All you Mom’s can’t wait to deny custody exchange to Dad’s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

If the majority of other people are not seeing it, it’s likely not the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

If the majority of other people are not seeing it, it’s likely not the norm.

If you’re AA or Latino, we can continue this conversation. If not, kick rocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

If the majority of other people are not seeing it, it’s likely not the norm.

If you’re AA or Latino, we can continue this conversation. If not, kick rocks.

You sound racist. You don't think that stuff doesn't happen to white fathers too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They would have been better off if she stayed?

But she was smart enough to NOT stay and you aren’t. Hence digging your heels in and trashing your current husbands first choice. She was smart enough to split and you were there as a plan b fallback. Of course you call her a BITCH you probably can’t stand that she was able to have enough self respect to leave a lousy every other weekend type dude and you don’t.

Have some kids of your own and leave her alone.

Yes, she would have been much better off given how things turned out for her and her AP and us. She isn't happy and forced to stay with him over money. The sad part is they never married so she doesn't have his retirement benefits, health insurance (desperately needed) and more. We do have our own kids, and after blocking contact for years, now that her kids are grown, she suddenly turned nice and calls/texts every so often, especially seeing how ours are. Why can't she leave us alone?

I wasn't there as plan B. I wasn't around at the time of the divorce or many years after. Good try. You can make every dad and wife the evil ones but I can only feel bad for your kids given how you speak to others and assume the worst. You probably really did a number on your kids. Many men would love to have full custody and would have done far more parenting.

You are entirely too emotionally invested in the first wife —especially now that her kids are grown. WTF is wrong with all three of you. I think I’ve talked to my DH’s XW less than 10 times and I have no idea who she is sleeping with or why.

You are lucky. She keeps contacting us now that the kids are grown. She's much nicer now but I don't see the need to contact us to see how we are doing when you treated your ex so poorly for so many years. My husband is nice but cringes and gets upset seeing her texts. She also still sends texts demanding money and gifts for the kids but we just ignore those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wasn’t talking to you or your situation. Was walking to woman at custody trial. Defending another “amazing” dad ruled to deserve every other weekend.

I went to a child support/visitation hearing. The child support was filed after we got married demanding it be done off our household income and not my husband's. So, it was an issue as they were trying to force me to disclose my income so it could be used in the child support calculations. Luckily the judge didn't agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They would have been better off if she stayed?

But she was smart enough to NOT stay and you aren’t. Hence digging your heels in and trashing your current husbands first choice. She was smart enough to split and you were there as a plan b fallback. Of course you call her a BITCH you probably can’t stand that she was able to have enough self respect to leave a lousy every other weekend type dude and you don’t.

Have some kids of your own and leave her alone.

Yes, she would have been much better off given how things turned out for her and her AP and us. She isn't happy and forced to stay with him over money. The sad part is they never married so she doesn't have his retirement benefits, health insurance (desperately needed) and more. We do have our own kids, and after blocking contact for years, now that her kids are grown, she suddenly turned nice and calls/texts every so often, especially seeing how ours are. Why can't she leave us alone?

I wasn't there as plan B. I wasn't around at the time of the divorce or many years after. Good try. You can make every dad and wife the evil ones but I can only feel bad for your kids given how you speak to others and assume the worst. You probably really did a number on your kids. Many men would love to have full custody and would have done far more parenting.

You are entirely too emotionally invested in the first wife —especially now that her kids are grown. WTF is wrong with all three of you. I think I’ve talked to my DH’s XW less than 10 times and I have no idea who she is sleeping with or why.

You are lucky. She keeps contacting us now that the kids are grown. She's much nicer now but I don't see the need to contact us to see how we are doing when you treated your ex so poorly for so many years. My husband is nice but cringes and gets upset seeing her texts. She also still sends texts demanding money and gifts for the kids but we just ignore those.

Just change your phone numbers. FFS, the perceived powerlessness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

If the majority of other people are not seeing it, it’s likely not the norm.

If you’re AA or Latino, we can continue this conversation. If not, kick rocks.

I think what the PP was alluding to is that this is the norm in those communities, and if you are saying it's not the norm, you must not be from those communities. I'd have to agree that it is more normal than not for AA fathers to be thrown every other weekend like a bone is thrown at a dog to shut him up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has really gone off track but chiming in to say that those of you who don’t believe the family courts still favor Mothers have no idea what you’re talking about. I’ve been through it myself as a Mom, I’ve been through it with my second Husband as a Dad, my brother, my boss, I could go on. Men seriously get treated like babysitters and money trees, it’s disgusting. The moms call the shots, the courts back them up. When my DH’s ex keeps the kids, he’s told there’s nothing he can do and to take it up with the court. The police told us that if he were the one who kept the kids, he’d probably have kidnapping charges. Family Law is literal crazy town.

