I know this makes me an internet jerk but I'm so mad at the posters

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm with you. I have total sympathy for people who have really awful families and I don't mind any of the posts here. But I've lost both my parents, my siblings prefer not to spend holidays together, and things like holidays or school events that have tons of grandparents just break my heart a little bit. I think that people who have active, healthy, involved & loving grandparents in their kids' lives are just so incredibly lucky and I hope they appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

The only thing I can compare this to is when I was about 12 and we took my uncle to the ER for severe pain in his feet. Turned out he had shingles, which is known to be a horrible level of pain. My uncle has intellectual disabilities and cried from the pain. A man in a wheelchair came over and started to lecture my uncle that he should be grateful to even have feet. My Mom has gone to the bathroom and I was just 12 so I didn’t know what to do, but a woman told the man in the wheelchair that he didn’t get to complain about the absence of something that was causing someone else pain. I’ve remembered that my whole life. Just because you have a different pain doesn’t mean their pain isn’t real. I doubt you never ever found your parents frustrating when they were alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who are complaining about their parents and inlaws over nothing. NOTHING. Yes, my and DH's parents are dead and it just kills me to see, on the DCUM front page, complaints from posters because 1) parents deposit money into their bank accounts; 2) parent asks for but doesn't use lists when giving christmas presents; 3) parents want to attend their kids' functions too much -- and it goes on and on and on. I know it's rude and stupid but I want to respond to each and every one of them - Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

WAAAH! I just to want to have a big cry and I miss my parents so much, especially around the holidays. They would have loved my kids so much if they'd had the chance to meet them. Ok. Rant over. Carry on. Thank you.

Just be happy that you aren't so wretched you are unable to be grateful. These same people will be hated by their own grown children. That's the price they will pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. It is super frustrating. The thing I've come to realize is that most of those types of threads are begun by and continued by people who are pretty immature and narcissistic. Most of the OPs and a lot of the respondents need therapy because there is something wrong with them. I myself have taken a break from this forum because of the same reasons. Frankly the only reason I'm monitoring is to keep tabs on a relative who posts here a lot and on a few other forums. But I do always feel like I'm wading through a lot of much and yuck. Anyway, I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Others feel the way you do. Hugs.

Hmm. I'd say that these type of threads are started by all kinds of people. Some I'd agree are immature and clueless, but the majority are not. There are a lot of thoughtful and/or hysterically funny ones. If I were you, or OP, I'd be wondering why I was always judging and dismissing other posters and never able to find the humor or humanity in any of the posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:who are complaining about their parents and inlaws over nothing. NOTHING. Yes, my and DH's parents are dead and it just kills me to see, on the DCUM front page, complaints from posters because 1) parents deposit money into their bank accounts; 2) parent asks for but doesn't use lists when giving christmas presents; 3) parents want to attend their kids' functions too much -- and it goes on and on and on. I know it's rude and stupid but I want to respond to each and every one of them - Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

WAAAH! I just to want to have a big cry and I miss my parents so much, especially around the holidays. They would have loved my kids so much if they'd had the chance to meet them. Ok. Rant over. Carry on. Thank you.

Just be happy that you aren't so wretched you are unable to be grateful. These same people will be hated by their own grown children. That's the price they will pay.

Often, it doesn't work that way. Even if that is too galling for you to admit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who are complaining about their parents and inlaws over nothing. NOTHING. Yes, my and DH's parents are dead and it just kills me to see, on the DCUM front page, complaints from posters because 1) parents deposit money into their bank accounts; 2) parent asks for but doesn't use lists when giving christmas presents; 3) parents want to attend their kids' functions too much -- and it goes on and on and on. I know it's rude and stupid but I want to respond to each and every one of them - Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

WAAAH! I just to want to have a big cry and I miss my parents so much, especially around the holidays. They would have loved my kids so much if they'd had the chance to meet them. Ok. Rant over. Carry on. Thank you.

I am in complete agreement with you OP-- and thankfully my parents are still alive-- but who knows for how long. And I thank you for posting this. It is a wake up call for all of us to appreciate what we have. You sound like a wonderful human being.

[Anonymous]

Ok, so by OPs logic any parent here who has a sh!t day with their kids can't say a word or say how hard parenting is sometimes because some people don't have kids or some people's children have died.
Listen, I get it. We should all be more thankful and appreciative of what is in our lives but the reality is life can suck sometimes.
My job can make me want to throat punch someone. I can feel that way even though someone else is unemployed.
I can be pissed that my mom steamrolls everything everytime she visits even though by BFF lost her mom 2 years ago.
I can drained and tired from being with my kids all weekend even though my sister doesn't have any.
I can annoyed that DH constantly eats the last piece of bread but NEVER puts it on the list even though my parents are divorced.
I can hate that i have to clean my house even though some are homeless.

