Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

You guys are friends with the parents? Because we have zero idea what they did or did not do. Newsflash: You can't intervene in an adult relationship. There is nothing you can do. You can make your displeasure known and offer your support, but if you're adult child tells you to go f*ck off and oh, if you mention it again she'll stop talking with you at all, that's the way it is going to go. And the law is on their side. You also seem really uneducated about patterns of abuse and escalation of abuse. Like, embarrassingly ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

You guys are friends with the parents? Because we have zero idea what they did or did not do. Newsflash: You can't intervene in an adult relationship. There is nothing you can do. You can make your displeasure known and offer your support, but if you're adult child tells you to go f*ck off and oh, if you mention it again she'll stop talking with you at all, that's the way it is going to go. And the law is on their side. You also seem really uneducated about patterns of abuse and escalation of abuse. Like, embarrassingly ignorant.

*your adult

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

You guys are friends with the parents? Because we have zero idea what they did or did not do. Newsflash: You can't intervene in an adult relationship. There is nothing you can do. You can make your displeasure known and offer your support, but if you're adult child tells you to go f*ck off and oh, if you mention it again she'll stop talking with you at all, that's the way it is going to go. And the law is on their side. You also seem really uneducated about patterns of abuse and escalation of abuse. Like, embarrassingly ignorant.

Exactly, but, yu know they raised kids until college and followed all the books, so they know eveything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

ACtually legally something magical does happen when you turn, 18, as in if your child decides they want to see a person no matter how dangerous or toxic, no matter how much you know how awful they are, you can't stop them from seeing them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

So I take it you have had an adult child in an abusive relationship. Go ahead and enlighten us, what steps did you take to get your adult child out of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

Waiting on that outline... Come on now share with the class what should her parents have done that you did when you child was in an abusive relationship, that got him/her out alive and the perpetrator locked up?

[Anonymous]

Has Evan, come out and blamed her parents?

Because if she hasn't it's tasteless, , disgusting, and flat out wrong for you to blame them.

[Anonymous]

How predictable that this thread about a serial abuser has turned into a pile-on about the victim’s parents.

These serial predators will continue to abuse as long as they aren’t held directly accountable for their actions. Manson isn’t half to blame because of anything his victims or their parents did or failed to do.

You may all believe that your children are immune from bad people taking advantage of them because of your stellar parenting and I hope you all are right, but don’t fool yourself into thinking this is true for everyone’s children.

[Anonymous]

For everyone blaming her parents - I was groomed by a much older and abusive man when I was young. My parents tried to intervene and even went as far as harassing him in hopes he’d leave me alone. It didn’t work, and honestly made things worse. I was so wrapped up in him that I turned against my own parents and was mortified over what they did.

Often the only thing you can do it maintain a relationship with your child so they aren’t isolated by their abuser, and be there for them when things get bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How predictable that this thread about a serial abuser has turned into a pile-on about the victim’s parents.

These serial predators will continue to abuse as long as they aren’t held directly accountable for their actions. Manson isn’t half to blame because of anything his victims or their parents did or failed to do.

You may all believe that your children are immune from bad people taking advantage of them because of your stellar parenting and I hope you all are right, but don’t fool yourself into thinking this is true for everyone’s children.

Ack. I feel like this thread has gotten off track. I was one of the posters imploring women to use better sense, but I also completely agree with the above. When posters despaired that she jumped into a relationship w/ someone who looks like a serial killer, we do it while also holding him 100% responsible. I just wanted to be clear on that. It is always always always the abuser’s fault, and I don’t think anyone disagrees. With that knowledge, we are our own best protectors and so there are things we can do to avoid & remove ourselves from abusive relationships and that’s really important to acknowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you blaming her parents need to stop. Once your kid hits 18 you have very little control over them and who has access to them. It's as useless as blaming Evan herself for the abuse.

18 is just a number. Nothing magical happens when you turn 18. Her parents failed her.

You can have the best, most loving, responsible, and empowering parents in the world and still be the victim of assault and abuse. Ask me how I know.

But what Wood went through wasn't random and it wasn't one-and-done. That's the point. There is a huge difference between random attacks and prolonged abuse. Her parents were right there on the sidelines the whole time and did NOTHING. That's despicable.

Exactly.

Actually, the prolonged abuse is the most insidious. It’s the most difficult to detect because the abused and abuser normalize it and conceal it at great lengths (though for different reasons). The prolonged abuse is often initiated with grooming or a honeymoon phase. It’s shrouded in secrecy, shame, and isolation.

The fact is, PPs above, you know nothing about which you speak. Literally nothing. You are attacking parents and undermining Woods’ experience because you think that abused people and their families fit some mold that thanks to your extraordinary parenting you’ll never fall into. And you’re just plain wrong - and ignorant and arrogant. If loving, engaged, responsible parenting was enough ... but it’s not. So please, shhhhhhhhhhhh.

[Anonymous]

3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.

Please do tell WTH you’re implying? That “certain individuals” are not prone to being victims, but predators do seek out certain types of people. You think these are the same thing; they aren’t. And yes, people are randomly abused despite the best efforts of everyone around them. The only person to blame is the abuser. Stop trying to justify victim and parent blaming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.

Please do tell WTH you’re implying? That “certain individuals” are not prone to being victims, but predators do seek out certain types of people. You think these are the same thing; they aren’t. And yes, people are randomly abused despite the best efforts of everyone around them. The only person to blame is the abuser. Stop trying to justify victim and parent blaming.

While 100% safety is never guaranteed, one should learn how to minimize risks.

This girl wasn’t protected in the very predatory Hollywood environment.