Thank you. Not sure why it’s so difficult for other posters to realize this. It’s quite the norm.

If the majority of other people are not seeing it, it’s likely not the norm.

If you’re AA or Latino, we can continue this conversation. If not, kick rocks.

I think what the PP was alluding to is that this is the norm in those communities, and if you are saying it's not the norm, you must not be from those communities. I'd have to agree that it is more normal than not for AA fathers to be thrown every other weekend like a bone is thrown at a dog to shut him up.

Enough with the face issues. Its normal for all race Dads to get every other weekend at best. Child support is tied to visitation so its in the custodial parents best interest to have as little as possible to increase child support and for spite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They would have been better off if she stayed?

But she was smart enough to NOT stay and you aren’t. Hence digging your heels in and trashing your current husbands first choice. She was smart enough to split and you were there as a plan b fallback. Of course you call her a BITCH you probably can’t stand that she was able to have enough self respect to leave a lousy every other weekend type dude and you don’t.

Have some kids of your own and leave her alone.

Yes, she would have been much better off given how things turned out for her and her AP and us. She isn't happy and forced to stay with him over money. The sad part is they never married so she doesn't have his retirement benefits, health insurance (desperately needed) and more. We do have our own kids, and after blocking contact for years, now that her kids are grown, she suddenly turned nice and calls/texts every so often, especially seeing how ours are. Why can't she leave us alone?

I wasn't there as plan B. I wasn't around at the time of the divorce or many years after. Good try. You can make every dad and wife the evil ones but I can only feel bad for your kids given how you speak to others and assume the worst. You probably really did a number on your kids. Many men would love to have full custody and would have done far more parenting.

You are entirely too emotionally invested in the first wife —especially now that her kids are grown. WTF is wrong with all three of you. I think I’ve talked to my DH’s XW less than 10 times and I have no idea who she is sleeping with or why.

You are lucky. She keeps contacting us now that the kids are grown. She's much nicer now but I don't see the need to contact us to see how we are doing when you treated your ex so poorly for so many years. My husband is nice but cringes and gets upset seeing her texts. She also still sends texts demanding money and gifts for the kids but we just ignore those.

Just change your phone numbers. FFS, the perceived powerlessness.

She has absolutely no need to text, email or call. It would be very hard to change numbers when everything is tied to them. We aren't hiding. I don't get why she is nice and asks how we are after years of being mean and hateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They would have been better off if she stayed?

But she was smart enough to NOT stay and you aren’t. Hence digging your heels in and trashing your current husbands first choice. She was smart enough to split and you were there as a plan b fallback. Of course you call her a BITCH you probably can’t stand that she was able to have enough self respect to leave a lousy every other weekend type dude and you don’t.

Have some kids of your own and leave her alone.

Yes, she would have been much better off given how things turned out for her and her AP and us. She isn't happy and forced to stay with him over money. The sad part is they never married so she doesn't have his retirement benefits, health insurance (desperately needed) and more. We do have our own kids, and after blocking contact for years, now that her kids are grown, she suddenly turned nice and calls/texts every so often, especially seeing how ours are. Why can't she leave us alone?

I wasn't there as plan B. I wasn't around at the time of the divorce or many years after. Good try. You can make every dad and wife the evil ones but I can only feel bad for your kids given how you speak to others and assume the worst. You probably really did a number on your kids. Many men would love to have full custody and would have done far more parenting.

You are entirely too emotionally invested in the first wife —especially now that her kids are grown. WTF is wrong with all three of you. I think I’ve talked to my DH’s XW less than 10 times and I have no idea who she is sleeping with or why.

You are lucky. She keeps contacting us now that the kids are grown. She's much nicer now but I don't see the need to contact us to see how we are doing when you treated your ex so poorly for so many years. My husband is nice but cringes and gets upset seeing her texts. She also still sends texts demanding money and gifts for the kids but we just ignore those.

Just change your phone numbers. FFS, the perceived powerlessness.

She has absolutely no need to text, email or call. It would be very hard to change numbers when everything is tied to them. We aren't hiding. I don't get why she is nice and asks how we are after years of being mean and hateful.

Then block her. Stop enabling.