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Anonymous wrote:Is this often? We are in early forties, have been sleeping apart 8 years now. I hate it. DH can't sleep well at night. Our sex life has never been great but last 2 years or so got really bad. I am in great shape and he loves me a lot. He is a loyal husband but I hate this arrangement.
Anyone sleeping in separate bedrooms and happily married?
Wow! Similar situation for last 4 years - my DH uses guest room every other night because of back issues and says it helps him sleep better because our bed is not comfortable. I’ve suggested we buy a new bed that we both like but he’s not willing to pay $5k for good mattress at this point and doesn’t think one exists that will help. Sex life is non existent but he’s loyal, respectful, great dad, and supportive in other ways. He’s never had a high sex drive and I realize we are essentially roommates/best friends. I’ve gotten used to being “alone” every other night and the dog is happy in his spot!!! It sucks seeing your marriage evolve differently than you imagined and if it’s a deal breaker for you to not sleep together, then it’s ok to voice your concerns. DH has depression and naturally avoids confrontation, but thankfully he’s been virtually meeting with a counselor which helps but nothing is perfect. Right now, the sleeping arrangements are low on things to focus on. On another note, my parents are in their 70s- still married and have their own bedrooms - but happy is all relative 😉
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