I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life

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Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.

It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.

I’m guessing by “goofy” and “having a blast” you mean drinking. Stop speaking for the rest of us. Some of us survived hs and college without being “goofy”

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Anonymous wrote:My DD's senior year in HS almost killed her, literally. HS bites.

Obviously not everyone enjoys HS, but most people enjoy their youth and look back fondly on it.

Youth doesn't end at 18.

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Yes the politics of staying close of this have hurt the students

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Be angry at Trump and GOP.

They have fu**ed this whole country.

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This thread reeks of privilege.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop whining and enjoy this time with her. You will probably never spend as much time with her as you do now. Shoot, from how you are acting she is going to apply to college in California or Canada to be far away from you.

No one cares about high school except for people who did nothing else. Yes I had good high school years but it wasn't my life. You should be more worried that she does well in Calc and is ready emotionally for college.

Classic DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm completely frustrated that my rising junior is going to have a totally subpar HS education, but I really couldn't care less about the social stuff. Mine maybe an outlier, but he spends tons of time with his friends online and on the phone now.

I feel badly for college kids (and their parents) -- because part of what you're paying for with college is the experience of living with a bunch of other same-aged people and having a lot of time to learn from them and make stupid mistakes and generally grow up. Paying almost full freight for a DL college experience (or worse, the tormented in-person experience with a million restrictions and terrified faculty) would be awful. But I can't imagine being distraught because my kid isn't going to go to a homecoming dance. Ridiculous.

Oh, but the social part doesn’t matter. They’ll have plenty of time for social experiences later!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.

It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.

NP here. DD just graduated hs. Her experience was the exact opposite of yours. She had about 4 friends and had to schedule any hangout days in advance. She did not have a car. I’m glad she didn’t peak in hs.

Well admittedly the HS years did used to be a lot more fun that what these kids experience.

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OP, I understand. Don't let the DCUM meanies get you down. I have three HS kids, but agree that this is especially difficult for rising seniors liked your DD and my DS.

It doesn't matter if the bitter posters in this forum hated high school. For generally happy kids, senior year was the time they get to be the big dogs in clubs or sports, and go through the college application process with their peers. There's prom and graduation, which some of us loved and some of us didn't. But at least we got to do it. I got tired of parents of last year's seniors complaining about their kids missing out and wasn't much focused on loss until the other night. We were confirming class choices and my not particularly communicative 17 year old turned to me and said, "Mom. I just realized something. I walked out the door of my high school in March and I had no idea I would probably never go back to high school. I'm so sad." My heart broke into pieces. That's not saying his life is ruined, or that he can't have a different, yet positive, senior year, despite the circumstances. But you absolutely must acknowledge the loss, both for your child and you, and the move on to focusing on making this year the best it can be. I told him son that I'm sorry. I've been surprised how much his misses school. While I know it isn't ideal, I told him that we have to focus on the good things about this year, including the unique opportunity we have to be together as a family in a more relaxed environment before he goes off to college. It's ok to be sad and angry. But don't let that drive your approach to this year, for your sake and the sake of your daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes the politics of staying close of this have hurt the students

Politics? It’s not politics. It’s a pandemic.

Some of you are insane.

These aren’t politics decisions. Politics has nothing to do with it. Zero. Zilch. Granted, a few morons clamor to open but they’re fringe types who don’t represent mainstream thought and generally lack intelligence, but it doesn’t come from a political or tribal place. Morons are morons.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.

It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.

I’m guessing by “goofy” and “having a blast” you mean drinking. Stop speaking for the rest of us. Some of us survived hs and college without being “goofy”

No by goofy and having fun, I mean the light hearted silliness that is pretty inherent with kids this age when they hang out. Now the insane spring break I had in college on the other hand...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD's senior year in HS almost killed her, literally. HS bites.

Obviously not everyone enjoys HS, but most people enjoy their youth and look back fondly on it.

Youth doesn't end at 18.

Of course not. I said in an earlier post I’d be even sadder if this happened while she was in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.

It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.

I’m guessing by “goofy” and “having a blast” you mean drinking. Stop speaking for the rest of us. Some of us survived hs and college without being “goofy”

No by goofy and having fun, I mean the light hearted silliness that is pretty inherent with kids this age when they hang out. Now the insane spring break I had in college on the other hand...

Right. It's a cumulative experience of getting to be the big dogs in school for the first time as you get ready to go off to college. It's a shame there are so many miserable people on this board. Senior year is a celebratory and transitional year.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand. Don't let the DCUM meanies get you down. I have three HS kids, but agree that this is especially difficult for rising seniors liked your DD and my DS.

It doesn't matter if the bitter posters in this forum hated high school. For generally happy kids, senior year was the time they get to be the big dogs in clubs or sports, and go through the college application process with their peers. There's prom and graduation, which some of us loved and some of us didn't. But at least we got to do it. I got tired of parents of last year's seniors complaining about their kids missing out and wasn't much focused on loss until the other night. We were confirming class choices and my not particularly communicative 17 year old turned to me and said, "Mom. I just realized something. I walked out the door of my high school in March and I had no idea I would probably never go back to high school. I'm so sad." My heart broke into pieces. That's not saying his life is ruined, or that he can't have a different, yet positive, senior year, despite the circumstances. But you absolutely must acknowledge the loss, both for your child and you, and the move on to focusing on making this year the best it can be. I told him son that I'm sorry. I've been surprised how much his misses school. While I know it isn't ideal, I told him that we have to focus on the good things about this year, including the unique opportunity we have to be together as a family in a more relaxed environment before he goes off to college. It's ok to be sad and angry. But don't let that drive your approach to this year, for your sake and the sake of your daughter.

It’s only a concern if being the big dog is a priority to your child and senior year is their personal peak. I wasn’t editor of my HS newspaper, but I had a post-graduation internship at City Paper that was amazing and taught me more about reporting than I learned in HS. I used that to be a much more hard hitting reporter on the college newspaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.

It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.

I’m guessing by “goofy” and “having a blast” you mean drinking. Stop speaking for the rest of us. Some of us survived hs and college without being “goofy”

No by goofy and having fun, I mean the light hearted silliness that is pretty inherent with kids this age when they hang out. Now the insane spring break I had in college on the other hand...

Right. It's a cumulative experience of getting to be the big dogs in school for the first time as you get ready to go off to college. It's a shame there are so many miserable people on this board. Senior year is a celebratory and transitional year.

Did you go to a k-12 school?

Otherwise, kids have multiple opportunities to be the oldest grade. Around here 5th graders get to be the big dogs. That’s really the last year they should care about that anyway.