I can’t do this anymore. I think I am having a mental meltdown

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will do what's best for the overall health and safety of my family. If that means we continue to shelter-in-place, then so be it. My kids go outside and play every day. They sometimes play at a distance with other kids. My older kid connects with friends online. I took my kids to the park on Monday, but we kept our distance from other people. This isn't an all or nothing situation, and it never really was. You just have to be mindful, careful, and minimize people contact at this junction. It won't last forever. Yes, its very, very challenging teleworking, being tech support, teaching kids, and trying to make sure assignments are turned in, particularly when teachers are vague, but it is what is for now. I haven't been 100% successful and I dare anyone at work or school to complain about it. I am doing my best.

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I thinnk people who are having mental breakdowns are the ones who were not very involved parents even before COVID. I think the pandemic has made it clear how dysfunctional many families were. That is the reason child abuse and domestic violence has increased to. Earlier people could escape outside the home. Now we are at home and if it is not a haven then everything falls apart.

It is not an all or nothing situation. People are being creative and kids are also playing outside, studying and connecting with friends online. Is your house is a bit messier? Are the chores not done? Have you not been folding clothes after doing laundry? Yes. For most of us all of this is happening and these are minor inconveninces. There are a lot of benefits of staying at home too - kids being able to sleep in duing the week, No commute, Being with family, leisurely pace of school work, no running from one EC to another...these are all benefits that evens out the drawbacks.

Wait what? Are you saying that if you’re having a hard time now that means your family was already dysfunctional or you were a checked out parent? That’s ludicrous.

DP here. Yes, I think parents who were super hands off/checked out before or outsourced at ton of things are struggling more now. I am SAHM whose husband works a regular 40 hour/week job. We didn't outsource cleaning or have childcare beyond an occasional date night. This hasn't really been that much of an adjustment for us other than everyone missing friends, which is a little better now that we are seeing people outdoors.

LOL. You are a stay at home mom. You didn't have a day job before coronavirus, and now your day job is to homeschool your kids. Before covid, I was at work every day while my children were at school. I don't consider school outsourcing -- I consider it a necessary component of my kids' social and intellectual development. After school, they did an hour or two of aftercare for socializing time, or gymnastics classes. Now I am supposed to homeschool them, do all my work from home, and meet all of the socialization needs that were previously met by peers. And since my husband is essential and going in to work every day, I am doing this alone. Of course those of us with JOBS are struggling more than people like you.

[Anonymous]

We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

Because of the mass protests, don’t you think we should extend social distancing until we see if the gatherings produce a second surge? The states that opened early are seeing a big jump in diagnosed cases.

[Anonymous]

Yep. My 4 year old and 2 year old are going to camp/daycare, starting in July. We've been going to playgrounds for the last couple of weeks. Got a babysitter to take them a couple hours a day.

We've also got a 7 year old we've been homeschooling and two full-time jobs. If you have kids older than 5 or were a stay at home parent before this, of course it's not as difficult. Some of us are in a more difficult position. I won't continue to suffer for a very small risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

Because of the mass protests, don’t you think we should extend social distancing until we see if the gatherings produce a second surge? The states that opened early are seeing a big jump in diagnosed cases.

+1. We’re definitely in a wait-and-see mode because of the protests. I wish I could be comfortable to do play dates with my 7 yr old and 2 yr old but I’m not.

[Anonymous]

Where are all these open summer camps? The only ones I can find are online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will do what's best for the overall health and safety of my family. If that means we continue to shelter-in-place, then so be it. My kids go outside and play every day. They sometimes play at a distance with other kids. My older kid connects with friends online. I took my kids to the park on Monday, but we kept our distance from other people. This isn't an all or nothing situation, and it never really was. You just have to be mindful, careful, and minimize people contact at this junction. It won't last forever. Yes, its very, very challenging teleworking, being tech support, teaching kids, and trying to make sure assignments are turned in, particularly when teachers are vague, but it is what is for now. I haven't been 100% successful and I dare anyone at work or school to complain about it. I am doing my best.

