Is it rude to take my toddler with me when I go in for monitoring?

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Anonymous wrote:I have to think that the majority of the women making comments like 15:44 are secondary infertility sufferers and not victims of primary infertility. In my experience, the most sensitive women in the world to the whole exposure to babies, baby showers, children in waiting rooms, etc. are those women that suffered from primary infertility---because they know exactly what it feels like.

very good point i agree w/ you. 15:44 is completely insensitive. who knows, maybe she's never had to step foot in a fertility clinic? lucky her for being so "brave"....

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Anonymous wrote:I can see both sides of the dispute. A little sensitivity and empathy goes a long way!!!

I recall seeing children when I was going in for treatment and I remember it not bothering me too much (unless as otehrs mentioned, the child was disruptive), but it did get harder as my failures mounted.

But, I felt the same pain whether I was in the waiting room or on the elevator with a mom and her newborn. If I could avoid seeing a baby during htis stressful time, I would have preferred it! But obviously, that wasn't possible and I just had to deal.

My advice - try not to bring a child...that is the nicest thing to do, but if you have to bring them with you, keep them quiet!

Wonderful Post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to think that the majority of the women making comments like 15:44 are secondary infertility sufferers and not victims of primary infertility. In my experience, the most sensitive women in the world to the whole exposure to babies, baby showers, children in waiting rooms, etc. are those women that suffered from primary infertility---because they know exactly what it feels like.

As a side note -I was a primary infertility sufferer, and will be a secondary if we try for another. I still remember what it feels like. And I know many others of us do, too, so please don't discount us or feel like we've forgotten what it means to chase the dream of being a mom to even one.

FWIW, kids never bothered me, but I can see why they might. I remember going for my first u/s after a successful IVF -and seeing a patient crying with her husband in the waiting room. That really tempered any of my excitement -it's a sad fact, but the RE is painful for many women. Short of a catastrophic emergency, I think i will leave my DS at home when I try for #2.

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Anonymous wrote:seriously you want the rest of the world to change so you don't have to experience any pain, this site makes me think the female population has gone completely insane. Put your big girl panties on and get over it!!

Again, it's about compassion..which clearly you have none of. No one is expecting the world to change..but I also wouldnt eat a Big Mac in front of a starving man..It sounds like you would and I'm sure you'd tell him to suck it up...