Wife with Metastatic Breast Cancer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorcing a cancer patient... that's a good one, you are a catch.

Have you thought maybe YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS THERAPY.

Try abandoning/leaving/divorcing a breast cancer survivor that cheats on you. How's that gonna look to anyone? And I mean ANYONE! You're stuck, unless you wanna leave the life you had completely behind, and leave the world you've known all your life?

You can always be like Erik Blackwater Prince and get your kids’ nanny pregnant while all this is going on.

Or John Edwards!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, quite a response. I get it that my post sounded really bad. I’m sorry. No one is talking about or even thinking about leaving the marriage. It is clear that even though my wife currently has no evidence of cancer the ongoing treatment continues to have a profound affect. I was simply asking if anyone has been through this, had similar treatments, and how can I do better. I admit I was frustrated last night about other issues and the way I described the situation really sounded like I was looking for a way out. I’m not. You are right, searching on line especially about medical issues can often lead to unreasonable expectations and trouble. Thanks for your responses, both those that point out my callousness and those that made suggestions.

Why don't you go with her to her doctor visit. Then you can ask those questions. I assume they want her on those drugs.

[Anonymous]

OP it sounds like her job is too much for her to begin with. I mean she really needs to quit to focus on her health. Talk to her and see how she feels about that, and try to get her to cut down on the wine. Even if she takes a year off of working it may help her mentally. I can't imagine having all that and having to work at a job. Yes go with her to the doctor visits.

[Anonymous]

Even without cancer, I am lethargic and don't want to work out. Maybe she is depressed or tired. Have you tried talking to her or going with her to the doctor?