I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life

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Anonymous wrote:DD is a rising senior in a district that is going 100% virtual. I think it’s quite likely it will remain virtual all year. So DD will have missed the last quarter of her junior year and her entire senior year - the most significant parts of HS. If this happened at 32, it would be no biggie. But Junior and Senior years of HS! These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! Yes, I realize that people have gone through worse, but still. My heart is just so heavy that she will be missing out on a very significant time of life.

Grandma was born in 1906 and lived through the Spanish Flu, Cholera, Yellow Fever, Typhoid, Whooping Cough, Measles, and German Measles. She also got Trench Mouth (not foot) when she worked in Philadelphia City Hall and WWI was winding down.

Despite all of these diseases she still managed to graduate from high school and also was the first woman in her family to go to college.

Life is about tenacity and going forward despite tough times.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t the suffering olympics. People are allowed to be sad. It’s healthy to acknowledge the feelings.

She isn’t sad. She is “so, so sad.”

Barf.

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Anonymous wrote:- " These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! "

You wrote that, OP. I can't believe you did. Makes you look so stupid and shallow.

To many people, high school isn't anything special compared to other experiences. You are very wrong to believe that senior year of high school is the be-all, end-all.

If you peaked as a senior in high school, and lived your best life then... I mean, you agree that it's sad, and a reflection on you, right?

All stages of life have fun and memorable experiences. Please don't stuff your senior's head full of regret and disappointment. Work on yourself. You sorely need it.

And today’s winner of Most Bitter Shrew goes to the PP. Congratulations. Though the competition was fierce, you really earned it.

I think that honor goes to OP. She's irrationally bitter and shrewish that her daughter is missing out on dates and prom, because apparently, it's the highlight of a girl's entire life.
You really want to encourage that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It isn’t the suffering olympics. People are allowed to be sad. It’s healthy to acknowledge the feelings.

But when these feelings are overblown and frivolous, you don't want to enable them either.

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If junior and senior years of high school are the most significant parts of your daughter's entire life that will be VERY sad.

I would encourage you to inspire her to dream bigger than high school. Good grief. Are you from a small town in the Midwest where men sit around reliving their glory days of playing varsity football in high school?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS the school year hasn’t even started and we’ve got this going on already. I can’t even begin to imagine the nonsense these moms are going to drum up with the signs and parades to somehow make up for what the kids have missed. It is what it is. Everyone is getting screwed. You set the tone. You can teach your kid to wallow in self pity or you can help them
Dig deep and learn how to make the best of a bad situation. It’s all up to you.

What makes this uniquely hard is that many of us believe they should be in school. It’s not like the school burned down snd they literally can’t go. This is all based on someone’s “best guess” decision. And many of us believe it is wrong.

Move to Georgia then. Schools are open there. Stop whining and put on your big girl panties.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS the school year hasn’t even started and we’ve got this going on already. I can’t even begin to imagine the nonsense these moms are going to drum up with the signs and parades to somehow make up for what the kids have missed. It is what it is. [b]Everyone is getting screwed. [i]You set the tone. You can teach your kid to wallow in self pity or you can help them
Dig deep and learn how to make the best of a bad situation. It’s all up to you.

Not really. DH is thrilled to be working from home.

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Anonymous wrote:On the other hand, this event will be a generation marker. Your daughter isn't alone, and is technically sharing an experience with many of her peers. It isn't the same as if your daughter were being forced to take a year off at home because she'd been hurt in an accident.

OP this is a good way to think about it. Her generation will come together over this not shared, but shared, experience. Tell her to keep talking with her friends, and to keep a diary.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS the school year hasn’t even started and we’ve got this going on already. I can’t even begin to imagine the nonsense these moms are going to drum up with the signs and parades to somehow make up for what the kids have missed. It is what it is. Everyone is getting screwed. You set the tone. You can teach your kid to wallow in self pity or you can help them
Dig deep and learn how to make the best of a bad situation. It’s all up to you.

What makes this uniquely hard is that many of us believe they should be in school. It’s not like the school burned down snd they literally can’t go. This is all based on someone’s “best guess” decision. And many of us believe it is wrong.

+1000. It all seems so ridiculously unnecessary.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not exactly the same but I was just telling our neighbor about how my mom felt this way my senior year (and still brings it up). She was so upset that the 9/11 and the Sniper “ruined” our last years of high school. Meanwhile that’s not what I remember about my wonderful high school experience. I remember the hours of paper football we played during lunch in our classrooms (no cafeteria since the walls were glass), I remember running the halls of the school for indoor practice, I remember our drunk AP Euro teacher and his Cold War stories.... kids are resilient and they are flexible. Their superpower is feeling invincible. They’ll be ok. My mom otoh is still not over my ruined senior year.

Your mom was being ridiculous.

Totes. What a drama llama.

PP here with the drama llama mom. Totally. That was my point to the OP. Chill out. Your kid will be fine.

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I loved my high school years in FCPS. I'm sad too OP. I really hope there are some creative solutions that come about this year. Spring was a disaster academically and socially.

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I seriously hope that my senior doesn’t find this year to be one of the most significant parts of life. We’re all weathering this unexpected change in the way education is delivered just fine. I actually only know a handful of people who think HS is a best part of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a rising senior in a district that is going 100% virtual. I think it’s quite likely it will remain virtual all year. So DD will have missed the last quarter of her junior year and her entire senior year - the most significant parts of HS. If this happened at 32, it would be no biggie. But Junior and Senior years of HS! These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! Yes, I realize that people have gone through worse, but still. My heart is just so heavy that she will be missing out on a very significant time of life.

Have you ever had a real tragedy in your life? I’m afraid for you when you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD's senior year in HS almost killed her, literally. HS bites.

Obviously not everyone enjoys HS, but most people enjoy their youth and look back fondly on it.

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Anonymous wrote:All of these concerns are small potatoes. I am more worried about the rest of life's milestones. Will my kids be able to be employed, will they get married, have kids, will the planet survive.

It’s about the “fun”. Yes, being employed is more important, but it isn’t fun.