Dating men who are shorter than you

[Anonymous]

Happy with my shorter dh, I'm 5'10". He's really funny and loves me.

[Anonymous]

I feel like there's a bunch of short men posting trying to convince women that they're better.

I'm sure some short guys are fine. But what's also true is that short guys can be assholess, slobs, treat you badly and be bad in bed just like guys who are taller.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'4", so there aren't many men who are shorter, but I have dated men who are my height, and usually date men on the shorter side. I'd say 5'7"-8" is a perfect height for me. I wouldn't turn down an otherwise great guy, but I really dislike men over 5'10".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'4", so there aren't many men who are shorter, but I have dated men who are my height, and usually date men on the shorter side. I'd say 5'7"-8" is a perfect height for me. I wouldn't turn down an otherwise great guy, but I really dislike men over 5'10".

Theyre often dull. They have no idea how to pursue because women flock to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Short men typo come with overcompensating and insecurity issues. Hard pass.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'4", so there aren't many men who are shorter, but I have dated men who are my height, and usually date men on the shorter side. I'd say 5'7"-8" is a perfect height for me. I wouldn't turn down an otherwise great guy, but I really dislike men over 5'10".

Theyre often dull. They have no idea how to pursue because women flock to them.

I haven't noticed that. I just find them too tall. I don't like the feeling of someone hulking over me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

Women enjoying feeling small is why we need feminism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard pass because I’m 5’2. My last boyfriend was 6’4.

I’m 5’3 and mine is 6’4, es husband was 6’2. I’m with you/ I feel badly being a sizeist but the libido wants what the libido wants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy with my shorter dh, I'm 5'10". He's really funny and loves me.

Height of the woman plays into this. If you're very tall for a woman it's a different kind of shorter (average?) guy who is into you than the guy who is 5'4 with a raging Napoleon complex.

[Anonymous]

I am 5 ‘2 and ideally would like my boyfriend (if I had one...Lol!) to be a few inches taller than me.

But it wouldn’t be a total dealbreaker if he wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’3 and I’ve never dated anyone shorter than 6’2. DH is 6’4”. But it wasn’t conscious; TBH anyone over 5’10” seems tall to me

[Anonymous]

I never could date an actual "short" guy - like the kind who would have a complex about it - because I'm 5'10. But by the same token I'm fine dating a guy shorter than me - my husband is. It's kind of funny to me hearing someone 5'5" explain that they can't date someone 5'7" because SHOES. Baby, you just don't like him (or are shallow about height in general); you're not tall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

This is kind of embarrassing. Don’t say this to anyone in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never could date an actual "short" guy - like the kind who would have a complex about it - because I'm 5'10. But by the same token I'm fine dating a guy shorter than me - my husband is. It's kind of funny to me hearing someone 5'5" explain that they can't date someone 5'7" because SHOES. Baby, you just don't like him (or are shallow about height in general); you're not tall.

I'm the PP who wrote a dissertation on my newfound love of tall men. I have a nosy question for you. Sexually are you submissive and prefer to be dominated? Because I am/do, and that's just not really possible when you've got 2 inches and 25 pounds on your partner.