+ 1

I thinnk people who are having mental breakdowns are the ones who were not very involved parents even before COVID. I think the pandemic has made it clear how dysfunctional many families were. That is the reason child abuse and domestic violence has increased to. Earlier people could escape outside the home. Now we are at home and if it is not a haven then everything falls apart.

It is not an all or nothing situation. People are being creative and kids are also playing outside, studying and connecting with friends online. Is your house is a bit messier? Are the chores not done? Have you not been folding clothes after doing laundry? Yes. For most of us all of this is happening and these are minor inconveninces. There are a lot of benefits of staying at home too - kids being able to sleep in duing the week, No commute, Being with family, leisurely pace of school work, no running from one EC to another...these are all benefits that evens out the drawbacks.

Wait what? Are you saying that if you’re having a hard time now that means your family was already dysfunctional or you were a checked out parent? That’s ludicrous.

DP here. Yes, I think parents who were super hands off/checked out before or outsourced at ton of things are struggling more now. I am SAHM whose husband works a regular 40 hour/week job. We didn't outsource cleaning or have childcare beyond an occasional date night. This hasn't really been that much of an adjustment for us other than everyone missing friends, which is a little better now that we are seeing people outdoors.

I have a different take. I think the parents who were very controlling before, such that their kids didn't have unapproved interactions and who already limited playdates, no exposure to babysitters, no group camps, etc., are not struggling. This is their dream, in fact -- they can isolate and control their kids even more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

That's basically the social version of looting because everyone else is. Just because other people are doing it doesn't absolve you of your moral obligation to exercise caution and care for your fellow human beings. Also if you have play dates, don't complain about schools not opening in the fall because you are part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

That's basically the social version of looting because everyone else is. Just because other people are doing it doesn't absolve you of your moral obligation to exercise caution and care for your fellow human beings. Also if you have play dates, don't complain about schools not opening in the fall because you are part of the problem.

You people need to GO AWAY you've had your run but now this is over!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

That's basically the social version of looting because everyone else is. Just because other people are doing it doesn't absolve you of your moral obligation to exercise caution and care for your fellow human beings. Also if you have play dates, don't complain about schools not opening in the fall because you are part of the problem.

You people need to GO AWAY you've had your run but now this is over!

No one needs to “go away”. Please stop. No one had a “run”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We can’t as a society so social distancing is still a thing when these massive rallies and riots are taking place. Thousands of people. Yes, I think your kids can have play dates.

Because of the mass protests, don’t you think we should extend social distancing until we see if the gatherings produce a second surge? The states that opened early are seeing a big jump in diagnosed cases.

Yes, Europe is on a decline. Sooooo

[Anonymous]

One of my elementary age children is particularly hard. She needs a lot of attention - she doesn't have special needs or at least I didn't think so - but she has very different interests to me at least. We do great when we plan an activity and spend time doing it but the endless days of her melting down for everything is exhausting. All my kids are sick of each other. This needs to be over by September or I'm going to be in bed every day with a bottle of gin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will do what's best for the overall health and safety of my family. If that means we continue to shelter-in-place, then so be it. My kids go outside and play every day. They sometimes play at a distance with other kids. My older kid connects with friends online. I took my kids to the park on Monday, but we kept our distance from other people. This isn't an all or nothing situation, and it never really was. You just have to be mindful, careful, and minimize people contact at this junction. It won't last forever. Yes, its very, very challenging teleworking, being tech support, teaching kids, and trying to make sure assignments are turned in, particularly when teachers are vague, but it is what is for now. I haven't been 100% successful and I dare anyone at work or school to complain about it. I am doing my best.

+ 1

I thinnk people who are having mental breakdowns are the ones who were not very involved parents even before COVID. I think the pandemic has made it clear how dysfunctional many families were. That is the reason child abuse and domestic violence has increased to. Earlier people could escape outside the home. Now we are at home and if it is not a haven then everything falls apart.

