I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a rising senior in a district that is going 100% virtual. I think it’s quite likely it will remain virtual all year. So DD will have missed the last quarter of her junior year and her entire senior year - the most significant parts of HS. If this happened at 32, it would be no biggie. But Junior and Senior years of HS! These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! Yes, I realize that people have gone through worse, but still. My heart is just so heavy that she will be missing out on a very significant time of life.

Don't turn into the parents of 2020's. I have a 2021, too, and it's hard. And our kids have it uniquely hard, just like the 2020's had it uniquely hard, and the 2022's have it uniquely hard and the 2023's have it uniquely hard...

Too many 2020 parents thought their situation and their kids situation was the only challenging situation. It wasn't. Ours isn't either. Our kids will make it through, and they'll help set the standards for the classes that come behind them so that they still do get to experience a lot of the joys and general experiences of being a senior. Support the kids with the reality we're all in, and help them through it.

[Anonymous]

Senior year of high school was fun, but I definitely wouldn't characterize it as one of the most significant parts of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- " These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! "

You wrote that, OP. I can't believe you did. Makes you look so stupid and shallow.

To many people, high school isn't anything special compared to other experiences. You are very wrong to believe that senior year of high school is the be-all, end-all.

If you peaked as a senior in high school, and lived your best life then... I mean, you agree that it's sad, and a reflection on you, right?

All stages of life have fun and memorable experiences. Please don't stuff your senior's head full of regret and disappointment. Work on yourself. You sorely need it.

That’s what I love about so many dcum posters. Supportive and encouraging

[Anonymous]

I agree it's very sad for parents to watch. Probably not as sad for our DC. There is a really good few paragraphs in The Glass Castle where the author is talking to her counselor about leaving high school a year early to move to NY for a job. She lives in utter poverty and neglect, to the point where she is starving and smells, and she is working towards an early escape from her hellish home life. The counselor thinks this is a bad idea because she would miss Senior Week. You don't come off as quite that myopic, but.... sort of.

Try to make this a memorable and fun year for your DC, under the circumstances we find ourselves in. It's reality. Make the most of it. Your kids are young and vibrant and will remember these times fondly, even if they're not your fantasy plans for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- " These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! "

You wrote that, OP. I can't believe you did. Makes you look so stupid and shallow.

To many people, high school isn't anything special compared to other experiences. You are very wrong to believe that senior year of high school is the be-all, end-all.

If you peaked as a senior in high school, and lived your best life then... I mean, you agree that it's sad, and a reflection on you, right?

All stages of life have fun and memorable experiences. Please don't stuff your senior's head full of regret and disappointment. Work on yourself. You sorely need it.

That’s what I love about so many dcum posters. Supportive and encouraging

DP. Pp you are quoting is 100% right although,admittedly,she shough have said it nicer. Come on. OP, your post makes you look so provincial and small-minded,it is painful. Grow up already.

[Anonymous]

OP, you should get out more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been 25 years and I barely remember it. Your kid will be absolutely fine

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, it’s sad for all kids of all ages. But your DD will take her cues from you. If you mode a hopeless, poor me attitude it is likely she’ll feel the same. If you remind her that she has a lot to still be grateful for, maybe this will be a growth and maturing experience for her.

[Anonymous]

I feel worse for kids missing freshman year. That really is the best time for many people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people who are more successful don't care that much about their high school experience after they graduate. It's not really that important.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it’s sad for all kids of all ages. But your DD will take her cues from you. If you mode a hopeless, poor me attitude it is likely she’ll feel the same. If you remind her that she has a lot to still be grateful for, maybe this will be a growth and maturing experience for her.

+1 This is so true for so many things in our kids' lives. You are guiding them in how to deal with what life throws at them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand. Don't let the DCUM meanies get you down. I have three HS kids, but agree that this is especially difficult for rising seniors liked your DD and my DS.

