Appropriate response to email from MIL regarding COVID-19 death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AHHHHHH.

So, I just got another email from MIL, basically telling me that she wrote to DH two days ago and that she is shocked that he hasn't responded to her yet, and that I need to make sure that he is reading his email and replying to her. And, at the end of her email, she wrote that she will not read or respond to any emails from me again.

AHHHHH. So, I have learned my lesson and am not responding, but this is not any better that she is going to write to me every time that DH does not respond. ARGGGG.

Oh, and of course, I asked DH to check his email to find out what is so incredibly urgent and she wrote to him LAST NIGHT!!! AND the entire email is just a forward of my email, about how I am negative and destructive, and how she does not want to interact with me again. It is about five pages long, so she has clearly been writing it for this entire time. And, in it, she writes how she has always been so supportive of the marriage (hahahahaha!).

AHHHHHHHHHH.

DH is just not responding to her, and now I learned my lesson and am not responding to her either. But, it is seriously stressful. I have now blocked her from my email account but I wish I could somehow block the memory of her, too.

So you sent an email that you absolutely knew would set her off and are now all aflutter that she's set off? OP you are seeking the drama as much as she is by finding ways to extend this conflict.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I messaged the second (or 3rd) cousin on Facebook our condolences -- I don't think this is a blood relation -- it's like a cousin's spouse -- and told MIL to go to hell. I'm hoping that she will use it against me and only email DH in the future (who never checks email) or get a hint and write nicer emails to me. It felt great to stand up for myself for the first time in forever. I am sick of being a doormat.

You took literally no one's advice here, and you met inappropriate with inappropriate. He really married his mother, with you.

+1

[Anonymous]

You know what OP take this as her giving you a gift. Your MIL is obviously a negative influence in your life. She pushes your buttons and you respond negatively to her.

She forwarded your email and probably thought it would cause problems or give her a pity party.

Yes block her and stay blocked from her. Eventually your irritation and anger will die down. Let her handle her relationship with her son alone. That's really none of your business.

Take this as a gift that you need not have anything more to do with her. You obviously don't get along with her so walk away, drop the rope and be done with the games. Down the track you will see this as a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you say "You can call him directly if you need to communicate with him in the future".

This or ignore. I'd tell DH if only to have him inform her that her behavior is unacceptable. Why hasn't he shut down her nonsense?