What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?

[Anonymous]

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Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

Many women are saying they don’t believe there are benefits of remarriage to a woman and you’re telling them that they’re wrong. I don’t understand whether you’re not reading these posts or you’re just want to tell women what they should believe.

[Anonymous]

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Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Statistically married men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know.

But married women live shorter, less healthy lives than their single counterparts.

I think the title should be what do women get out of it. Men I understand. Women are less clear to me.

Women used to get shelter, food, security in exchange for childbearing, independence. Now that everbing is an equal partnership? Women get he short end of the stick.

All things being equal
We both make $X
We both have degrees
We both want children

Unless we are adopting ...
Only ONE of us has the physical impairment of pregnancy for an entire year, sometimes two. Not to mention another 12 months offering a milky boob on demand. Then parenting defaults to us because kids prefer mom very often. It’s not equal. It’s at least 90 measurable days out of the workforce where we cannot produce income easily and contribute to 401k, make career moves, etc.

Yet. Everyone leverages something and brings something to the table, each relationship is different.

But in the old days, married women lived even shorter lives on average. The fact is in pure life expectancy, marriage strongly benefits men but seems to harm women. Being an older single woman is typically a marker of longer life expectancy, while the opposite.is true for men.

Quite frankly I don't really get what most women get out of marriage if those women have the ability to work themselves. On a personal note, certainly the divorced women in their 50s/60s with good jobs seem the happiest of my various circles.

Well first off women always have out lived men. It’s because men did jobs that were dangerous- construction, drivers, farm work, factor work, wars and they died in higher numbers vs women. Secondly many women marry and take easy, less stressful jobs. They work part time, volunteering or take jobs they want because the husband works a job he has too.

That doesn't explain why married women consistently in studies have shorter lives and worse health than their single counterparts.

And the opposite is true if married men. Married Ben live longer than single men. Married women live shorter lives. Men are clearly the winners in marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

+1

I don't honestly get what women get out of marriage.

[Anonymous]

LOL, one of my closest friends and I are the two guys who were told we would never settle down and if we did, would try to find a way out of it. Both of us are now in marriages that have lasted over 30 years. He is actually an actor who has had small parts in both movies and a soap opera so clasically good looking.

Why are both of us in successful marriages? Maybe because we dated enough to know that quality women are rare and if you find one, work to make it last? In terms of marriage being a bad deal for women, we both work hard at being attentive husbands and fathers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

+1

I don't honestly get what women get out of marriage.

+1. Another person who agrees. What do women gain in a remarriage if she’s financially independent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

Marriage to a partner that you are absolutely in love with is a great deal for a woman with an education and great career. For women with options, it doesn't make sense to have less than a partnership-type marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was single for most of his life. He had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. Now he gets regular sex and BJs with children that love him. Not everyone is miserable in marriage.

Funniest comment ever!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

Ha, exactly. Marriage is by far a shit deal for women who have a career. I make twice as much as my husband. I don’t need him for security.

[Anonymous]

Marriage is by far a shit deal for women who have a career. I make twice as much as my husband.

And how common is your situation exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both DH and I are in a high risk/high reward field. Surprised no one else counts hedging salary as a benefit. There have been years he kept us afloat and years that I have.

+1 I am in software sales and DH is a professor. I make more money than him but we both love how stable his job is compared to mine.

[Anonymous]

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Marriage is by far a shit deal for women who have a career. I make twice as much as my husband.

And how common is your situation exactly?

More common than you think. Most of my female friends make the same amount if not more than their husbands. Believe it when I say we are not married out of some desperation as you’d like to believe.

[Anonymous]

I think men need women to give meaning to their lives. They need this in a way women can’t fully comprehend. Obviously being married to a selfish, unloving woman isn’t beneficial though.

[Anonymous]

Family, stability, all that good stuff... in the end, though, a single man over 50 is worse off than any single woman of any age. Women can pull off being alone well into their senior years. We generally do a good job forging social connections through a variety of ways... church, work, adult ed classes, meeting friends for dinner, volunteering... old lonely men...? Not so much. If they don’t have children and grandchildren they get labeled as odd, inept, or when they try to find new friends or a female companion, creepy.

So for men, being on a relationship has other benefits not the least a sort of social protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think men need women to give meaning to their lives. They need this in a way women can’t fully comprehend. Obviously being married to a selfish, unloving woman isn’t beneficial though.

LMAO exactly backward as you would expect from an obviously female PP.

Women need men to give meaning to their lives. Men are perfectly happy without women. That's among the reasons women have to resort to shaming men who choose to live by themselves as incels, losers, and "you're going to die a lonely old man!"