YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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Anonymous wrote:I am too old to understand influencers. Who cares what this garbage vapid woman does or wears?

Me too. It's too old and too smart - they're one and the same these days. Idiocracy is a documentary.

I rewatched that recently. Boy, did it mirror our current situation. I found it strangely comforting. And depressing, all at the same time.

omg me too! it's crazy how much it relates to 2020. to think that Fox almost didn't release it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

The point is, if you wouldn’t rehome a bio kid for these behaviors, you shouldn’t be allowed to do it with an adopted kid either.

The boy is 4 and he lived in this home for 2 years. Giving him up is tragic.

It is tragic. Tragic. But again, it seems to me that most posters do not have experience in this - which of course, I wouldn’t expect you to. But for example, you actually CAN give up your biological child to child protective services, and as sad as this is to hear - some parents do when they do not feel they can keep their child safe. It is not simple and you cannot just relinquish parental rights on request (as of course you should not be able to, and you can’t do this with adoption either, you are legally the parent as much as a bio parent), but they can’t order you to take care of a child that you don’t feel you can keep safe and it moves forward in some cases as a CPS case. These are horrifying situations that leave a lot of broken people in the path (usually the parents are included in this). But my god, these are terrible situations that have so so much more depth than anyone here can imagine. So I would suggest that everyone take a little humility and realize that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

This is a tragedy. Anytime this happens it is a tragedy. But you don’t actually know what happened or what was in the best interests of that child. Making yourself feel like you are some better person because you can post on the internet how terrible they are and how sad you are for this child does not, in fact make you better. Adoption and children’s mental health is incredibly complex, intense, and often not pretty. Let’s give everyone some grace. The parents should be held accountable for stupidly thinking they could be some kind of savior, but they likely aren’t evil. I’ve worked with these families and that jjst isn’t the reality as much as you might want to think it to feel better about yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

The point is, if you wouldn’t rehome a bio kid for these behaviors, you shouldn’t be allowed to do it with an adopted kid either.

The boy is 4 and he lived in this home for 2 years. Giving him up is tragic.

You don’t know what the behaviors are or what the situation is. Neither do I. I have no idea how much condemnation these people do or don’t deserve. Luckily there is no reason for us to try to decide. We don’t need to.

But we can all agree it’s tragic.

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Did they adopt to get publicity?
I wouldn't put it past them. The agencies need to verify that adoptive parents really do have a good home to offer. It should be based on the principle of finding parents for a child, not finding a child for a set of paying customers

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Anonymous wrote:Did they adopt to get publicity?
I wouldn't put it past them. The agencies need to verify that adoptive parents really do have a good home to offer. It should be based on the principle of finding parents for a child, not finding a child for a set of paying customers

That kid was a living virtue signal for those people. What they did to him was unconscionable, but now that it’s done he’s hopefully better off and living with competent, non narcissistic caregivers.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they adopt to get publicity?
I wouldn't put it past them. The agencies need to verify that adoptive parents really do have a good home to offer. It should be based on the principle of finding parents for a child, not finding a child for a set of paying customers

That kid was a living virtue signal for those people. What they did to him was unconscionable, but now that it’s done he’s hopefully better off and living with competent, non narcissistic caregivers.

Agree pp. Virtue signaling accessory for shitty, selfish people. They don't deserve the honor of being called parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they adopt to get publicity?
I wouldn't put it past them. The agencies need to verify that adoptive parents really do have a good home to offer. It should be based on the principle of finding parents for a child, not finding a child for a set of paying customers

That kid was a living virtue signal for those people. What they did to him was unconscionable, but now that it’s done he’s hopefully better off and living with competent, non narcissistic caregivers.

That sounds harsh but I think there is a lot of truth to it. These people were looking for a cute accessory in that kid. But when their cute new accessory actually turned out to be a child who needed considerable time and attention it became too much for them.

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Im actually disgusted by so many of the comments on this thread. I know Myka personally and this whole situation has been heart breaking for this family. They did not re-home Huxley like an unwanted pet. They put SO much time and money into his medical care, therapy, etc. to help find out how severe his special needs are and believe me, they ARE severe. I’m not going to put her personal info on here but this wasn’t a decision that they came to overnight. This decision to send him to a family who has experience with his extreme mental health and special needs was recommended by multiple health professionals. It was over 6 months of them trying to figure out the best way to help me. A lot went on behind the scenes with Huxleys needs and for the safety of him and the other kids, this was the best option.

