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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand. Don't let the DCUM meanies get you down. I have three HS kids, but agree that this is especially difficult for rising seniors liked your DD and my DS.

It doesn't matter if the bitter posters in this forum hated high school. For generally happy kids, senior year was the time they get to be the big dogs in clubs or sports, and go through the college application process with their peers. There's prom and graduation, which some of us loved and some of us didn't. But at least we got to do it. I got tired of parents of last year's seniors complaining about their kids missing out and wasn't much focused on loss until the other night. We were confirming class choices and my not particularly communicative 17 year old turned to me and said, "Mom. I just realized something. I walked out the door of my high school in March and I had no idea I would probably never go back to high school. I'm so sad."  My heart broke into pieces. That's not saying his life is ruined, or that he can't have a different, yet positive, senior year, despite the circumstances. But you absolutely must acknowledge the loss, both for your child and you, and the move on to focusing on making this year the best it can be. I told him son that I'm sorry. I've been surprised how much his misses school. While I know it isn't ideal, I told him that we have to focus on the good things about this year, including the unique opportunity we have to be together as a family in a more relaxed environment before he goes off to college. It's ok to be sad and angry. But don't let that drive your approach to this year, for your sake and the sake of your daughter. [/quote]

It’s only a concern if being the big dog is a priority to your child and senior year is their personal peak. I wasn’t editor of my HS newspaper, but I had a post-graduation internship at City Paper that was amazing and taught me more about reporting than I learned in HS. I used that to be a much more hard hitting reporter on the college newspaper. [/quote]

Great story, but completely missing the point. Any year can be great without the expectation that it is "personal peak." You people act like being a happy kid who likes school and was looking forward to senior year is a personal failing. I'm not the OP, and am trying to put a positive spin on my son's lost senior year, but there is nothing wrong with mourning what is lost. How amazing you are that you had fantastic internship after high school. My son was happy going to school, seeing his friends there, and was looking forward to finishing his senior year with the friends. He has no idea what his future hold, or even if he can go to college in person next year. So your internship story is not the least bit relevant.

It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

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