I know this makes me an internet jerk but I'm so mad at the posters

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the thread about my in-laws visiting too much. I'm very sorry for your loss, but that does NOT give you the right to attack other people.

Uh, no one's attacking you. OP said:


Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sholdn't complain about what you read here. Don't you know my friend lost her sight last year and would LOVE to read all of this petty snark.
You shold be ashamed of yourself. Just let got what is bothering you about this thread because there are people out there who can't read it right now but would love to. You would miss reading this when you go blind.

Fail.

[Anonymous]

OP I am so with you. Lost the grandparents in a short & unexpected time span. The youngest grand kids never got to meet them. They were truly the most amazing grandparents and parents. I hate to be envious or compare, but the holidays are tough. There was a post the other day with someone whining about their in-laws attending every school thing. I saw that the same day my oldest was in tears bc he wanted a grandparent at a grandparent school event. I wish these posters would step back & appreciate what they have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not Op but it was a vent. She’s allowed. I had to take my mother off life support when she was 63 years old. She never met my children. So yes, having people complain about things like in-laws buying your kids too much stuff or wanting to see them too often upsets me. If you don’t understand that you lack some serious empathy.

The irony runs thick with this one. OP is complaining that other people are venting, and she (and you) don't deem those complaints to be worthy. Your response to the criticism she received is that she's entitled to vent. The same is true for the people she, and you, are complaining about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I am so with you. Lost the grandparents in a short & unexpected time span. The youngest grand kids never got to meet them. They were truly the most amazing grandparents and parents. I hate to be envious or compare, but the holidays are tough. There was a post the other day with someone whining about their in-laws attending every school thing. I saw that the same day my oldest was in tears bc he wanted a grandparent at a grandparent school event. I wish these posters would step back & appreciate what they have.

What makes you think they don't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am so with you. Lost the grandparents in a short & unexpected time span. The youngest grand kids never got to meet them. They were truly the most amazing grandparents and parents. I hate to be envious or compare, but the holidays are tough. There was a post the other day with someone whining about their in-laws attending every school thing. I saw that the same day my oldest was in tears bc he wanted a grandparent at a grandparent school event. I wish these posters would step back & appreciate what they have.

What makes you think they don't?

This is what I find puzzling too. I lost both my parents far too young, but it didn’t make me self-righteous or judgmental toward those who are lucky enough to still have good parents and in-laws in their lives. Maybe OP and the PP above are reasonable people who are temporarily disordered by grief, or maybe they are self-righteous and judgmental to start with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not Op but it was a vent. She’s allowed. I had to take my mother off life support when she was 63 years old. She never met my children. So yes, having people complain about things like in-laws buying your kids too much stuff or wanting to see them too often upsets me. If you don’t understand that you lack some serious empathy.

The irony runs thick with this one. OP is complaining that other people are venting, and she (and you) don't deem those complaints to be worthy. Your response to the criticism she received is that she's entitled to vent. The same is true for the people she, and you, are complaining about.

It's almost humble bragging to complain about grandparents wanting to spend time with the kids, buy gifts, give you money. Can't you see the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the thread about my in-laws visiting too much. I'm very sorry for your loss, but that does NOT give you the right to attack other people.

Uh, no one's attacking you. OP said:


Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

NP. It is sooooo revealing that the poster of the other thread (inlaws visiting too much) is here feeling attacked. That COMPLETELY explains her thread. I am glad I didn't post there. As soon as I read her opener I knew she had problems and those problems most definitely aren't her inlaws. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand what you're saying but I think you need to understand not everyone has the same relationship or feelings toward their parents that you do.

I am estranged from my parents and my ILs are dead. Prior to being estranged, my parents did not have good intentions. Not everyone's do. Being around them was painful and toxic. People are allowed to have those feelings as well and furthermore, can and should set boundaries. People like you often can't understand when people have these feelings toward parents or ILs. It's a very taboo topic, but it's not uncommon and it shouldn't have to be taboo on an anonymous message board. I have had so many people make me feel like something is wrong with me for having my feelings. Which I will tell you, that sucks.

So maybe don't comment on every post and realize not everyone gets great parents in life.

+ 1 ditto. People who have normal parents don’t understand the level of toxicity. All the best to you.

[Anonymous]

The most concerning part of OP's post is that she's letting DCUM people who appear to be ungrateful rob her of one second of her karma. OP just live your own life and let everyone else live theirs.

And BTW I lost my mom 10 years ago and miss her everyday.

[Anonymous]

I wish I knew what being loved by a mother felt like, and how you would be sad if she died.

[Anonymous]

Okay how about you cheerfully open your house twice a month to uninvited guests then if you're so much more generous than the rest of us. And don't forget clean towels please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay how about you cheerfully open your house twice a month to uninvited guests then if you're so much more generous than the rest of us. And don't forget clean towels please!

x1000

[Anonymous]

At this point I think that the multitude of venting about my inlaws threads have been written by one whack job (the one complaining about her inlaws wanting to attend her kids events) and like 2 or 3 minions. The repetitive aspect of their posts is getting really old. I wish they would begin group therapy so they could keep reinforcing their perceptions with themselves without bothering the rest of us with their instabilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is an asshole in someone else’s view. To the child of abusive parents, you might seem like an asshole for suggesting they should shut up and be grateful for whatever their parents give them if any particular offense didn’t seem sufficiently egregious to meet your standards.

Great straw man. That's not what OP said. At all.