I can’t do this anymore. I think I am having a mental meltdown

[Anonymous]

I feel like a terrible mother. I can’t do this anymore. I am going to send my kids to any camp that is open. I am going to take my kids to a playground and pool when they open. I will let my kids play with any family that is willing. I have been staying away from people from almost 3 months. I think I am losing my mind. The positives of getting my kids out is better for our overall well being compared to the risks of coronavirus.

Does anyone else feel like throwing in the towel?

[Anonymous]

Yes, totally.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

It's not all or nothing, you know. You can pick and choose some lower risk activities. It's not like your only choice is between total isolation and being in massive crowds.

[Anonymous]

Heck yes. Single mom, working from home full time. 2 second graders. Just got an email today from one of the teachers that one of my girls hasn’t turned in her social studies and science slides since May 4 and will likely impact her final assessment.

WTF?! Second graders are expected to self teach about the American Revolution.

I have struggled, pushed, reviewed and corrected mat and ELA slides on a daily basis for 2 kids since March. The Science/Social studies slides were posted in the weekly discussion section, not the daily assignments.

I’m so angry, overwhelmed, and feeling like complete f’ing failure because I can’t be a mom, employee, full time caretaker, homemaker, and teacher at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Kids going to camp. I'm actually more anxious about i than I thought I would be but I can't put their lives on hold any longer with the statistics/chances as they are.

[Anonymous]

Parenting is all about weighing risks. There are things other parents feel comfortable with that I don't, and vice versa. I look at parents riding bikes in the street with tiny kids in those bike trailers and it scares the crap out of me. But I don't just those parents-- they feel that it is a safe activity, so that is their choice. I'm sure statistics show that they are safe, but they scare me so I don't do it.

I am sending my kids to an outdoor camp. They are desperate for it and in weighing all the odds and the precautions being taken, I am comfortable with it. I don't much care what others think about that. Even Fauci is saying that schools should consider opening.

Do what you need to do OP.

[Anonymous]

If you do not wear masks and physically distance, you are KNOWINGLY putting others at risk.

You have the right to put yourself and possible your children at risk.

But it terms of contact chain, you know that someone's grandpa or grandma may die because you did not take precautions.

You're not starving. You're not on the street. You're not in a migrant camp. You're not being shot at. You're tired of the middle class responsibilities you bear. We all have sympathy for what you're going through, but this doesn't mean you should contribute to more deaths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parenting is all about weighing risks. There are things other parents feel comfortable with that I don't, and vice versa. I look at parents riding bikes in the street with tiny kids in those bike trailers and it scares the crap out of me. But I don't just those parents-- they feel that it is a safe activity, so that is their choice. I'm sure statistics show that they are safe, but they scare me so I don't do it.

I am sending my kids to an outdoor camp. They are desperate for it and in weighing all the odds and the precautions being taken, I am comfortable with it. I don't much care what others think about that. Even Fauci is saying that schools should consider opening.

Do what you need to do OP.

*judge*

[Anonymous]

Hugs, op. This stuff is hard.

If you can, write a gratitude list. Every night. It can feel annoying when you want to sulk, but it helps. Focus on what you have going well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck yes. Single mom, working from home full time. 2 second graders. Just got an email today from one of the teachers that one of my girls hasn’t turned in her social studies and science slides since May 4 and will likely impact her final assessment.

WTF?! Second graders are expected to self teach about the American Revolution.

I have struggled, pushed, reviewed and corrected mat and ELA slides on a daily basis for 2 kids since March. The Science/Social studies slides were posted in the weekly discussion section, not the daily assignments.

I’m so angry, overwhelmed, and feeling like complete f’ing failure because I can’t be a mom, employee, full time caretaker, homemaker, and teacher at the same time.

Hi PP, please don't feel like a failure. There's no way you could be doing it all.

I am a teacher; I can't speak for your child's teacher but from my point of view, I have to send emails letting parents know their kids didn't complete work to cover myself if they complain about the grade. WHO CARES about a second graders SS grade though? If you don't I am sure it won't be a problem.

But right now I am being urged to get all makeup work in so I am reaching out to parents to let them know their child has missing work. I am willing to sit down with the kids over a Zoom or Google Meet conference and talk them through their missing assignments too. If you just let the teacher know what is going on she might also be willing to help your child just get credit

OR just go on the damn slides and fill them out for your child and send them in. There's always that low stress option. Don't worry about it. Make life easy on yourself and your kids.

[Anonymous]

Go for it.

My kid has been going to preschool the entire time. We will go to the pool when it opens.

We will see friends when they’re comfortable with it.

We haven’t seen grandparents or other elderly people.

We have remained 100% healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Heck yes. Single mom, working from home full time. 2 second graders. Just got an email today from one of the teachers that one of my girls hasn’t turned in her social studies and science slides since May 4 and will likely impact her final assessment.

WTF?! Second graders are expected to self teach about the American Revolution.

I have struggled, pushed, reviewed and corrected mat and ELA slides on a daily basis for 2 kids since March. The Science/Social studies slides were posted in the weekly discussion section, not the daily assignments.

I’m so angry, overwhelmed, and feeling like complete f’ing failure because I can’t be a mom, employee, full time caretaker, homemaker, and teacher at the same time.

Hi PP, please don't feel like a failure. There's no way you could be doing it all.

I am a teacher; I can't speak for your child's teacher but from my point of view, I have to send emails letting parents know their kids didn't complete work to cover myself if they complain about the grade. WHO CARES about a second graders SS grade though? If you don't I am sure it won't be a problem.

But right now I am being urged to get all makeup work in so I am reaching out to parents to let them know their child has missing work. I am willing to sit down with the kids over a Zoom or Google Meet conference and talk them through their missing assignments too. If you just let the teacher know what is going on she might also be willing to help your child just get credit

OR just go on the damn slides and fill them out for your child and send them in. There's always that low stress option. Don't worry about it. Make life easy on yourself and your kids.

Voice of reason right there.


OP and others who are overwhelmed, try to prioritize what's important and what's not. It's important to protect our community's high-risk groups from Covid-19. This means the elderly but also people who don't necessarily look old or sick but who have preexisting conditions. Please do not throw caution to the winds! Physical distancing and masks are still the name of the game. The vaccine is coming in early 2021, we can do this!

If your kid hasn't done some of their school work and they're not in high school, no one cares. Be very judicious about playdates, though. Physical distancing is still very important.

[Anonymous]

I gave up on parenting about a week ago.

The kids can do whatever they want. We offer food, clothing, shelter, books, TV or they can go outside.

[Anonymous]

Why is it all or nothing. Why are your choices only 1. No contact with anyone or 2. Throw in the towel completely???

I’m don’t understand this way of thinking.