the child up for adoption. If yes, then be a parent.

These aren’t philosophical questions, they are hard life choices.

[Anonymous]

I’m getting the full human experience. My daughter is a part of me as much as my arm is. Her joy makes my joy possible. I cannot imagine my life without her, and would never want to

[Anonymous]

You truly truly truly dont know what love is til you're a parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, ruins your body.

Kids are expensive.

The world is going to crap now.

Childhood has been ruined by technology and now by Covid.

Kinda this.

I love my kids. If I had known the world would be this crappy, and they would be so unhappy, I might not have subjected them to this.

[Anonymous]

Be fruitful and multiply is he first commandment in the bible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be fruitful and multiply is he first commandment in the bible

What is the bible?