All you Mom’s can’t wait to deny custody exchange to Dad’s

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

Maybe you should find out.

My ex was briefly married a second time. His new wife was brainwashed into believing a number of things that sound like what you believe. She even gave him money for a new lawyer. After she filed for divorce, she approached me many times to apologize and ask for my help in her case. I did feel sorry for her. I think some new wives get swept up into the world their DH presents. A world in which he and his children are spotless victims and family court judges are either stupid or evil.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

Maybe you should find out.

My ex was briefly married a second time. His new wife was brainwashed into believing a number of things that sound like what you believe. She even gave him money for a new lawyer. After she filed for divorce, she approached me many times to apologize and ask for my help in her case. I did feel sorry for her. I think some new wives get swept up into the world their DH presents. A world in which he and his children are spotless victims and family court judges are either stupid or evil.

I am the PP and I didn't ask "like what" but as I've said before, I was there through it all. I was at the attorney meetings. I was at trial. I saw all of the discovery. I was at the home visit. The truth and the only truth is that my DH's ex lied her way through two trials and got away with it. DH had all of the documentation and evidence to prove everything she said was a lie, and the judge didn't even go through it all. She acknowledged how great DH was and applauded him for his efforts, but did NOTHING about it. When mom is a well put together, educated professional who carries herself well, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Unless mom is drugged out, severely abusing the child (with evidence), or something else extreme, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Doesn't matter how great dad is. My DH and other black men like him ARE victims of the court system in MANY ways. I hate to make this about race, because I'm not that person, but this is absolutely true in my DH's case. I don't fault you or anyone else for not understanding. You haven't been there and haven't lived this life. You'll never truly get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

Maybe you should find out.

My ex was briefly married a second time. His new wife was brainwashed into believing a number of things that sound like what you believe. She even gave him money for a new lawyer. After she filed for divorce, she approached me many times to apologize and ask for my help in her case. I did feel sorry for her. I think some new wives get swept up into the world their DH presents. A world in which he and his children are spotless victims and family court judges are either stupid or evil.

I am the PP and I didn't ask "like what" but as I've said before, I was there through it all. I was at the attorney meetings. I was at trial. I saw all of the discovery. I was at the home visit. The truth and the only truth is that my DH's ex lied her way through two trials and got away with it. DH had all of the documentation and evidence to prove everything she said was a lie, and the judge didn't even go through it all. She acknowledged how great DH was and applauded him for his efforts, but did NOTHING about it. When mom is a well put together, educated professional who carries herself well, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Unless mom is drugged out, severely abusing the child (with evidence), or something else extreme, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Doesn't matter how great dad is. My DH and other black men like him ARE victims of the court system in MANY ways. I hate to make this about race, because I'm not that person, but this is absolutely true in my DH's case. I don't fault you or anyone else for not understanding. You haven't been there and haven't lived this life. You'll never truly get it.

Even when the mom's are abusing the kids it doesn't matter. My husband's ex abused her boyfriend's kids and they were removed from the home, but not my husband's kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

Maybe you should find out.

My ex was briefly married a second time. His new wife was brainwashed into believing a number of things that sound like what you believe. She even gave him money for a new lawyer. After she filed for divorce, she approached me many times to apologize and ask for my help in her case. I did feel sorry for her. I think some new wives get swept up into the world their DH presents. A world in which he and his children are spotless victims and family court judges are either stupid or evil.

I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

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I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

Wait, what? You have a relationship with the ex of your current husband's former mistress?

More to the point, your current husband, who you believe to be a great guy and super father, cheated on his ex and then didn't pursue meaningful custody when the marriage broke up as a result?

Sounds like a real winner. Just keep believing those lies.

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Anonymous wrote: I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

Your DH had an AP and you spoke to the AP’s ex —who was a woman. Your DH cheated on his wife with a woman who was a lesbian?

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Anonymous wrote: I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

Your DH had an AP and you spoke to the AP’s ex —who was a woman. Your DH cheated on his wife with a woman who was a lesbian?

Or her DH cheated with a man? Not unheard of.

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Anonymous wrote: I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

Your DH had an AP and you spoke to the AP’s ex —who was a woman. Your DH cheated on his wife with a woman who was a lesbian?

Or her DH cheated with a man? Not unheard of.

