All you Mom’s can’t wait to deny custody exchange to Dad’s

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[Anonymous]

I share custody and haven't see my kid since school let out. I also could care less as he is happy as camper and dad's house is so much better to wait it all out. On top of it, the kid eats for 3. I wouldn't be able to feed him. I will send them the $500 coming my way.
Love him but he is 13, and we don't need to see each other so often. He also doesn't care to see his dad too often when he goes abroad. Not a big deal. We are happy when we see each other and do things together but I have no problem with him being in dad's house several months straight.
Would have harder time with a much younger child.

[Anonymous]

This guy just loves to make trouble.

OP, I’m sorry you feel that your ex stole your kids, but you have to realize that for every story like yours, there is at least one in which the dad doesn’t have primary custody for reasons that are related to the child’s safety and more stories in which this just isn’t happening between divorced parents. Some of us are able to have friendly and respectful relationships with our ex and make decisions about kid stuff together.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

[Anonymous]

Umm...more like...Dad has announced he can’t work at home with the kids and does not have the food or supplies to take them so has declared that until the end of shelter in place Mom should keep them (no matter she also works FT).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

Whatever. I’m glad you love your kids and sorry you don’t get to see them as much as you’d like. I promise you that whatever you are paying in child support is less than the actual cost of raising your kids. If you are such an appropriate parent and desire so strongly to be primary caregiver, take those feelings to court and get custody. Will it be challenging and expensive? Probably. But if it is important to you, it will be worth it. If you’re not willing to do that, then cut the complaining about all the evil women trying to withhold kids from their dads. That is not happening as often as you think it is. Not everyone is as crazy as you. Take your fathers rights MRA nonsense elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are barely holding it together as is. My bet is the virus will make them regret primary custody lol

Oh heck no. It’s great here without chubby the morose around.

This cracked me up. Your one line has encapsulated everything you wanted to say and more. Well done.

- Happily married mom of two who can still enjoy your glee in getting rid of the dead weight!

[Anonymous]

The pandemic is the best thing that ever happened to my ex. Previously, he had all kinds of flimsy excuses for not seeing his kids. Now he's happily kid-free for months! His choice, not mine.

[Anonymous]

OP

Dad's = possesive
Dads = plural

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with OP for our own personal situation. Thank goodness the stay at home order specifies travel is allowed for court orders, but if it didn't, I'm 100% sure bio mom would cease exchanges. We have over a month off from school - DH would love the opportunity to get more time with DS instead of every other weekend. Our situation is a bit different where both parents are fully capable of taking care of the child, but bio mom just wants the control. It's not a situation where DH is a jerk or unreliable or unstable. It sucks, "bigly".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to agree with OP for our own personal situation. Thank goodness the stay at home order specifies travel is allowed for court orders, but if it didn't, I'm 100% sure bio mom would cease exchanges. We have over a month off from school - DH would love the opportunity to get more time with DS instead of every other weekend. Our situation is a bit different where both parents are fully capable of taking care of the child, but bio mom just wants the control. It's not a situation where DH is a jerk or unreliable or unstable. It sucks, "bigly".

What you are saying, it seems, is that the mom is following court order (however reluctantly), but your DH wants to deviate from the order and get more time. That is not the same as what OP said.