WWYD: Husband won't let me work part-time

[Anonymous]

Agree with the plan to just stop doing so much. Do 50% of the laundry and leave the rest, especially his laundry. Make the doctor's appointment for the kids but have him take them. Don't make dinner for several days per week. The kids will be fine with cereal and sandwiches, which he can prepare. Give him a list at the start of the week of the things he needs to do and then, after a few weeks, tell him he needs to take over organizing. He has to FEEL the burden of what you do before he will ever change his behavior and or mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's super frustrating is that the whole thing is about his perspective that it would be "unfair" for me to work part time while he works full time. It's not really about the money. He just doesn't see all that I do to keep the household running, stuff that would still need to be done if I was home more often. He thinks I'd just be laying around on a break like vacation.

There is really no cure for this. I know it's frustrating, but even the best and most empathic don't get the mental load thing and how exhausting it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're working 40 hours a week go to 30 or 35 hours. Do you have to be full-time to maintain any benefits needed for your family such as health insurance?

In what world can you do this? I used to work part-time and it just kept creeping up until I was working 45-50 hours anyway but not getting the full benefits offered.

+1

And most workplaces do not permit people to work part time.