It doesn't matter if the bitter posters in this forum hated high school. For generally happy kids, senior year was the time they get to be the big dogs in clubs or sports, and go through the college application process with their peers. There's prom and graduation, which some of us loved and some of us didn't. But at least we got to do it. I got tired of parents of last year's seniors complaining about their kids missing out and wasn't much focused on loss until the other night. We were confirming class choices and my not particularly communicative 17 year old turned to me and said, "Mom. I just realized something. I walked out the door of my high school in March and I had no idea I would probably never go back to high school. I'm so sad." My heart broke into pieces. That's not saying his life is ruined, or that he can't have a different, yet positive, senior year, despite the circumstances. But you absolutely must acknowledge the loss, both for your child and you, and the move on to focusing on making this year the best it can be. I told him son that I'm sorry. I've been surprised how much his misses school. While I know it isn't ideal, I told him that we have to focus on the good things about this year, including the unique opportunity we have to be together as a family in a more relaxed environment before he goes off to college. It's ok to be sad and angry. But don't let that drive your approach to this year, for your sake and the sake of your daughter.

It’s only a concern if being the big dog is a priority to your child and senior year is their personal peak. I wasn’t editor of my HS newspaper, but I had a post-graduation internship at City Paper that was amazing and taught me more about reporting than I learned in HS. I used that to be a much more hard hitting reporter on the college newspaper.

Great story, but completely missing the point. Any year can be great without the expectation that it is "personal peak." You people act like being a happy kid who likes school and was looking forward to senior year is a personal failing. I'm not the OP, and am trying to put a positive spin on my son's lost senior year, but there is nothing wrong with mourning what is lost. How amazing you are that you had fantastic internship after high school. My son was happy going to school, seeing his friends there, and was looking forward to finishing his senior year with the friends. He has no idea what his future hold, or even if he can go to college in person next year. So your internship story is not the least bit relevant.

It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand. Don't let the DCUM meanies get you down. I have three HS kids, but agree that this is especially difficult for rising seniors liked your DD and my DS.

It doesn't matter if the bitter posters in this forum hated high school. For generally happy kids, senior year was the time they get to be the big dogs in clubs or sports, and go through the college application process with their peers. There's prom and graduation, which some of us loved and some of us didn't. But at least we got to do it. I got tired of parents of last year's seniors complaining about their kids missing out and wasn't much focused on loss until the other night. We were confirming class choices and my not particularly communicative 17 year old turned to me and said, "Mom. I just realized something. I walked out the door of my high school in March and I had no idea I would probably never go back to high school. I'm so sad." My heart broke into pieces. That's not saying his life is ruined, or that he can't have a different, yet positive, senior year, despite the circumstances. But you absolutely must acknowledge the loss, both for your child and you, and the move on to focusing on making this year the best it can be. I told him son that I'm sorry. I've been surprised how much his misses school. While I know it isn't ideal, I told him that we have to focus on the good things about this year, including the unique opportunity we have to be together as a family in a more relaxed environment before he goes off to college. It's ok to be sad and angry. But don't let that drive your approach to this year, for your sake and the sake of your daughter.

It’s only a concern if being the big dog is a priority to your child and senior year is their personal peak. I wasn’t editor of my HS newspaper, but I had a post-graduation internship at City Paper that was amazing and taught me more about reporting than I learned in HS. I used that to be a much more hard hitting reporter on the college newspaper.

Great story, but completely missing the point. Any year can be great without the expectation that it is "personal peak." You people act like being a happy kid who likes school and was looking forward to senior year is a personal failing. I'm not the OP, and am trying to put a positive spin on my son's lost senior year, but there is nothing wrong with mourning what is lost. How amazing you are that you had fantastic internship after high school. My son was happy going to school, seeing his friends there, and was looking forward to finishing his senior year with the friends. He has no idea what his future hold, or even if he can go to college in person next year. So your internship story is not the least bit relevant.

It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

Well OP shouldn't have mentioned in the title of her thread that her DD would be missing one of the most significant parts of life then.

[Anonymous]

Don't think seniors are the only ones facing a loss here.
COVID has given my kids the gift of missing out on the nightmare that is middle school. While a miserable experience, those middle school social mishaps are what shape people into adults and teach them boundaries. lots of special snowflakes are going to emerge on the other side of this, and this generation will end up with even less social skills than they already have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

I can't believe you would compare senior year fun to a baby or a house. And it is absolutely your job to teach your kids to take disappointments in stride, make the most of the present, and look forward to the future.