Mixed-collar dating

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I’m an Ivy MBA and my husband has one year of junior college and every day he goes to work in jeans and a blue denim shirt. But he has built a $250 million construction company that he owns entirely and he will only wear a tie at weddings and maybe funerals. He is also a non stop reader and student of many subjects and has just started taking piano lessons because he hates that he has no artistic talent. Last night at dinner with friends he led an amazing conversation about the American Revolution. Collar color doesn’t always translate into what’s important.

[Anonymous]

Oh yes! My husband has own company and makes upper 6 figures. I’m a nanny! I don’t have to work but I love my job. We have been married for 10 years with 3 kids

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a lawyer and my husband in a cop. It works beautifully for us. I admire what he does, and he is very good at it. I don’t think any less of him for having a blue collar job—I respect him very much for it.

most cops i know are cheaters.....will chase any skirt.

Oh please...and lawyers, and cpa's and surgeons and other white collar professionals are immune to cheating. You're ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

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Don't do it

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

I don’t think most of these people understand that most of the truly successful financially elite started off in the blue-collar world. How many times have you heard of some old guy who started off porn concrete and ended up owning his own paving company that builds highways and such? I know of one man who started off as a simple painter and when he died his wife inherited over $500 million. Well those are the extreme cases they are not at all uncommon. And today’s business owners started off as much the same as well. Welders who eventually bought their own truck and then a fleet of welding trucks and a welding shop. In the end they had other people going out doing the jobs and they supervised the work, take care of advertising, payroll and finances, marketing and business leads.
I think the true issue here is that people don’t really understand what blue versus white color is. I think that they have an image of a white-collar worker that is not remotely footed in reality. I would venture to guess that most white-collar workers are actually less happy and make less money than many blue-collar workers. I also think what these women are looking for is more of an image that they are trying to fit into than anything else. Sorry, but they grew up watching sex and the city a little too much

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

I don’t think most of these people understand that most of the truly successful financially elite started off in the blue-collar world. How many times have you heard of some old guy who started off porn concrete and ended up owning his own paving company that builds highways and such? I know of one man who started off as a simple painter and when he died his wife inherited over $500 million. Well those are the extreme cases they are not at all uncommon. And today’s business owners started off as much the same as well. Welders who eventually bought their own truck and then a fleet of welding trucks and a welding shop. In the end they had other people going out doing the jobs and they supervised the work, take care of advertising, payroll and finances, marketing and business leads.
I think the true issue here is that people don’t really understand what blue versus white color is. I think that they have an image of a white-collar worker that is not remotely footed in reality. I would venture to guess that most white-collar workers are actually less happy and make less money than many blue-collar workers. I also think what these women are looking for is more of an image that they are trying to fit into than anything else. Sorry, but they grew up watching sex and the city a little too much

By the way, please excuse the bad spelling, voice to text on my cell phone sucks

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Anonymous wrote:I’m in a marriage like this. Sometimes it is annoying but I don’t regret it. It became more of an issue when kids arrived. When you become a parent you want to pass down your values to your kids. At that time it became apparent DH and I didn’t want to pass down the same values at times. It’s a struggle but we make it work. I would suggest not taking any of your values for granted and assuming they are shared.

+1 I came here to say this. Would you be disappointed if your kids decided to skip college?

I also agree that if you divorced, you might be angry. Imagine delivering the baby, nursing the baby, pumping at work, then owing him child support if you divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

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Yes,but those odds aren’t great. Out of 201 people, one got rich.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

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Yes,but those odds aren’t great. Out of 201 people, one got rich.

I’m not sure you understand what a plumber is. Most of those 200 employees aren’t plumbers put are apprentices and other tradesmen. He probably does employee a few plumbers but I would be willing to guess that they make a very respectable income. Kind of funny, you claim to be white class that you know very little about industry or business apparently Maybe you aren’t quite what do you think you are

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

Not PP, but I literally would not care. Why do you care so much what other people think?

It used to be that "work" was valued in our society and a man who had a job and supported his family was respected in our society.
To the person who is snooty.....wait until your pipes burst in your front yard...who do you call? Or wait until Christmas day when you have plumbing issues in your
house with 10 people visiting....who do you call?

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

And what level is that?

The level of gross blue collar loser.

Seriously, how could you even take him anywhere? What are you going to say when people ask "so what do you do, ______ ?" And he says "I"m a plumber. I fix toilets" ... what are you going to do then?

The horror! A man who gets dirt under his fingernails: what would the servants think?

They would probably wonder why I was lowering myself to someone in their station.

Plumbers make crazy money.

I actually have no idea what plumbers make, but I DO know they don't make "crazy money"... whatever that is. Because if they did, a lot more men who are professionals (lawyers, finance, etc) would instead be plumbers.

So obviously they don't make much.

But just out of sheer morbid curiosity, what DO you think plumbers earn?

Depends on the plumber and how much drive they have.
I have a friend who is a lowly blue collar electrician. That’s about the same as being a plumber, income wise. He has a lot of drive and I’d guess he makes close to a million dollars a year. He started his own electrical construction firm and has about 200 employees.
Most successful contractors carried the tools at one time. And the money they can make can indeed be crazy.

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Yes,but those odds aren’t great. Out of 201 people, one got rich.

I’m not sure you understand what a plumber is. Most of those 200 employees aren’t plumbers put are apprentices and other tradesmen. He probably does employee a few plumbers but I would be willing to guess that they make a very respectable income. Kind of funny, you claim to be white class that you know very little about industry or business apparently Maybe you aren’t quite what do you think you are

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I’d stop trying to explain yourself- many people on this board have no understanding of “blue collar” business and have no incentive to learn, either. For those who do understand- it requires no explanation.

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My friend and her (HS educated only) started a PORTA POTTY business. They make at least double what my DH and I make (doctorate and MBA- and both in high paying fields)

People have no clue.

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Advanced degree in what? Context matters.