YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am too old to understand influencers. Who cares what this garbage vapid woman does or wears?

I think I am, too. I am not really a celeb follower, either, and chalked my disinterest up to that.

I guess any click is a good click for these people and it = $$$. So I'm not going to click their stuff. But they sound like total bottom feeders. I hope that poor child has found a better situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am too old to understand influencers. Who cares what this garbage vapid woman does or wears?

I think I am, too. I am not really a celeb follower, either, and chalked my disinterest up to that.

I guess any click is a good click for these people and it = $$$. So I'm not going to click their stuff. But they sound like total bottom feeders. I hope that poor child has found a better situation.

I just dont get it. Looked at her instagram and all her weird fake posed photos, and she makes money from them?

Also, her husband is 100% at fault too, he should also be shunned.

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Poor kid. Hopefully he will end up in a better home. I hope they rehomed him ethically and not through one of those sketchy groups.

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https://www.thebump.com/a/myka-stauffer-adopting-autistic-son

posted april 2019- what an ungracious c***.

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It seems like anyone who has actually dealt extensively with adoption and disrupted adoptions has at least some small amount of empathy for these parents, so all the posters who have little experience in this making assumptions might want to note that.

I will put myself in the former camp - as someone who has worked with families experiencing incredibly difficult adoptions, you truly cannot imagine the daily struggles that some kids and families endure. And to be quite frank, some parents are simply not a good fit for adoption and dealing with the difficulties that can come. It is horrible, but it’s possible that a more experienced adoptive home will be a more loving and better fit. This in no way gives them a free pass, heck no. They are horribly horribly at fault for buying into the Christian ideal of “saving children” which is HORRIBLE and THAT (among other adoption damaging narratives) is the place to start being angry. Instead of being angry at this family, be angry at an industry and narrative that gets kids in these situations with completely unprepared families.

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I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like anyone who has actually dealt extensively with adoption and disrupted adoptions has at least some small amount of empathy for these parents, so all the posters who have little experience in this making assumptions might want to note that.

I will put myself in the former camp - as someone who has worked with families experiencing incredibly difficult adoptions, you truly cannot imagine the daily struggles that some kids and families endure. And to be quite frank, some parents are simply not a good fit for adoption and dealing with the difficulties that can come. It is horrible, but it’s possible that a more experienced adoptive home will be a more loving and better fit. This in no way gives them a free pass, heck no. They are horribly horribly at fault for buying into the Christian ideal of “saving children” which is HORRIBLE and THAT (among other adoption damaging narratives) is the place to start being angry. Instead of being angry at this family, be angry at an industry and narrative that gets kids in these situations with completely unprepared families.

Both deserve condemnation.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

What a weird comment. Because they didn’t make more videos displaying the child’s severe challenges there must not have been any?

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Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

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I have a family member who adopted a child from China. They were told going in that he would have special needs, and they were prepared for things to be more severe than what was documented based on the nature of these kind of adoptions. For these people to claim they went in naively and weren’t prepared for the level of difficulties, it’s very hard to imagine. It feels like willful ignorance.

I am sick seeing her pictures of her with all her bio kids while that poor baby was shuffled off somewhere else. I only hope that the new home is a better fit for him and he will do better there because she is clearly prioritizing her bio kids over him. It’s shameful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

So it’s ok to hot potato a kid to the next taker rather than honor a lifelong commitment to your own child. Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

So it’s ok to hot potato a kid to the next taker rather than honor a lifelong commitment to your own child. Got it.

Absolutely not. This is a terrible terrrible situation. But this conversation is not helpful and for people to act like they have any remote idea what was going on in that home or what was best for the child is misguided at best. It’s cool to be like this is a horrifying situation and feel extremely sad for everything this child has dealt with in his short life while also having the insight to understand you have never dealt with disrupted adoptions before and don’t know the details of this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an extremely difficult to parent child with special needs. I would have sympathy for them if they tried everything and were at the end of their rope financially, psychologically, etc. But this child's behaviors don't seem extreme at all. They would have made a video about it for clicks if it was!

They specifically say in their video that they did not share 95% of the difficulties and behaviors he was having due to wanting to protect his privacy. We assume when people share parts of their life that they are sharing all of it, but that is not the case. There is a lot we don’t know here. No adoption agency agrees to re-home without severe behaviors. This is not done lightly and no one on this thread seems to have a lot of experience with these very extreme situations. Adoption has so many problems that we as a society like to push under the rug. And now you’re seeing it and everyone just wants to condemn this family and act like we have ANY idea what was actually going on - you don’t, I can promise you that.

The point is, if you wouldn’t rehome a bio kid for these behaviors, you shouldn’t be allowed to do it with an adopted kid either.

The boy is 4 and he lived in this home for 2 years. Giving him up is tragic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am too old to understand influencers. Who cares what this garbage vapid woman does or wears?

Me too. It's too old and too smart - they're one and the same these days. Idiocracy is a documentary.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am too old to understand influencers. Who cares what this garbage vapid woman does or wears?

Me too. It's too old and too smart - they're one and the same these days. Idiocracy is a documentary.

I rewatched that recently. Boy, did it mirror our current situation. I found it strangely comforting. And depressing, all at the same time.