Dating men who are shorter than you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

This sounds like a young person issue. All the under 30s care about is how they look in pictures.

No I'm in my 40s, but the problem isn't the pictures, it's the reminder (that then stays with me) that I'm taking on the masculine physical role, which makes me feel the opposite of sexy, and he's taking on the feminine role, which is very unattractive to me.

I can't imagine getting all of that from seeing a photo of myself with a man who isn't taller than I am.
I personally prefer rugged, masculine men, but I don't associate that with tall men. In fact, I'd say that most of the tall men I've dated have been rather effeminate.

agree

[Anonymous]

I wonder if women ever fudge their men’s heights? Or “sizes” for that matter. Height is such a thing for guys these days. Honestly, I don’t ever remember thinking about it.

My son is 15 and he asks me almost once a week how tall I think he’s going to be or tall I was at his age. His friends break each other’s rocks about who’s the shortest also.

I know women have always seemed to like tall men, but men seem obsessed with it now too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if women ever fudge their men’s heights? Or “sizes” for that matter. Height is such a thing for guys these days. Honestly, I don’t ever remember thinking about it.

My son is 15 and he asks me almost once a week how tall I think he’s going to be or tall I was at his age. His friends break each other’s rocks about who’s the shortest also.

I know women have always seemed to like tall men, but men seem obsessed with it now too.

I wonder if it’s more relevant now because of dating apps where you can filter on height. Different than chatting up someone your height in a bar and realizing you get along well with them and have chemistry.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if it’s more relevant now because of dating apps where you can filter on height. Different than chatting up someone your height in a bar and realizing you get along well with them and have chemistry.

Nah...we always judge your height. Just like you do other things in women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 5'9" and most men I date are around my height. It's fine.

I just ended a relationship with a guy who is 6'2" He was fun to cuddle, since he was much bigger than I, but he was also a lazy lover. I have dated men 2" shorter than I, and they were much better in bed. I think they had to put more effort in and it paid off!

This.

The stereotype is that short men try harder. It’s true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 5'9" and most men I date are around my height. It's fine.

I just ended a relationship with a guy who is 6'2" He was fun to cuddle, since he was much bigger than I, but he was also a lazy lover. I have dated men 2" shorter than I, and they were much better in bed. I think they had to put more effort in and it paid off!

This.

The stereotype is that short men try harder. It’s true.

Hmmm I had never heard that before but it makes sense. I'm about 5'3" and honestly don't know how tall my DH is, probably around 5'4" or 5'5" at most. He's incredible in bed, the best I've had. He doesn't care if I wear heels at all and is very self-confident without being arrogant. I could give two f*cks about how we look in pictures!

[Anonymous]

The stereotype is that short men try harder. It’s true.

I'm the one who is 5'7" with a 5'6" boyfriend. He is an amazing lover. I would choose him a million times over. He's also bald, and overweight. He has plenty of confidence, and I find him very attractive. Before him, I briefly dated a man I considered physically near perfect. He was tall, ripped, gorgeous face. And just terrible in bed. It was like he had no idea what he was doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I wonder if it’s more relevant now because of dating apps where you can filter on height. Different than chatting up someone your height in a bar and realizing you get along well with them and have chemistry.

Nah...we always judge your height. Just like you do other things in women.

I’m not a man, I’m a tall woman PP who doesn’t care if men are shorter.

[Anonymous]

Date who you want. I like tall men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date who you want. I like tall men.

Guy here. This - date who you want and don’t worry about what people think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if women ever fudge their men’s heights? Or “sizes” for that matter. Height is such a thing for guys these days. Honestly, I don’t ever remember thinking about it.

My son is 15 and he asks me almost once a week how tall I think he’s going to be or tall I was at his age. His friends break each other’s rocks about who’s the shortest also.

I know women have always seemed to like tall men, but men seem obsessed with it now too.

I wonder if it’s more relevant now because of dating apps where you can filter on height. Different than chatting up someone your height in a bar and realizing you get along well with them and have chemistry.

Hmm. I bet you are exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 5'9" and most men I date are around my height. It's fine.

I just ended a relationship with a guy who is 6'2" He was fun to cuddle, since he was much bigger than I, but he was also a lazy lover. I have dated men 2" shorter than I, and they were much better in bed. I think they had to put more effort in and it paid off!

This.

The stereotype is that short men try harder. It’s true.

Hmmm I had never heard that before but it makes sense. I'm about 5'3" and honestly don't know how tall my DH is, probably around 5'4" or 5'5" at most. He's incredible in bed, the best I've had. He doesn't care if I wear heels at all and is very self-confident without being arrogant. I could give two f*cks about how we look in pictures!

... because he's taller than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The stereotype is that short men try harder. It’s true.

I'm the one who is 5'7" with a 5'6" boyfriend. He is an amazing lover. I would choose him a million times over. He's also bald, and overweight. He has plenty of confidence, and I find him very attractive. Before him, I briefly dated a man I considered physically near perfect. He was tall, ripped, gorgeous face. And just terrible in bed. It was like he had no idea what he was doing.

How is George Costanza an amazing lover?

Isn't at least part of being good in bed being attractive?

Honestly I don't have much experience with men, only 5 partners. But I'm fascinated by the thought of someone objectively unattractive -- overweight and bald (I'm assuming in a Costanza way, not a Jason Statham way) -- being an amazing lover. I'm not saying hot = skilled, but even if an ugly guy has skills, how do you get past the ugliness to even appreciate his skills? I mean gross get off me.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming in a Costanza way, not a Jason Statham way

He's definitely not a George Costanza. He has a very handsome face. Looks great with a shaved head. Sexy stubble. Dad bod, but I like it. I wouldn't be with him if he was ugly - but we are all attracted to different types.

His looks, height, etc don't make him great in bed. His attitude, confidence, and enjoyment are what make it fun. Last time we hung out, I was waiting half naked on his bed when he came home from work. He told me I was the most gorgeous thing he'd ever seen, grabbed me, flipped me on my back, went down and got me off three times, and f***** the stressful work day out of both of us. He takes what he wants in bed, but is also very giving. I don't care how tall he is!

[Anonymous]

And Jason Statham is hot. Hot hot.