DH judgmental about alcohol
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Anonymous
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Children of alcoholics have different reactions to drinking and your husbands’ sounds similar to mine. I get worried when people are drinking more than a couple drinks around me.
I can’t even imagine how terrible it would be if both parents were alcoholics. Please stop thinking of yourself and tone it down. Your husband needs your understanding, not a whiny post about how you can’t have your wine time with the girls. |
Anonymous
This is the OP. We hang out outdoors, by a bonfire. Where did you read that we were inside? |
Anonymous
Are you arguing that someone married to the child of alcoholics should also abstain? Shouldn't that be something a couple agrees upon when they marry or at least down the line, brought up by the spouse with the alcoholic parents? Having a couple drinks with friends isn't acting out - not sure there is something to tone down. It's normal social behavior. |
Anonymous
I was assuming since it’s so cold. I’ll take that back! How old are you guys? Any kids? I can relate to your husband because it bothers me when my husband drinks at home. It’s not a good habit too keep past a certain age IMO. And then of course he passes out on the couch and snores. Lol. There’s the calories too. |
Anonymous
| DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic! |
Anonymous
It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol. |
Anonymous
Chill on the OP. We are in a pandemic and she wants a drink. People need to grow Up and get over their sad childhoods. Get some therapy but dont ruin it for everyone else. |
Anonymous
You're extrapolating. Nobody said they were upset about losing "drinking time." But having your spouse suddenly critical is a life-altering change. Read thru the lens of facts, not your own preconceptions, emotions, or bias. |
Anonymous
| Chances are much higher that you would have a drinking problem because he is at home in that kind of chaos. If you do t have an issue, lay off for his sake. If you can’t do this easily, there is your answer. |
Anonymous
That's literally what the OP said. However, you ignoring that because you don't like that people are saying OP should be less concerned about drinking with friends and more concerned about her husband. You may have a problem with alcohol too, pp and that clouding your lens. |
Anonymous
You definitely have a problem with alcohol. |
Anonymous
The horror! |
Anonymous
You have a very strict view of alcohol. Last night I had a beer, tonight two glasses of wine. Tomorrow I may drink something, I may not. It’s all good. There’s no problem. |
Anonymous
| OP, I think he's hyper attuned to any alcohol consumption due to the recent deaths. Try not take too personally, hopefully it's temporary. |
Anonymous
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If drinking alcohol is causing a problem, the solution is to talk about it and maybe quit drinking. It's not worth arguing. If it's offered while having friends over say no thank you and watch how happy your husband will be. You really don't need to drink to have a nice time. But if you choose booze over your husband your marriage will fall apart.
The smell of liquor on someone's breath is gross. Your husband is telling you he doesn't want you to drink and you're defensive because you do. To me the choice is easy but I don't need to drink. |