Assumption of dating pool for divorced 40s women with kids

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure why all this saggy balls talk. I guess women haven't paid much attention to mens' anatomy? As a guy, I can tell you that when we're erect, the testes ascend up and the ballsack goes along with it. That's why some people who are worried about premature ejaculation wear cock rings -- it prevents the testes from ascending and that prevents ejaculation.

So as long as you're looking at your man's junk predominantly during sexy time, there's no way you'll see sagging since he's already up and ready for action.

[Anonymous]

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'm not sure why all this saggy balls talk

I am responding because when people misstate medical facts as a part of derogatory response, they should be called on it.

A woman can say "I do not find saggy balls attractive" as is her right. However, she should not be able to say "Old men have saggy balls" without someone asking her for proof.

BTW - I have responded strongly when men (or male posters) have misstated medical facts in posts where they attack women.

[Anonymous]

mid 40's woman divorced for 5 years. two kids 18 and 12. The 18 year old is in college. I'm not having much luck finding anyone. In my friend circle we are all divorced and the sad truth is that we have had conversations about us needing to date 65 or 70 year olds because they will still find us young and cute. I've had some hookups with guys in their 20s but nobody worth anything near my age. I'm not overweight and look good for my age.

last fall I reconnected with a nerdy guy from high school. He is also divorced but remarried. I met his wife and she is a lot younger and pretty. I pretty sure that game changed somewhere along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm a 40-something yo woman with kids, married still (but it's rocky) and I KNOW that if I get divorced, I have NO intention of dating, WHY BOTHER?

The LAST thing I need in my life EVER is another middle-aged, whiny, mental, stagnant man. I have all the kids I want so I don't want a baby daddy (and my uterus agrees so that's that). I have my own career, interests, and family.

I don't understand why any woman would even bother.

Sex. And doing fun things together. It does not have to be living together or marriage.

Easier to get a vibrator and close friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The balls are not materially different in the 50s. Even 60s.

PP here. I beg to differ. Both as a woman who dates and sees them on occasion and as a healthcare provider who sees them weekly.

Can anyone provide scientific support that the "sagging" noted above actually happens? For example, a link to an article in a medical journal would be considered support. However, anecdotal information (e.g., I am a healthcare provider, and I see ____ of them and can tell you this is true) is meaningless.

The idea that this is true for all (or most) men is similar to the notion that women who have a large number of sexual partners lose elasticity and cannot have sex.

People repeat these ideas as fact without understanding if they are true at all.

Mechanical properties of human skin in vivo: a comparative evaluation in 300 men and women. Skin Res Technol. 2014 May;20(2):127-35. doi: 10.1111/srt.12094.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23889488

There are dozens of studies just like this, but this is a good one because it looks specifically at men's aging skin and loss of elasticity.

[Anonymous]

I think that it depends what you're looking for. A woman in her 30s might be looking for someone who will settle down quickly and have (more) kids. This narrows the pool a lot.

A woman in her 40s might be free to date someone she likes without having to worry about the same kinds of committment/marriage/family issues and have a broader dating pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mechanical properties of human skin in vivo: a comparative evaluation in 300 men and women. Skin Res Technol. 2014 May;20(2):127-35. doi: 10.1111/srt.12094.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23889488

There are dozens of studies just like this, but this is a good one because it looks specifically at men's aging skin and loss of elasticity.

This study doesn't prove anything about older men's balls. It doesn't even look at balls.

"Skin mechanical properties were assessed at the cheek, neck, volar forearm and dorsum of the hand using a non-invasive suction device."

[Anonymous]

Mechanical properties of human skin in vivo: a comparative evaluation in 300 men and women. Skin Res Technol. 2014 May;20(2):127-35. doi: 10.1111/srt.12094.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23889488

There are dozens of studies just like this, but this is a good one because it looks specifically at men's aging skin and loss of elasticity.

This study doesn't prove anything about older men's balls. It doesn't even look at balls.

"Skin mechanical properties were assessed at the cheek, neck, volar forearm and dorsum of the hand using a non-invasive suction device."

The poster at 14:32 is correct. Even more telling, the study compares skin elasticity in men and women so it is useless when applied to "saggy balls."

However, points to the first poster in that the source is much better than Men's Health.

[Anonymous]

I did not expect this thread to take this particular direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm a 40-something yo woman with kids, married still (but it's rocky) and I KNOW that if I get divorced, I have NO intention of dating, WHY BOTHER?

The LAST thing I need in my life EVER is another middle-aged, whiny, mental, stagnant man. I have all the kids I want so I don't want a baby daddy (and my uterus agrees so that's that). I have my own career, interests, and family.

I don't understand why any woman would even bother.

I think I know why your husband left you....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

So what do you bring to the table?

Kids, debt, XH drama, the usual.

You forgot the yeast infection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cool. I'm 51 with several divorced friends who have met and got engaged to 50-60 y.o. divorced men they met via dating apps.

None of these men are the least bit appealing to me — distracting OCD tendencies, troubled and dramatic teens, saggy man bits-meets-financial problems, etc.

However, all of the guys *seem* decent on paper. Like if I were to describe them to you differently, it would sound like I'm making OP's point for her. (in-shape, successful architect! funny, charming professor!)

But they'd still be OCD saggy b@ll$ in the poorhouse underneath.

So what do you bring to the table?

Kids, debt, XH drama, the usual.

You forgot the yeast infection.

Thanks for the laugh, PPs. Keep up the good work!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I

'm not sure why all this saggy balls talk

I am responding because when people misstate medical facts as a part of derogatory response, they should be called on it.

A woman can say "I do not find saggy balls attractive" as is her right. However, she should not be able to say "Old men have saggy balls" without someone asking her for proof.

BTW - I have responded strongly when men (or male posters) have misstated medical facts in posts where they attack women.

I absolutely LOVE how on DCUM when a newbie woman criticized men for having saggy balls and in every case she gets totally shot down! I’ve seen it several times on here and it never fails to please.

The poster who mentioned how the balls retract has it right. I’m in late fifties and my balks are virtually identical to how they were all my life that I can remember. And if a woman is playing with them or using her mouth on them they are certainly not in any saggy zone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm a 40-something yo woman with kids, married still (but it's rocky) and I KNOW that if I get divorced, I have NO intention of dating, WHY BOTHER?

The LAST thing I need in my life EVER is another middle-aged, whiny, mental, stagnant man. I have all the kids I want so I don't want a baby daddy (and my uterus agrees so that's that). I have my own career, interests, and family.

I don't understand why any woman would even bother.

Sex. And doing fun things together. It does not have to be living together or marriage.

Easier to get a vibrator and close friends.

I’m sure you would feel better about yourself if circumstances change. And they can. Don’t give up hope. It’s amazing how one little thing can change and ones attitude changes ASAP. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not expect this thread to take this particular direction.

Old man balls are always on-topic.