People who have a high number of sexual partners

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't marry a girl over 5 and I wouldn't date a girl over 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't marry a girl over 5 and I wouldn't date a girl over 10.

And so a "girl" you will get. Have fun, brah.

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Anonymous wrote:What if it was the reverse and a shockingly low number for someone over 30? What would you think?

Red flag.

I played a club sport in college and we traveled 4-5 weekends per semester to other schools. It was a great experience. Woman looking forma fun night without risking reputation were often much more willing partners with a guy they didn't have to worry about spreading 1 night stand rumors around campus. It was always nice to find a bed to crash in. I'm sure those weren't counted in their numbers.

[Anonymous]

I'm a lesbian and I've found that we tend to have high numbers like this. I mean, we don't have to worry about pregnancy so we just tend to screw ASAP and often.

I married at 25 and before I met my wife, I had been with 33 women. In comparison, my straight sister had only been with 6 at that age. We both started having sex when we were 17.

I know when my straight female friends and I do talk about numbers, theirs are much lower than mine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if it was the reverse and a shockingly low number for someone over 30? What would you think?

Red flag.

I played a club sport in college and we traveled 4-5 weekends per semester to other schools. It was a great experience. Woman looking forma fun night without risking reputation were often much more willing partners with a guy they didn't have to worry about spreading 1 night stand rumors around campus. It was always nice to find a bed to crash in. I'm sure those weren't counted in their numbers.

Red Flag? As someone with a low number, it is simply a matter of being picking... There is no reason to sleep with everyone in town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't marry a girl over 5 and I wouldn't date a girl over 10.

And so a "girl" you will get. Have fun, brah.

Hahahahaha! Who even asks potential mates these kind of questions?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if it was the reverse and a shockingly low number for someone over 30? What would you think?

Red flag.

I played a club sport in college and we traveled 4-5 weekends per semester to other schools. It was a great experience. Woman looking forma fun night without risking reputation were often much more willing partners with a guy they didn't have to worry about spreading 1 night stand rumors around campus. It was always nice to find a bed to crash in. I'm sure those weren't counted in their numbers.

I played club tennis in college and the above is very true. We’d arrive on a Friday afternoon and have to behave that night but there were always big organized parties on Saturday nights and the host schools women were just a ton of fun. We were all decent looking and fit but we were not going to tarnish anyone’s reputation after a ONS. We were all happy participants so if they bad me bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't marry a girl over 5 and I wouldn't date a girl over 10.

And so a "girl" you will get. Have fun, brah.

Hahahahaha! Who even asks potential mates these kind of questions?

Even beyond who is asking, I'm not sure why it matters so much. If the person has a clean bill of health not sure what difference it makes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't marry a girl over 5 and I wouldn't date a girl over 10.

And so a "girl" you will get. Have fun, brah.

Hahahahaha! Who even asks potential mates these kind of questions?

Even beyond who is asking, I'm not sure why it matters so much. If the person has a clean bill of health not sure what difference it makes.

Have you read through the thread?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if it was the reverse and a shockingly low number for someone over 30? What would you think?

Red flag.

I played a club sport in college and we traveled 4-5 weekends per semester to other schools. It was a great experience. Woman looking forma fun night without risking reputation were often much more willing partners with a guy they didn't have to worry about spreading 1 night stand rumors around campus. It was always nice to find a bed to crash in. I'm sure those weren't counted in their numbers.

I played club tennis in college and the above is very true. We’d arrive on a Friday afternoon and have to behave that night but there were always big organized parties on Saturday nights and the host schools women were just a ton of fun. We were all decent looking and fit but we were not going to tarnish anyone’s reputation after a ONS. We were all happy participants so if they bad me bad.

I remember being in college when a group of women from a small college in PA were at our school for an event I can’t recall. They came to a big party in our dorm and it was clear they were ready for “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.” I still remember her name and it was 30+ years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:It was 1 before college and 3 at end of first year. I lost count in year 2 & 3, but was probably around 30 combined for both years. Most of my friends also had a similar number in years 2&3. Way down in year 4 and afterwards.

DH would be shocked if he knew.

Why would DH be shocked? I assume my wife had a similar experience even though she claims a lower #. I had tons of fun in college with girls like you!

He is under the impression that I had been with very few men before him. I did not talk anything about this, but I may acted a bit too virginal when we are together the first time.

What does it say about your relationship -- and you character -- that you are so gleeful about his lack of knowledge on this subject?

