Dating men who are shorter than you

[Anonymous]

I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'1" and my ex-husband is 5'3". I never had a preference about height, hair or weight. I like short and tall men; I find bald men sexy and I don't mind guys with a Dad bod (as long as they are not obese, but relatively fit). My ex-husband has a lot of issues and insecurities because of his height. He is very successful in his career, but the self-esteem issues coupled with a constant need for admiration was too much for our marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh avoid short men like the plague. As a 5'4 woman who dated a 5'8 man. The height had an awkward feeling during intimacy moments. Hard Pass

I don't understand. You think a four inch difference is awkward "during intimacy moments", so you'd prefer a man MORE than four inches taller than you? I find a big height differential really awkward during sex. I'm 5'3" and think 5'7" or 5'8" is ideal. Anything else and it's just weird. I remember I once tried making out with a six footer. My neck hurt and it was sloppy and uncomfortable. He kept saying it would be easier if we lay down. I just laughed at him (well, at his chest), and that was the end of that. I just cannot have a serious relationship with someone I can't even look in the eye. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eh avoid short men like the plague. As a 5'4 woman who dated a 5'8 man. The height had an awkward feeling during intimacy moments. Hard Pass

I don't understand. You think a four inch difference is awkward "during intimacy moments", so you'd prefer a man MORE than four inches taller than you? I find a big height differential really awkward during sex. I'm 5'3" and think 5'7" or 5'8" is ideal. Anything else and it's just weird. I remember I once tried making out with a six footer. My neck hurt and it was sloppy and uncomfortable. He kept saying it would be easier if we lay down. I just laughed at him (well, at his chest), and that was the end of that. I just cannot have a serious relationship with someone I can't even look in the eye. No thanks.

I snorted. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

My sister dated a short guy with tall money. It turned out she was pursuing his brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

This sounds like a young person issue. All the under 30s care about is how they look in pictures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

This sounds like a young person issue. All the under 30s care about is how they look in pictures.

No I'm in my 40s, but the problem isn't the pictures, it's the reminder (that then stays with me) that I'm taking on the masculine physical role, which makes me feel the opposite of sexy, and he's taking on the feminine role, which is very unattractive to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

This sounds like a young person issue. All the under 30s care about is how they look in pictures.

No I'm in my 40s, but the problem isn't the pictures, it's the reminder (that then stays with me) that I'm taking on the masculine physical role, which makes me feel the opposite of sexy, and he's taking on the feminine role, which is very unattractive to me.

I can't imagine getting all of that from seeing a photo of myself with a man who isn't taller than I am.
I personally prefer rugged, masculine men, but I don't associate that with tall men. In fact, I'd say that most of the tall men I've dated have been rather effeminate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Short men typo come with overcompensating and insecurity issues. Hard pass.

Not all.

My pediatrian only 5'7" I know him and his wife personally she's over six feet. He's a lovely human.

Julia Child's husband was was shorter than her.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

This sounds like a young person issue. All the under 30s care about is how they look in pictures.

No I'm in my 40s, but the problem isn't the pictures, it's the reminder (that then stays with me) that I'm taking on the masculine physical role, which makes me feel the opposite of sexy, and he's taking on the feminine role, which is very unattractive to me.

I can't imagine getting all of that from seeing a photo of myself with a man who isn't taller than I am.
I personally prefer rugged, masculine men, but I don't associate that with tall men. In fact, I'd say that most of the tall men I've dated have been rather effeminate.

I'm 5'11" and my husband is 5'8". We've been married for 40 years and I have to admit, when we met at 18 I was smitten but the fact that he was shorter than me bothered me. It didn't bother him at all and eventually, his confidence and love of my height won me over. All things being equal, would I prefer that he was taller? Yes but his other qualities were much more important. I would also prefer that he was a billionaire. I'm sure he would prefer that I look like Scarlett Johanssen. We have gotten a lot of comments over the years, your husband "lets" you wear heels, I would never date a woman that is taller than me, you two look so funny together, etc. It's their problem, not ours.

[Anonymous]

isn't that model Rosie Huntington something (forgot the name) husband shorter than her?
I wonder what she thinks when she looks at pictures of them together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:isn't that model Rosie Huntington something (forgot the name) husband shorter than her?
I wonder what she thinks when she looks at pictures of them together

Probably not that she wants to rip his clothes off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a tall woman, 5’11”. Every one of my boyfriends has been shorter than me, but mostly in the 1-2” shorter range. My theory is that most tall men, 6’ and up, prefer women much shorter than them.

My DH is about 1.5” shorter than me but he never cares if I wear heels, stand up taller than he does, etc. The difference is between shorter men with confidence, and those without.

And, like PP, I have no interest in being cradled in the nook of a man’s shoulder or whatever. If I want to do that, I’ll do so while laying down.

Do pictures bother you? There's no way to pose close to a man who's shorter than you without him cuddling up to you and taking on the traditionally feminine part of the pose. That doesn't make you feel awkward or turn you off?

No, I do not associate sexual prowess or my own confidence/self-esteem/awkwardness with how we look paired up in pictures? That seems a little silly to me. Then again I also don’t believe all “masculine” energy should be “dominant” nor all “feminine” energy should be “submissive” so YMMV. If you want your shorter man to rail you in bed and he doesn’t/“can’t”, that’s more a confidence issue to me than a height one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:isn't that model Rosie Huntington something (forgot the name) husband shorter than her?
I wonder what she thinks when she looks at pictures of them together

Jason Statham, and yes, he's shorter than her. Lots of Hollywood men are on the shorter side.