DH judgmental about alcohol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

This. Reevaluate. It’s you.

+100. So many people in denial here. No wonder one in eight American adults are alcoholics.

It’s true! So many people are in denial that alcohol can be consumed responsibly.

[Anonymous]

Husband should not have married someone who drinks.
The wife should have married someone more laid back and fun like herself.

[Anonymous]

Child of an alcoholic. Drinking alone bothers me and DH knows this so he doesnt (not that he did in any meaningful quantity before). Lets have a dinner time cocktail together but I don't want to walk in the door from work and see you drinking because that's just depressing. Can't explain why, it's not a huge deal for him.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read the whole thread, but did anyone else notice that in OP’s first post, the husband (when OP is about to drink with friends) says (in OP’s own words) “Don’t come in hammered.” OP has a serious drinking problem and is trying to score enablers on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

You’re not an alcoholic if you have two drinks one night.
Geez.

NIAA defines heavy alcohol use as more than 4 drinks on any day for men or more than 3 drinks for women.

Regarding moderate alcohol consumption:

According to the "Dietary Guidelines for Americans 2015-2020,” U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and U.S. Department of Agriculture, moderate drinking is up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread, but did anyone else notice that in OP’s first post, the husband (when OP is about to drink with friends) says (in OP’s own words) “Don’t come in hammered.” OP has a serious drinking problem and is trying to score enablers on DCUM.

The point is that the spouse is equating all drinking to hammered drinking due to his own woes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread, but did anyone else notice that in OP’s first post, the husband (when OP is about to drink with friends) says (in OP’s own words) “Don’t come in hammered.” OP has a serious drinking problem and is trying to score enablers on DCUM.

Or the DH is overly sensitive due to his loss. My dad is a recovered alcoholic and gets stressed if my mom drinks one small glass of wine. If he notices any effect, like a more relaxed voice, it upsets him.

It is also possible the OP drinks a lot. But having a drink with friends on a weekday does not mean you are an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

OP is either a troll (very possible, as she is clearly responding to negative posts as if she were a NP) or drunk poster or both. Methinks she doth protest too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is either a troll (very possible, as she is clearly responding to negative posts as if she were a NP) or drunk poster or both. Methinks she doth protest too much.

Hi! OP here... the other option is, people actually agree with me.

[Anonymous]

Americans have a very weird view of alcohol. "hard liquor" still carries this weird stigma. It's all so strange. FYI one of those girlie seltzers is the same ABV as a well made mixed drink. The fancy craft beers that cost $20 for 4 cans are usually higher octane than any cocktail (barring the tiki ones from the 60s). A "glass of wine" that some see as fine is not usually a 5 oz pour but a highball margarita is "alchie" somehow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is either a troll (very possible, as she is clearly responding to negative posts as if she were a NP) or drunk poster or both. Methinks she doth protest too much.

Hi! OP here... the other option is, people actually agree with me.

Funny how no one is calling those Blue Zones' centenarians sloshes and hammered! Instead, scientists are saying that their two glasses of red wine daily seem to be an essential clue to aging well and living longer!
This thread also is a perfect showcase of how oblivious people are to their own issues with alcohol and how they are the only thing that matters to them! Damned be the spouse or the kids, or anyone else!
Few posted very clearly that they are children of alcoholics, and now making their spouses miserable with their issues. But none is able to step back and read the post I wrote about how mom made sister and me and every single celebration miserable with her own insane behavior as a child of an abusive alcoholic father!
But, narcissists here are saying, DH can cope with me forbidding him to drink alone, and similar! But, sure, OP is the messed up one! Not people that can't see their own behavior is exactly like OP's DH!
Where is the advice to seek therapy for your own controlling behavior due to your own mental issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You’re not an alcoholic if you have two drinks one night.
Geez.

NIAA defines heavy alcohol use as more than 4 drinks on any day for men or more than 3 drinks for women.

Regarding moderate alcohol consumption:

According to the "Dietary Guidelines for Americans 2015-2020,” U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and U.S. Department of Agriculture, moderate drinking is up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men.

No one is saying that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

Yeah, you have a lot of alcohol in your life, OP. And it’s either always bothered your husband or he has just started realizing it. You two need to start talking. And cut down on the drinking, if it’s bothering him.

[Anonymous]

OP posted on the 8th of January. For all we know she is Orthodox and celebrated Christmas on the 7th. Lots of triggered people here. It is true, Puritanism will continue to mess up the country forever. I wonder how many people posting here that two drinks is too many... bla, bla, are perfectly ok with carrying guns and storming the Capitol!

[Anonymous]

OP your story does not make you an alcoholic. Your DH is paranoid about you going down the same path as his parents and is scrutinizing your behavior. It's a pandemic. There's nothing to do and even "light drinkers" like myself have upped their intake.