What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Ummm...this was me when I was 15. Unfortunately, I had already been having sex for a good 6 months with the guy I had been dating for a year, and we kept telling our parents were hadn't done it yet. We lied even though my mom was wonderful and open to all of these discussions and would have told me she thinks I should wait but would have bought me condoms, etc. Long story short...we had an abortion at 16. I still to this day think about it every day and wish I didn't terminate because I have no kids now at 41. So, yes, buy condoms like yesterday.

I wasn’t even allowied to date at 15. That’s the first thing your parents did wrong.

"Allowed" to date. You're a moron. All the parents who "forbid" dating when I was in high school had kids that just snuck around behind their backs, and the parents were just in the dark about what their kid was doing. Teen who want to date aren't going to let a little thing like parental permission get in the way. Good luck forbidding your kids from dating before a certain age. Make sure you accompany them when they're "going to the movies with friends" or "spending the night at Becky's".

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Anonymous wrote:When my brother was a freshman in high school, he got has girl friend pregnant. [She was a junior.]
She had an abortion and there was a lot of family stress. My parents were not the type to leave a box of condoms available - nor have real talks. There was only 1 talk - not until marriage.

I know Burke is progressive - but as a homework assignment the students are required to buy a box of condoms and bring them to the teacher with the receipt. The discussion is - if you are not ready to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.

Wow. I have mixed feelings about this, if it's true. On the one hand, awesome. On the other, as a late bloomer who waited until a committed relationship because I wanted to be ready to discuss the full implications of sex with my partner, including preventing pregnancy, I feel like this would have pushed my timeline earlier. After seeing how easy it would be to buy protection, there would be one less barrier to move forward with a fling at a party or whatever like it was no big deal.

Emotionally, it still felt like a very big deal in high school, and this assignment almost lessens that my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Ummm...this was me when I was 15. Unfortunately, I had already been having sex for a good 6 months with the guy I had been dating for a year, and we kept telling our parents were hadn't done it yet. We lied even though my mom was wonderful and open to all of these discussions and would have told me she thinks I should wait but would have bought me condoms, etc. Long story short...we had an abortion at 16. I still to this day think about it every day and wish I didn't terminate because I have no kids now at 41. So, yes, buy condoms like yesterday.

Seriously?! As a single Mom to an 'oops' in my 20s it is NOT some kind of easy path to be a teen Mom. I love my child but the pain, grief that comes from dealing with his Father's instability is not something I wish on anyone. Don't think that you wouldn't have paid dearly it just seems rosier because it never happened.

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?

Where'd that come from? That reminds them that you, the person raising them (hopefully) want them to use protection to AVOID pregnancy.

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WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

It's already happening, hate to tell you. Buy them

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

Meh. I always put them in my son Xmas stocking when he was in college

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

Bingo.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Never

I’d make him buy it and have a plan. And a Plan b.

I’d drive him to the cvs yesterday and wait. Man up or raise a child.

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The. I’d make him practice on a medium sized zucchini. Needs to go 5 for 5. Lights off.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

I'm GenX and we all started dating in college.

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Anonymous wrote:Them I’d make him practice putting it on a medium sized zucchini. Needs to go 5 for 5. Lights off.

With music blasting!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

Agree..plus OP said they have been dating a year already? OP! Why would you be ok with this? Way too young. They should not be alone, ever. Neither can drive, surely it can’t be easy for them to have sex at this point. No basement hangouts, no bedroom.

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Anonymous wrote:Them I’d make him practice putting it on a medium sized zucchini. Needs to go 5 for 5. Lights off.

With music blasting!

And someone screaming thats the wrong hole.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

Agree..plus OP said they have been dating a year already? OP! Why would you be ok with this? Way too young. They should not be alone, ever. Neither can drive, surely it can’t be easy for them to have sex at this point. No basement hangouts, no bedroom.

They’ve been dating for five years at this point, if they’re still together. The op is from 2020.