Assumption of dating pool for divorced 40s women with kids

[Anonymous]

https://www.webmd.com/men/qa/how-will-your-scrotum-change-as-you-age

[Anonymous]

https://www.webmd.com/men/qa/how-will-your-scrotum-change-as-you-age

Even though this article is on WebMd, it does not support the poster's statement regarding sagging (i.e., it does not offer any clinical proof.)

Instead, it is good advice regarding what to look for as far as changes to that part of a man's body and when he should seek medical help for these changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:49 year old male here. So what I got out of this thread is I have one year left before my balls hang down to my knees?

This will be you next year:

[Anonymous]

I’m so sick of these ball obsessed guys.

Trust me, no one notices your balls when you’re frequently impotent without viagra. Women don’t care about your balls, but I’m sure not coddling a date through erectile issues, which is why I date younger men. I’m sure your balls are lovely and look even younger against your shy, tired aging penis!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my early 50s, recently divorced, and have children (mid teens to early 20s). Intelligent, financially independent, fit (BMI 18.5), a good figure, reasonably attractive, if not quite beautiful.

I have not attempted to date (and have, in fact, not been with a man other than my ex H since my early 20s) during the three year separation and divorce because my children (and me myself) are/have been my primary focus. I have no idea where to begin, or how I will fare during a decade of life when so many women seem to become invisible.

I am right here with you! Am so happy to hear from another woman who's been putting family first. I have felt that I needed to ... if I don't focus on these kids, the X obviously didn't, then what? I am mildly interested in getting back out there, but after merging with X at age 22, it's going to be a very slow restart process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sick of these ball obsessed guys.

Trust me, no one notices your balls when you’re frequently impotent without viagra. Women don’t care about your balls, but I’m sure not coddling a date through erectile issues, which is why I date younger men. I’m sure your balls are lovely and look even younger against your shy, tired aging penis!

You’ve seen many hundreds of dicks so we must defer to your vastly greater experience about penises and their many moods...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in my early 50s, recently divorced, and have children (mid teens to early 20s). Intelligent, financially independent, fit (BMI 18.5), a good figure, reasonably attractive, if not quite beautiful.

I have not attempted to date (and have, in fact, not been with a man other than my ex H since my early 20s) during the three year separation and divorce because my children (and me myself) are/have been my primary focus. I have no idea where to begin, or how I will fare during a decade of life when so many women seem to become invisible.

I am right here with you! Am so happy to hear from another woman who's been putting family first. I have felt that I needed to ... if I don't focus on these kids, the X obviously didn't, then what? I am mildly interested in getting back out there, but after merging with X at age 22, it's going to be a very slow restart process.

I'm just now restarting the dating process after "merging" in my early 20s, and similarly waited through the separation and some time after the divorce in order to focus on my kids. I definitely experienced the "These kids need someone who will put them first" emotions. I think that when I do start to date, I'll hopefully be in a better emotional place than if I'd just f*cked my way through my feelings for the past two years.

The unexpected downside is only that their father is on his maybe third or fourth relationship since leaving for a 20-something coworker and my kids are starting to get some frustrating ideas about what relationships look like, since their only model for dating is their father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sick of these ball obsessed guys.

Trust me, no one notices your balls when you’re frequently impotent without viagra. Women don’t care about your balls, but I’m sure not coddling a date through erectile issues, which is why I date younger men. I’m sure your balls are lovely and look even younger against your shy, tired aging penis!

You’ve seen many hundreds of dicks so we must defer to your vastly greater experience about penises and their many moods...

DP: nice attempt at slut shaming, but the fact is that by your age, your balls are more dependable than your dick. No wonder you are so fond of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sick of these ball obsessed guys.

Trust me, no one notices your balls when you’re frequently impotent without viagra. Women don’t care about your balls, but I’m sure not coddling a date through erectile issues, which is why I date younger men. I’m sure your balls are lovely and look even younger against your shy, tired aging penis!

You’ve seen many hundreds of dicks so we must defer to your vastly greater experience about penises and their many moods...

No, just watched one age and saw how susceptible those little buggers are to the whims and vagaries of alcohol, testosterone, weight, stress etc. age matters. I get it you thought it was a real GOTCHA to infer I’m a slut because I’m force fed a thousand viagra commercials when I watch sports- but even if I was a slut, it’s clear my parts are working fine. Statistically- yours are not. I’m glad you have high right balls. I wish you had a thick hard penis- maybe you’d be off using it instead of ‘mirin on your testicles all day and making us read it. .

[Anonymous]

No, just watched one age and saw how susceptible those little buggers are to the whims and vagaries of alcohol, testosterone, weight, stress etc. age matters. I get it you thought it was a real GOTCHA to infer I’m a slut because I’m force fed a thousand viagra commercials when I watch sports- but even if I was a slut, it’s clear my parts are working fine. Statistically- yours are not. I’m glad you have high right balls. I wish you had a thick hard penis- maybe you’d be off using it instead of ‘mirin on your testicles all day and making us read it. .

The original post about this subject was:

Can anyone provide scientific support that the "sagging" noted above actually happens? For example, a link to an article in a medical journal would be considered support. However, anecdotal information (e.g., I am a healthcare provider, and I see ____ of them and can tell you this is true) is meaningless.

Specifically, the post requested scientific support for a PP's statement that men in their 50s and 60s had saggy balls. Not one person was able to provide this support, indicating that there is little to no scientific support for it. The focus was on the poster that was making a statement of "fact" that they could not support.

They should STFU unless they can support what they write, and you should as well.

You are the only one "mirin" on balls and should look into help for the anger that appears rampant in your post and likely elsewhere in your life.

[Anonymous]

I can’t comment on women in their 40’s, but I’ve been watching my best friend (currently 31, divorced in her late 20’s with a kid) try to find a stable 30-35 year old man to date and it’s slim pickings. Suffice to say she’s dating in the hopes of finding someone to commit, re-marry, and have more kids with. I feel like most men in their 30s are already happily married, unhappily married and cheating, have no intention of marrying, or are still looking but socially inept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sick of these ball obsessed guys.

Trust me, no one notices your balls when you’re frequently impotent without viagra. Women don’t care about your balls, but I’m sure not coddling a date through erectile issues, which is why I date younger men. I’m sure your balls are lovely and look even younger against your shy, tired aging penis!

You’ve seen many hundreds of dicks so we must defer to your vastly greater experience about penises and their many moods...

DP: nice attempt at slut shaming, but the fact is that by your age, your balls are more dependable than your dick. No wonder you are so fond of them!

You're assuming my age and gender. Wrong on both counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t comment on women in their 40’s, but I’ve been watching my best friend (currently 31, divorced in her late 20’s with a kid) try to find a stable 30-35 year old man to date and it’s slim pickings. Suffice to say she’s dating in the hopes of finding someone to commit, re-marry, and have more kids with. I feel like most men in their 30s are already happily married, unhappily married and cheating, have no intention of marrying, or are still looking but socially inept.

That is because she wants marriage and more kids, I think. I am the OP. I am done having kids. Also, while I would like an LTR at some point, I am not looking to remarry. Why on earth would a man 30-35 want to take on marrying and raising her kid? It is not her age. It is that she is looking for a father figure for her kid. My kids have a dad—they don’t need another.