Mixed-collar dating

[Anonymous]

I'm married to a public works guy. He's awesome and we love each other a lot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to a public works guy. He's awesome and we love each other a lot.

Fascinating. Are you a housekeeper?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

My Dad's best friend was an Emergency Room Physician and then Head of Hospital. When Dr. J. retired he would go to Sanibel and rent a condo for 8 weeks. A plumber
and his family owned 4 units in the complex. Dr. J. jokingly said he should have been a plumber as the plumber could afford to buy 4 units but Dr. J could only
afford to rent a unit for 8 weeks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

Life can pass you by while you are looking for a man with the perfect credentials.

+1

TRUTH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love this post. I have no degree and I'm blue collar all the way and proud of it. I've fired more guys who hold degrees and can't do the job than guys who never went to college and now make 6 figures.

+1.

I love this post too. DH and I both grew up blue collar and are now white white collar professionals. We have lots of successful blue collar friends and frankly they are all very happy- happier than our white collar friends in most cases. Many own their own businesses. Not sure what our boys will want to do (they are just preteens) but We’d support a blue collar career 100% if that is what they want.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a Phd in finance and am a CPA. I'm a partner in a big 4 accounting firm. DH is in construction and does not have a degree.

What makes it work is that we both respect each other. Even though I am book smart, he has more common sense than me. I take care of household finances and the attention to detail stuff, he takes care of the big picture stuff. ie, we talk about retirement....he figures out where we will live and then it's my job to plan for the finances for it.

It also helps significantly that we grew up in similar neighborhoods, attended similar schools, have the same morals, values, and ethics. We don't argue about the big stuff--how to raise the kids, money, religion, or family. We don't argue because individually we both feel the same way about the big stuff.

My brother earns $24K in rural Vermont. When I suggested to DH that we help him pay for my nephew to attend a study abroad program, the response was "of course". There was no discussion, no resentment...it just wasn't an issue. Going into the conversation, I knew what the answer was going to be, but because I respect our marriage, it was my responsibility to ask before sending a check.

Its less about the education or the type of job and more about how you view the important things in life.

x a million

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure what he does but blue collar guys can make great incomes, just so people know.

My stepdad (general contractor, no college degree) makes more than most doctors etc. I don’t think is terribly unusual actually.

Also mechanics, electricians, plumbers can do REALLY well.

Just thought I’d mention, because people often do not realize this.

The people I know who have married across “collars” are all happy, as far as I know.

It does not matter if the blue collar makes decent money. You still will be living the blue collar lifestyle. Hard no.

WTF does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: If you find a good man you love, it doesn't matter. There are lazy jerks at every education level and profession. You could find someone with a better job who is financially irresponsible or is a cheater. I'd take blue collar over that any day.

+1

Well said. The ignorance here is incredible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

Life can pass you by while you are looking for a man with the perfect credentials.

+1

TRUTH.

Question: What type of men is a woman who never married and never had children dating when the woman is 38-39?
Answer: Divorced man with several kids.

Life can pass you by when you are looking for the perfect man. I've known several beautiful women who were highly educated who honestly were too picky.
They did not want to date blue collar, they would not date bald men etc. They end up being lonely or with a guy with a lot of kids.

[Anonymous]

Some of the blue collar jobs make a lot more than you think.

Dad is a CPA. He was surprised that tug boat captains
on the rivers that feed the Chesapeake supervising tugboats that push grain barges and gravel barges make around $200,000. The tugboat captains have good hours too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

Not PP, but I literally would not care. Why do you care so much what other people think?