It is not an all or nothing situation. People are being creative and kids are also playing outside, studying and connecting with friends online. Is your house is a bit messier? Are the chores not done? Have you not been folding clothes after doing laundry? Yes. For most of us all of this is happening and these are minor inconveninces. There are a lot of benefits of staying at home too - kids being able to sleep in duing the week, No commute, Being with family, leisurely pace of school work, no running from one EC to another...these are all benefits that evens out the drawbacks.

Wait what? Are you saying that if you’re having a hard time now that means your family was already dysfunctional or you were a checked out parent? That’s ludicrous.

DP here. Yes, I think parents who were super hands off/checked out before or outsourced at ton of things are struggling more now. I am SAHM whose husband works a regular 40 hour/week job. We didn't outsource cleaning or have childcare beyond an occasional date night. This hasn't really been that much of an adjustment for us other than everyone missing friends, which is a little better now that we are seeing people outdoors.

LOL. You are a stay at home mom. You didn't have a day job before coronavirus, and now your day job is to homeschool your kids. Before covid, I was at work every day while my children were at school. I don't consider school outsourcing -- I consider it a necessary component of my kids' social and intellectual development. After school, they did an hour or two of aftercare for socializing time, or gymnastics classes. Now I am supposed to homeschool them, do all my work from home, and meet all of the socialization needs that were previously met by peers. And since my husband is essential and going in to work every day, I am doing this alone. Of course those of us with JOBS are struggling more than people like you.

+1000 LOL at the SAHM weighing in on how *not challenging* this is for her.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure my marriage isn't going to survive this. Egg the SAHM for weighing in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will do what's best for the overall health and safety of my family. If that means we continue to shelter-in-place, then so be it. My kids go outside and play every day. They sometimes play at a distance with other kids. My older kid connects with friends online. I took my kids to the park on Monday, but we kept our distance from other people. This isn't an all or nothing situation, and it never really was. You just have to be mindful, careful, and minimize people contact at this junction. It won't last forever. Yes, its very, very challenging teleworking, being tech support, teaching kids, and trying to make sure assignments are turned in, particularly when teachers are vague, but it is what is for now. I haven't been 100% successful and I dare anyone at work or school to complain about it. I am doing my best.

+ 1

I thinnk people who are having mental breakdowns are the ones who were not very involved parents even before COVID. I think the pandemic has made it clear how dysfunctional many families were. That is the reason child abuse and domestic violence has increased to. Earlier people could escape outside the home. Now we are at home and if it is not a haven then everything falls apart.

It is not an all or nothing situation. People are being creative and kids are also playing outside, studying and connecting with friends online. Is your house is a bit messier? Are the chores not done? Have you not been folding clothes after doing laundry? Yes. For most of us all of this is happening and these are minor inconveninces. There are a lot of benefits of staying at home too - kids being able to sleep in duing the week, No commute, Being with family, leisurely pace of school work, no running from one EC to another...these are all benefits that evens out the drawbacks.

Wait what? Are you saying that if you’re having a hard time now that means your family was already dysfunctional or you were a checked out parent? That’s ludicrous.

DP here. Yes, I think parents who were super hands off/checked out before or outsourced at ton of things are struggling more now. I am SAHM whose husband works a regular 40 hour/week job. We didn't outsource cleaning or have childcare beyond an occasional date night. This hasn't really been that much of an adjustment for us other than everyone missing friends, which is a little better now that we are seeing people outdoors.

I have a different take. I think the parents who were very controlling before, such that their kids didn't have unapproved interactions and who already limited playdates, no exposure to babysitters, no group camps, etc., are not struggling. This is their dream, in fact -- they can isolate and control their kids even more.

This is sooooo spot on! Now the controlling parents are even more emboldened than they were before, and now they can judge everyone else. It really is about control. I sense a lot of anxious kids in our future.