I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life

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Anonymous wrote:Don't think seniors are the only ones facing a loss here.
COVID has given my kids the gift of missing out on the nightmare that is middle school. While a miserable experience, those middle school social mishaps are what shape people into adults and teach them boundaries. lots of special snowflakes are going to emerge on the other side of this, and this generation will end up with even less social skills than they already have.

LOL WTF.....

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My youngest is a tween and missing his last summer to be a kid glorifying in sports camps, swim team, riding bikes etc. Next year he will be a teenager.It's very sad for me, and a big loss -- albeit unbeknownst -- to him. But such is life. We have to make the best of it. Sniff.

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There are people who peak in high school. I can see how a distanced senior year would be devastating for them. But for everyone else? There’s college, grad school and all of your 20’s for all sorts of youthful adventures. High school is just a gateway to the good stuff!

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Anonymous wrote:It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

I can't believe you would compare senior year fun to a baby or a house. And it is absolutely your job to teach your kids to take disappointments in stride, make the most of the present, and look forward to the future.

It is a parent's job to encourage kids to take disappointments in stride. It is not the a parent's job to tell a child their feelings don't matter. In fact, failing to acknowledge feelings of loss undermines the resiliency we are trying to foster. It doesn't matter if you hated high school, don't remember senior year, or remember senior year as the worst year of your life. If OP's DD was looking forward to it and is upset about losing the experience she expected, it is perfectly fine to let her experience that sense of loss before reframing the year in the most positive light. And the same is true of OP's feeling of loss for her daughter. She has a right to feel that way - this situation sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are people who peak in high school. I can see how a distanced senior year would be devastating for them. But for everyone else? There’s college, grad school and all of your 20’s for all sorts of youthful adventures. High school is just a gateway to the good stuff!

In fairness, right now it feels like a gateway to more uncertainty. But I understand what you are saying.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

I can't believe you would compare senior year fun to a baby or a house. And it is absolutely your job to teach your kids to take disappointments in stride, make the most of the present, and look forward to the future.

It is a parent's job to encourage kids to take disappointments in stride. It is not the a parent's job to tell a child their feelings don't matter. In fact, failing to acknowledge feelings of loss undermines the resiliency we are trying to foster. It doesn't matter if you hated high school, don't remember senior year, or remember senior year as the worst year of your life. If OP's DD was looking forward to it and is upset about losing the experience she expected, it is perfectly fine to let her experience that sense of loss before reframing the year in the most positive light. And the same is true of OP's feeling of loss for her daughter. She has a right to feel that way - this situation sucks.

+1 We bought 2020 dd a prom dress on March 8th. Obviously it had to be returned. Her school only does senior prom, no homecoming, etc. It is what it is.

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It might be sad but it is also revealing what you posted. And the reason we are in this cluster ef. You did not mention education once in your list of regrets. That is why we are dying and have people who think this is a hoax, Bill Gates' plot to nanno chip us. And that masks will kill us, cause that is what they do! The reason other countries are doing better in managing coronavirus is bcs they have a larger percentage of better educated people who are not dumb arse*s. Yet, you are bemoaning her not having a prom and a good time, instead of bemoaning her education suffering. Truly appalling. We all know that most of us are not friend with people from HS, maybe we have a couple of contacts. Or maybe you are too young and don't know that, but being that parents are older in the DMV, you are likely older than me. You should know what matters in life, and prom is not it!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like dismissing someone's miscarriage by saying it wasn't a real baby, or dismissing sadness over a house burning down by saying that the person is too materialistic. Losing something that is important to you sucks. Kids don't have the experience to understand that there will be many more highlights to come.

I can't believe you would compare senior year fun to a baby or a house. And it is absolutely your job to teach your kids to take disappointments in stride, make the most of the present, and look forward to the future.

It is a parent's job to encourage kids to take disappointments in stride. It is not the a parent's job to tell a child their feelings don't matter. In fact, failing to acknowledge feelings of loss undermines the resiliency we are trying to foster. It doesn't matter if you hated high school, don't remember senior year, or remember senior year as the worst year of your life. If OP's DD was looking forward to it and is upset about losing the experience she expected, it is perfectly fine to let her experience that sense of loss before reframing the year in the most positive light. And the same is true of OP's feeling of loss for her daughter. She has a right to feel that way - this situation sucks.

This is not about the child’s feelings. This is about OP’s feelings. And while she has a right to feel the way she does, it doesn’t mean that her reaction is mature, reasonable, or helpful.

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Does your daughter enjoy school or are you just projecting? I hated high school and would have been delighted with getting out of attending for a year.

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I don't even remember most of Senior year, so I don't think there is cause to over dramatize it; supportive of the kids' emotions, yes, but don't add to the drama.

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Each generation has their joys and challenges. The joys and challenges of your generation are different than those of your child. My dad is often sad that we didn't get to grow up as free as he did in a small community with a one room school house. I never knew anything but a cul de sac and biking around until the street lights went on. My kids have a totally different experience with its own highs and lows. Don't make their life about you. As long as we remain employed, and can WFH, and all my loved ones are healthy I won't complain one bit and yes I have a rising Senior.

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What total local drivel! Expand your circle and interests op, read something educational one hour per day. Maybe then you will not think that Senior year in HS is the most significant part of life! How small-minded and pathetic of you.

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Anonymous wrote:- " These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! "

You wrote that, OP. I can't believe you did. Makes you look so stupid and shallow.

To many people, high school isn't anything special compared to other experiences. You are very wrong to believe that senior year of high school is the be-all, end-all.

If you peaked as a senior in high school, and lived your best life then... I mean, you agree that it's sad, and a reflection on you, right?

All stages of life have fun and memorable experiences. Please don't stuff your senior's head full of regret and disappointment. Work on yourself. You sorely need it.

Say what you want, but older people will often tell a lot of stories from their HS days. A lot more than the stories that they have from when they were 41-42.

The only old people I know who do that didn't go to college and had kids right out of high school.

They're reminiscing because the loss is significant compared to the immediate ramifications of parenthood at a young age.

Yeah I feel much worse for the people graduating from college in 2021. Senior year of college for most people is a lot more fun than high school plus they are graduating into what will likely be an extremely tough job market.

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High School is "one of the most significant parts of life"? Wow. Not by a long shot.

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Find reasonable work arounds. You can. Adapt to a difficult situation, and know that it involves EVERYONE. This isn't the worst part. Dying is the worst part.

Make it a family duty to help others, that will be what she remrmbers.