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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in my early 50s, recently divorced, and have children (mid teens to early 20s).  Intelligent, financially independent, fit (BMI 18.5), a good figure, reasonably attractive, if not quite beautiful.

I have not attempted to date (and have, in fact, not been with a man other than my ex H since my early 20s) during the three year separation and divorce because my children (and me myself) are/have been my primary focus.  I have no idea where to begin, or how I will fare during a decade of life when so many women seem to become invisible.[/quote]

I am right here with you!  Am so happy to hear from another woman who's been putting family first.  I have felt that I needed to ... if I don't focus on these kids, the X obviously didn't, then what?  I am mildly interested in getting back out there, but after merging with X at age 22, it's going to be a very slow restart process.[/quote]

I'm just now restarting the dating process after "merging" in my early 20s, and similarly waited through the separation and some time after the divorce in order to focus on my kids. I definitely experienced the "These kids need someone who will put them first" emotions. I think that when I do start to date, I'll hopefully be in a better emotional place than if I'd just f*cked my way through my feelings for the past two years.

The unexpected downside is only that their father is on his maybe third or fourth relationship since leaving for a 20-something coworker and my kids are starting to get some frustrating ideas about what relationships look like, since their only model for dating is their father. [/quote]

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