Dating men who are shorter than you

[Anonymous]

It's a no for me. I'm 5'9. I need a tall man. A man taller than me when I put on 4 inch. Anything less is just stupid.

[Anonymous]

I like short men. I am 5'6." My husband is between 5'7" and 5'8" and
one of my boyfriends was about 5'5". I like being similar in height.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

This is kind of embarrassing. Don’t say this to anyone in real life.

I’m 5’11” and have always felt this way too. I hated myself for it for a long time and have never talked about it but I think unless you are a tall woman you don’t get it

[Anonymous]

Hard pass

[Anonymous]

Depends if the woman is amazon freak height, like 5 8 or taller

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on so many things. Sophie Turner is 5’9” and Jonas is 5’7”. She’s slightly tall for a woman and he’s slightly short for a man but he’s not actually short. And, as the other poster said, they’re both very slight people so it works. But if she was a 5’9” woman and he was actually short for a man, it might be different.

5'7" IS short for a man. At least a white or black man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell, no. But then I'm 5'2" ...

You posted this on the first page, so either remember your trolling or step up your game.

Because the person on the first page is the ONLY woman on DCUM who is 5'2" and won't date men shorter than her??? I'm actually another unique - if short - data point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

This is kind of embarrassing. Don’t say this to anyone in real life.

I’m 5’11” and have always felt this way too. I hated myself for it for a long time and have never talked about it but I think unless you are a tall woman you don’t get it

I’m 5’11” and honestly don’t feel this way. I don’t have some elaborate lady boned for fitting into the crook of a man’s neck and feeling small. I am very thin and always have been so maybe that’s part of it.

Ended up with a husband one inch taller than me.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 6 feet tall when he stands on his money, so I'm good with it

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'5"

I would date my height or up to 6ft. I don't like super tall men. But under 5'5" and it gets into child-like territory

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'10, tended to always date around my height, a couple inches shorter was never an issue. Fiance is 6', he jokes that he feels like a midget around my family because most of the men are 6'5+. I joke that I'm a giant in his family because his mom is 5'1 and his sister is 5'2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT never again.

+1

I'm 5'10" and had never dated a guy taller than me. My ex-H was 5'8". Since a tall guy had never been in my dating orbit, I probably defensively told myself women who cared about height were shallow and ridiculous. I bragged about my then husband's self-assuredness. I really thought it was a non-issue.

But there was that tiny nagging embarrassment...and even shock...every time I saw a picture or video of us together. A friend noted that I was hunched in every pic with my H because I was trying to get our faces on the same plane or not have my boobs line up with his shoulders. Our sex life fizzled early, which I blamed on me having a "low libido". I figured it couldn't have anything to do with him because he was still classically attractive and my friends had crushes on him when we were younger. I patted myself on the back for being secure and patted both him and me on the back for being good feminists.

Eventually we divorced, and for the first time in my life, I dated a man 3 inches taller than me. And suddenly I understood what real attraction is. That was 8 years ago, and I haven't lost any desire for him. Feminism be damned, I like feeling small, I like feeling protected, I like that I can cozy up in his sweatshirts, I like that I can sit on his lap, I like how my head fits perfectly in the crook of his neck. I feel simultaneously embarrassed for being such a cliche and also angry at myself for looking down on women who already had this figured out. It's visceral, not logical.

I hear you.
I'm sure men would say the same thing about their preference for a woman's weight or age if being completely honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is 6 feet tall when he stands on his money, so I'm good with it

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never could date an actual "short" guy - like the kind who would have a complex about it - because I'm 5'10. But by the same token I'm fine dating a guy shorter than me - my husband is. It's kind of funny to me hearing someone 5'5" explain that they can't date someone 5'7" because SHOES. Baby, you just don't like him (or are shallow about height in general); you're not tall.

I'm the PP who wrote a dissertation on my newfound love of tall men. I have a nosy question for you. Sexually are you submissive and prefer to be dominated? Because I am/do, and that's just not really possible when you've got 2 inches and 25 pounds on your partner.

I am and it's fine. DH was a power lifter; he might be an inch shorter than me but he's not diminutive. I've had some bedroom fun with tall guys and there have been some winners but honestly on the whole I find that most of them have few bedroom skills because they've been getting attention since middle school without effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never could date an actual "short" guy - like the kind who would have a complex about it - because I'm 5'10. But by the same token I'm fine dating a guy shorter than me - my husband is. It's kind of funny to me hearing someone 5'5" explain that they can't date someone 5'7" because SHOES. Baby, you just don't like him (or are shallow about height in general); you're not tall.

I'm the PP who wrote a dissertation on my newfound love of tall men. I have a nosy question for you. Sexually are you submissive and prefer to be dominated? Because I am/do, and that's just not really possible when you've got 2 inches and 25 pounds on your partner.

I am and it's fine. DH was a power lifter; he might be an inch shorter than me but he's not diminutive. I've had some bedroom fun with tall guys and there have been some winners but honestly on the whole I find that most of them have few bedroom skills because they've been getting attention since middle school without effort.

6"4+ guy here - just on the last point about tall guys getting attention since middle school without effort. Not so much; I was very tall at a very young age and it took me a while to embrace it and grow into it. Definitely falls into the "if I only knew then what I know now" category.