People don't have to LOVE OMG LOVE every damn thing in their lives just because someone else may not have that experience or thing to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so by OPs logic any parent here who has a sh!t day with their kids can't say a word or say how hard parenting is sometimes because some people don't have kids or some people's children have died.
Listen, I get it. We should all be more thankful and appreciative of what is in our lives but the reality is life can suck sometimes.
My job can make me want to throat punch someone. I can feel that way even though someone else is unemployed.
I can be pissed that my mom steamrolls everything everytime she visits even though by BFF lost her mom 2 years ago.
I can drained and tired from being with my kids all weekend even though my sister doesn't have any.
I can annoyed that DH constantly eats the last piece of bread but NEVER puts it on the list even though my parents are divorced.
I can hate that i have to clean my house even though some are homeless.

People don't have to LOVE OMG LOVE every damn thing in their lives just because someone else may not have that experience or thing to complain about.

It's the holiday, OP is obviously having a mental breakdown. Nobody is this stupid and lacking in empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I can compare this to is when I was about 12 and we took my uncle to the ER for severe pain in his feet. Turned out he had shingles, which is known to be a horrible level of pain. My uncle has intellectual disabilities and cried from the pain. A man in a wheelchair came over and started to lecture my uncle that he should be grateful to even have feet. My Mom has gone to the bathroom and I was just 12 so I didn’t know what to do, but a woman told the man in the wheelchair that he didn’t get to complain about the absence of something that was causing someone else pain. I’ve remembered that my whole life. Just because you have a different pain doesn’t mean their pain isn’t real. I doubt you never ever found your parents frustrating when they were alive.

PP, you have completely missed OP’s point.

Her/his point is that no matter how annoying your family is, one day they will be gone and you will miss them. So instead of constantly complaining about them, try to overlook their faults and enjoy them while you still can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:who are complaining about their parents and inlaws over nothing. NOTHING. Yes, my and DH's parents are dead and it just kills me to see, on the DCUM front page, complaints from posters because 1) parents deposit money into their bank accounts; 2) parent asks for but doesn't use lists when giving christmas presents; 3) parents want to attend their kids' functions too much -- and it goes on and on and on. I know it's rude and stupid but I want to respond to each and every one of them - Don't you realize how precious this is? Don't you see how how lucky your kids are? Can't you appreciate them for their good intentions even when accompanied by clumsy execution? Don't you know they'll be gone too soon? Can't you, if nothing else, at least appreciate that they put your spouse into the world?

WAAAH! I just to want to have a big cry and I miss my parents so much, especially around the holidays. They would have loved my kids so much if they'd had the chance to meet them. Ok. Rant over. Carry on. Thank you.

Just be happy that you aren't so wretched you are unable to be grateful. These same people will be hated by their own grown children. That's the price they will pay.

Really? Because I grumble that my mother refuses to shop from the Christmas list sherequested, I am ungrateful, and will eventually be hated by my adult children?

OK.

You seem well-adjusted, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I can compare this to is when I was about 12 and we took my uncle to the ER for severe pain in his feet. Turned out he had shingles, which is known to be a horrible level of pain. My uncle has intellectual disabilities and cried from the pain. A man in a wheelchair came over and started to lecture my uncle that he should be grateful to even have feet. My Mom has gone to the bathroom and I was just 12 so I didn’t know what to do, but a woman told the man in the wheelchair that he didn’t get to complain about the absence of something that was causing someone else pain. I’ve remembered that my whole life. Just because you have a different pain doesn’t mean their pain isn’t real. I doubt you never ever found your parents frustrating when they were alive.

PP, you have completely missed OP’s point.

Her/his point is that no matter how annoying your family is, one day they will be gone and you will miss them. So instead of constantly complaining about them, try to overlook their faults and enjoy them while you still can.

And your missing the point that many can’t wait until they are gone and no longer an issue in their life.

[Anonymous]

Especially that lady bitching about her MIL sending out a Christmas card with her family's pictures on it.

She deserves a punch in the head.

[Anonymous]

Again, OP is not upset about the heavy, real shit. She's upset by the minor bullshit posts.

- extra money in your account
- your MIL drinking flavored water without asking
- Grandparents showing up at every play or sporting event

Little things that make life are complaints on DCUM. It's mind boggling.

I say this level headedly, knowing some people really get dealt super shitty, abusive situations. She's not talking about heavy things. Every day irritations should be forgiven.

[Anonymous]

Oh come on. People get divorced over not putting socks in the hamper and toothpaste caps off. It is the million little things that kill us

[Anonymous]

People are allowed to vent about what they want to OP. A vent is just a vent. They don’t have to think about every sad scenario before they vent.