Some of you are truly disgusting. Unless you were in her shoes yourself, you have no clue what her and her family went through. Hux was and is beyond loved and was cared for wonderfully by them.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they adopt to get publicity?
I wouldn't put it past them. The agencies need to verify that adoptive parents really do have a good home to offer. It should be based on the principle of finding parents for a child, not finding a child for a set of paying customers

Oh stfu. Do you know the extensive background checks, home checks, etc. that families go through to adopt? You sound like a damn idiot. They didn’t do it for publicity you idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

You clearly don’t know this family or anything about Huxley and his medical and mental issues. He was diagnosed with the highest form of autism and that’s just the beginning. you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes as you don’t live in their home.

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Anonymous wrote:Im actually disgusted by so many of the comments on this thread. I know Myka personally and this whole situation has been heart breaking for this family. They did not re-home Huxley like an unwanted pet. They put SO much time and money into his medical care, therapy, etc. to help find out how severe his special needs are and believe me, they ARE severe. I’m not going to put her personal info on here but this wasn’t a decision that they came to overnight. This decision to send him to a family who has experience with his extreme mental health and special needs was recommended by multiple health professionals. It was over 6 months of them trying to figure out the best way to help me. A lot went on behind the scenes with Huxleys needs and for the safety of him and the other kids, this was the best option.

Some of you are truly disgusting. Unless you were in her shoes yourself, you have no clue what her and her family went through. Hux was and is beyond loved and was cared for wonderfully by them.

Those multiple health professionals were wise to recommend getting him into the care of a different family. What does it take to fail so miserably as a parent that professionals recommend that you give up your child?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

You clearly don’t know this family or anything about Huxley and his medical and mental issues. He was diagnosed with the highest form of autism and that’s just the beginning. you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes as you don’t live in their home.

How was her @walmart spa day? She all better now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

You clearly don’t know this family or anything about Huxley and his medical and mental issues. He was diagnosed with the highest form of autism and that’s just the beginning. you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes as you don’t live in their home.

Did they not meet this child before they adopted him? They had children themselves so they should have had a good idea as to how a 2 year old normally behaves. I just don't understand how they went into a commitment this huge was so little understanding of what they were getting into. It's appalling especially because they did have children in their home already. I don't want to judge these people but what on earth were they thinking?

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Anonymous wrote:Im actually disgusted by so many of the comments on this thread. I know Myka personally and this whole situation has been heart breaking for this family. They did not re-home Huxley like an unwanted pet. They put SO much time and money into his medical care, therapy, etc. to help find out how severe his special needs are and believe me, they ARE severe. I’m not going to put her personal info on here but this wasn’t a decision that they came to overnight. This decision to send him to a family who has experience with his extreme mental health and special needs was recommended by multiple health professionals. It was over 6 months of them trying to figure out the best way to help me. A lot went on behind the scenes with Huxleys needs and for the safety of him and the other kids, this was the best option.

Some of you are truly disgusting. Unless you were in her shoes yourself, you have no clue what her and her family went through. Hux was and is beyond loved and was cared for wonderfully by them.

Oh yeah? Then why is she using this experience as click bait to drive more eyeballs to her various sites? Including a swipe up on products from Walmart on her Instagram which she posted today?

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Anonymous wrote:Im actually disgusted by so many of the comments on this thread. I know Myka personally and this whole situation has been heart breaking for this family. They did not re-home Huxley like an unwanted pet. They put SO much time and money into his medical care, therapy, etc. to help find out how severe his special needs are and believe me, they ARE severe. I’m not going to put her personal info on here but this wasn’t a decision that they came to overnight. This decision to send him to a family who has experience with his extreme mental health and special needs was recommended by multiple health professionals. It was over 6 months of them trying to figure out the best way to help me. A lot went on behind the scenes with Huxleys needs and for the safety of him and the other kids, this was the best option.

Some of you are truly disgusting. Unless you were in her shoes yourself, you have no clue what her and her family went through. Hux was and is beyond loved and was cared for wonderfully by them.

Those multiple health professionals were wise to recommend getting him into the care of a different family. What does it take to fail so miserably as a parent that professionals recommend that you give up your child?

Harsh but true.