Good point.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the reluctant parent has a good reason to be concerned about the child’s well-being? My ex had boasted that he isn’t social distancing. He didn’t buy any supplies. I sent my child to Dad’s with groceries and wipes. She texted me midday that the WiFi there isn’t working so she couldn’t get anything done. I guess I need to provide a hotspot as well? Certainly can’t expect him to do so. He just wants to avoid losing any overnight stays because he’s afraid that will increase his child support. He paid $100 in March and I sent our child to his house with $150 in groceries and cleaning supplies. I wasn’t a math major, but that doesn’t sound like I’m denying him 50/50 for financial reasons.

Lots of people didn't prepare and buy supplies. We didn't. No big deal. We ordered the basics that we couldn't get at the store online and went to the store to buy them. Paying a lot in child support is a huge hit for many Dad's, especially if they are paying alimony and clothing, activities and health care. Granted there are fathers not paying all that but many are. Its often more than 1/2 their take home.

And there are also plenty of dads ordered to pay child support who don’t pay at all. If they did not want to financially support a child, they shouldn’t have had one. Life is hardly a cake walk for most single moms and you know it. Cut the crap.

It takes two to have a child. He cannot exactly terminate the pregnancy. There are plenty of Dad's who do pay child support and would gladly take full custody but people seem more intent on tearing men down rather than supporting and encoring them.

THIS. My DH would continue to pay bio mom $1400/mo and have his child 100% of the time. It isn't about the money. He just wants to be with his child.

Has he fought for full custody? Because if it is bad for “biomoms” to want full custody of the dad is deemed fit by the courts, why isn’t it bad for your DH to deny the child knowing the mom? You said both were competent.

DH doesn't want to keep his child from bio mom. My point was that he would take on 100% of the child's responsibility and STILL pay bio mom as if she was caring for the child if he had to.

He fought for 50/50 physical custody (they already have joint legal) and the courts kept it at alternating weekends. Judge acknowledged that DH was more than capable of taking care of the child, acknowledged/appreciated his efforts across multiple areas, scolded bio mom for denying visits and not including DH on major decisions (she's changed his schools and a lot of other things without notifying DH), but judge left the schedule as is.

If the judge acknowledged all that and still kept the schedule every other weekend, the judge and your DH know something that you don’t.

Like what?

Maybe you should find out.

My ex was briefly married a second time. His new wife was brainwashed into believing a number of things that sound like what you believe. She even gave him money for a new lawyer. After she filed for divorce, she approached me many times to apologize and ask for my help in her case. I did feel sorry for her. I think some new wives get swept up into the world their DH presents. A world in which he and his children are spotless victims and family court judges are either stupid or evil.

I am the PP and I didn't ask "like what" but as I've said before, I was there through it all. I was at the attorney meetings. I was at trial. I saw all of the discovery. I was at the home visit. The truth and the only truth is that my DH's ex lied her way through two trials and got away with it. DH had all of the documentation and evidence to prove everything she said was a lie, and the judge didn't even go through it all. She acknowledged how great DH was and applauded him for his efforts, but did NOTHING about it. When mom is a well put together, educated professional who carries herself well, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Unless mom is drugged out, severely abusing the child (with evidence), or something else extreme, courts prefer the child to be with mom. Doesn't matter how great dad is. My DH and other black men like him ARE victims of the court system in MANY ways. I hate to make this about race, because I'm not that person, but this is absolutely true in my DH's case. I don't fault you or anyone else for not understanding. You haven't been there and haven't lived this life. You'll never truly get it.

LOL you went to their divorce trial? As the new girlfriend? Okay. Totally normal

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Anonymous wrote: I did find out my husband's situation. Spoke with the ex of his AP and his friends. It was pretty obvious what was going on without speaking to him but other interesting things came out from AP ex-wife that not even my husband knew. My husband's kids really lost out on a great parent.

Your DH had an AP and you spoke to the AP’s ex —who was a woman. Your DH cheated on his wife with a woman who was a lesbian?

My husband's ex had an AP. She left to be with him. I spoke to the ex of his ex's AP. How hard is it to understand women cheat too?

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Oh I get that all day long. I just think it’s rich that the newest wife thinks herself informed as to the veracity of his claims because you’ve spoken to other discarded ex/s.

It’s cute, don’t be offended. I believed my husband once too- no worries if you do!

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LOL you went to their divorce trial? As the new girlfriend? Okay. Totally normal

Of course, she did. She was his AP.