It's scary because many women tend to downplay or omit that from their spouse. Most decent men do not want a LTR with good time Jane.

In this case it's even worse. She's happy about it -- presumably she feels good about "pulling one over" on her partner. That speaks to their relationship and her character. She probably has kids, which means these kids are going to consciously or unconsciously pick up on these unhealthy relationship dynamics. So I don't care in the sense that I have a great relationship with my spouse so what some random internet stranger is up to is no skin off my back, but I do care insofar as these attitudes flow through society and contaminate my kids' dating pool. I am equally concerned about unethical men as well as I have both sons and daughters.

DH is very conservative and religious. He wanted to wait when we first started dating and only slept after we were engaged. By that time I realized how much importance he placed on saving oneself for marriage. I fell in love with him.

I do not know what purpose it would have served to let him know that the person he fell in love with had maybe 40 partners. It took nearly 3 years into our marriage for him to be come even close to bringing me to satisfaction in bed. He honestly used to think that a girl would be able to finish off in 1-2 minutes.

It actually helped that I had a lot of experience, else it would have created needless friction in bedroom. I understood how inexperienced he was and as unsatisfying and frustrated it was in the bedroom, I loved him and worked on it until he was now a really good lover.

Judge away...

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Anonymous wrote:It was 1 before college and 3 at end of first year. I lost count in year 2 & 3, but was probably around 30 combined for both years. Most of my friends also had a similar number in years 2&3. Way down in year 4 and afterwards.

DH would be shocked if he knew.

Why would DH be shocked? I assume my wife had a similar experience even though she claims a lower #. I had tons of fun in college with girls like you!

He is under the impression that I had been with very few men before him. I did not talk anything about this, but I may acted a bit too virginal when we are together the first time.

What does it say about your relationship -- and you character -- that you are so gleeful about his lack of knowledge on this subject?

It's scary because many women tend to downplay or omit that from their spouse. Most decent men do not want a LTR with good time Jane.

In this case it's even worse. She's happy about it -- presumably she feels good about "pulling one over" on her partner. That speaks to their relationship and her character. She probably has kids, which means these kids are going to consciously or unconsciously pick up on these unhealthy relationship dynamics. So I don't care in the sense that I have a great relationship with my spouse so what some random internet stranger is up to is no skin off my back, but I do care insofar as these attitudes flow through society and contaminate my kids' dating pool. I am equally concerned about unethical men as well as I have both sons and daughters.

DH is very conservative and religious. He wanted to wait when we first started dating and only slept after we were engaged. By that time I realized how much importance he placed on saving oneself for marriage. I fell in love with him.

I do not know what purpose it would have served to let him know that the person he fell in love with had maybe 40 partners. It took nearly 3 years into our marriage for him to be come even close to bringing me to satisfaction in bed. He honestly used to think that a girl would be able to finish off in 1-2 minutes.

It actually helped that I had a lot of experience, else it would have created needless friction in bedroom. I understood how inexperienced he was and as unsatisfying and frustrated it was in the bedroom, I loved him and worked on it until he was now a really good lover.

Judge away...

Three years? Maybe he needed a better teacher! But I’m glad it’s worked out.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably have lower ability to pair bond and form deeper emotional connections. Probably also more likely to cheat.

My partner and I both have a “high” number and we’re still completely bonded and connected. Probably because our relationship isn’t built on sex.

Exception/ rule and all that. Keep patting yourself on the back though, Jane.

I've had a high number. Was married 20 years the first time and just got married again. I've never cheated.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably have lower ability to pair bond and form deeper emotional connections. Probably also more likely to cheat.

My partner and I both have a “high” number and we’re still completely bonded and connected. Probably because our relationship isn’t built on sex.

Exception/ rule and all that. Keep patting yourself on the back though, Jane.

I've had a high number. Was married 20 years the first time and just got married again. I've never cheated.

Any more anecdotes for us?

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Anonymous wrote:Probably have lower ability to pair bond and form deeper emotional connections. Probably also more likely to cheat.

My partner and I both have a “high” number and we’re still completely bonded and connected. Probably because our relationship isn’t built on sex.

Exception/ rule and all that. Keep patting yourself on the back though, Jane.

I've had a high number. Was married 20 years the first time and just got married again. I've never cheated.

Any more anecdotes for us?

How is that an anecdotes. I don't think I was unusual.