Appropriate response to email from MIL regarding COVID-19 death
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Anonymous
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After 17 years, MIL refuses to accept that I'm DH's wife. She has flatly told him to divorce me, almost weekly encourages him to reach out to his HS gf, and generally is a complete MIL from #3!!. MIL still calls HS GF randomly and HS GF is still single and due to a lot of manipulation by MIL, is apparently waiting for DH to divorce me.
Today, I received this email from her to my account (not DH's): ---- Dear DH: How are you? I hope you are well. I am writing to let you know that your second cousin's husband just died of COVID-29. Please call me today. Larla - I am only sending this email to you because DH didn't check his email as often so print out this email, show it to him, and make sure he calls me today. MIL --- Obviously I showed DH the email. DH and I agree that we should reach out to second cousin who we don't really know and don't even know how to reach her. And DH has only met her once when I met her too at a huge family reunion. DH then thinks that we should just ignore his mom and not reply at all but I'm adamantly against it. I just want to write: I am not DH's secretary. I am his wife. If you are not going to address me as his equal partner and wife, please do not write me again. Larla |
Anonymous
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OP, honestly I think this letter doesn't warrant that reaction. On face value, it's a benign letter.
I get that you have a terrible past, but if you react as you suggest and write that note, you are going to look like a fool. Ignore. |
Anonymous
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Ignore MIL. Call cousin.
High road OP. |
Anonymous
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Please resist engaging with the evil woman.
Beware of mothers who idolize their sons. It never goes well for the daughter in law. |
Anonymous
| Do nothing if you don’t know how to reach her. |
Anonymous
| Do not write that to MIL!!!! You’ll just give her More ammo To not like you. |
Anonymous
| Ignore MIL and reach out to the cousin. People who thrive on drama and attention LOVE to know they’ve gotten under your skin - delete that email and don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing it irritated you. |
Anonymous
| IGNORE. Don't fall into her trap by playing her game. IGNORE. |
Anonymous
| ignore and delete. block her email address and her phone. really you don't need this and you don't need to dignify it with any kind of response |
Anonymous
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Respond: Thank you. I shared your message with DH.
Done. |
Anonymous
| Print out the e-mail? lol. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| Ignore. My MIL does this, too. |
Anonymous
| Don't respond at all. You've already shown your husband the email, which is more than what I would have done. I don't see a single "please" in there and I don't take orders from anyone who isn't paying me. |
Anonymous
Yes, this is the correct response. Neutral. |